My girlfriend and I have been together for a little under 3 years now. Throughout this entire relationship she has never once saw my point of view, let me win an argument, etc. For a long time I figured thats just how it was supposed to be from the jokes I've heard comedians tell. A lot of times the debates or arguments were small enough that I didn't really care if she saw my point of view or not, so I did the male thing and let her think that she won. Also I realize now that this was not a good way to build a healthy relationship, but lets not debate that. The point of my question is merely to see if I have a legitimate point, or if I'm going overboard. About a month ago we were having some problems and ultimately decided to take a step backward. We didn't break up, we just decided to maybe hang out a little less. We agreed that we were still together and not seeing other people or anything. So she hangs out with this guy friend, who she knew from years back in high school but they never really hung out till last month. After a few nights hanging out, and also having heard of our situation from my gf...this guy puts some moves on her and kissed her one night. She of course backed off and told him that she wasn't interested, but he tried again. She told me right away, not keeping it secret or anything and of course at the time I was upset that this guy tried to take advantage of my GF at a time when our relationship was on the rocks. So now its my GFs birthday, were back together and things are fine. She wants to invite some people to a party, including this guy Albert whom she forgave for his actions a month before. She tells me that she is inviting him and I get very mad, because its been less than a month and I haven't completely gotten over this. Well I had, but she expects me to sit in the same room with this puny kid who I've never met and figured would never have to meet the BF of the girl he tried to take advantage of. So I asked, I didn't demand or anything...I asked her "Could you please not invite Albert (Afore mentioned puny punk), you know I have a problem with him..could you just understand how I feel and invite anyone you want except him. Anytime I make any sort of request she counters with "You never understand my feelings". I know you guys don't know her, but she is a very self-centered individual who is incapable of realizing that she lacks the ability to understand other people's feelings. She is Chinese, her family consisting for a mother, father and brother are basically loners. They all yell at each other and I don't think ever show love to each other, its very sad actually. But she was raised in that kind of way and that made it where she only thinks about herself. When I ASKED her, I realize that she does have the right to invite this guy regardless of how I feel. Which I why I am asking her with a legitimate reason to please not invite him. However, she interprets what I say as a demand and becomes defensive. Saying that I don't care how she feels, its her birthday and she'll do what she wants to, do what she wants to. As I saw it she basically had these 3 options to choose from... A) Disregard my feelings and invite the friend anyway B) Understand my point of view (For a rare change), and realize that she'd like to have her friend there but he would cause issues with her boyfriend that she loves or... C) Uninvite the friend while at the same time disregarding my feelings completely and hanging over my head the fact I DEMANDED that uninvite this guy. She of course went with C, which ultimately annoys me more. The friend issue is insignificant to the fact that she continues to lack the ability to understand another person's point of view. I would almost prefer she choose A over C, choosing friendship rather than blackmailing me with this situation. I know you guys are thinking this argument is pety and stupid, and a few months from now I'm certain I'll look back on it and realize it was. But right now its really upsetting and annoying me at the same time. I do love this girl, otherwise I wouldn't put up with nonsense like this. Any opinions on my juvenile problems?