So here's the deal, I've bottomed once and he didn't know what he was doing regarding easing it in and being gentle for the first little bit, and he was black and quite large so it wasn't really a good experience. But I absolutely love anal stimulation via fingers during oral and I have a vibe too (which feels amazing). Does any one else suffer through this or currently of this? And has anyone gone from this state I'm in, to finding a good top who knew what he was doing and learned to love anal?