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Most who have read my posts here in the Relationships area know I have been married for 14 years to a woman who has virtually no sex desire. Therefore I get it about three or four times a year.
Enter a woman I have known for over 20 years. We worked together back in the early 90's in a professional way and then went our separate ways. We have reconnected via social media. She is almost 40 and single.
Right now she has been dealing with some very serious health issues related to a car crash from last year. We text every day in some form and we have talked on the phone many times (Usually when I am on the road running errands or working).
I have vented about my frustrations and she has revealed alot of her inner issues as well. Two marriages, one to a druggie and the other to a wife beater.
Long story short, yesterday she tells me that she wishes I was not married and that we could be together.
Here is what I know; financially it would be very difficult to divorce.
Difficult, but not impossible.
Wife has stuck with me through some very difficult personal times.
Wife would literally have no one if I was not there.
If I divorce, my stress level of nagging about my weight would drop. Nagging in general would go down.
My sex life would definitely improve and my personal level of happiness would probably improve as well.
I find I am thinking about this though nothing would happen until next year due to her needing further treatment.
The question, is a lack of sex a reason to get a divorce? Also, I am wondering how much of her thinking is influenced by the pain meds she is on?
And no, we have never had sex.
All comments welcome.
Enter a woman I have known for over 20 years. We worked together back in the early 90's in a professional way and then went our separate ways. We have reconnected via social media. She is almost 40 and single.
Right now she has been dealing with some very serious health issues related to a car crash from last year. We text every day in some form and we have talked on the phone many times (Usually when I am on the road running errands or working).
I have vented about my frustrations and she has revealed alot of her inner issues as well. Two marriages, one to a druggie and the other to a wife beater.
Long story short, yesterday she tells me that she wishes I was not married and that we could be together.
Here is what I know; financially it would be very difficult to divorce.
Difficult, but not impossible.
Wife has stuck with me through some very difficult personal times.
Wife would literally have no one if I was not there.
If I divorce, my stress level of nagging about my weight would drop. Nagging in general would go down.
My sex life would definitely improve and my personal level of happiness would probably improve as well.
I find I am thinking about this though nothing would happen until next year due to her needing further treatment.
The question, is a lack of sex a reason to get a divorce? Also, I am wondering how much of her thinking is influenced by the pain meds she is on?
And no, we have never had sex.
All comments welcome.