I'm about to rant so if you're not in the mood, please don't read on.
I am an immigrant from another country but I moved to the United States at a young age, so I speak English fluently and unless maybe you see my name, you'd never pick me out as being an immigrant. I stayed with the same uncommon/foreign name that I was born with. When I went to the citizenship office in order to finally become a citizen, I was interviewed by some girl, maybe 5 years older than me, that seemed pretty jaded/bitter that day. She asked me a series of questions, including if I wanted to legally change my name. I assume they ask everyone this when becoming a citizen and I said no. "You sure?", she asked. Thinking back retrospectively, it seemed like she asked it sarcastically, or with a vague attempt to offend out of her own personal pleasure...I mean, why else would she ask twice, you know? I didn't say anything (or really think about it) afterwards but thinking back now, it just seems extremely rude and it really offended me.
I don't want to share my name here due to privacy reasons, but several times in my life has someone responded negatively in my face to my name. It's a name that is really only odd in America and not at all in other countries. I remember one in response in particular by an acquaintance's white trash mother: "(My name)? Your momma must have not loved you". I know there have been similar reactions when someone tells another person my name while I'm not present. I do have to admit that I've also gotten positive feedback whether or not I was there to hear it "Wow, (My name)? That's a cool name", but still, the negative still leaves me self-conscious in settings where I have to meet people or introduce myself.
I'm not sure what gives people the impression that judging someone for having an odd name is any different from judging someone for having an oddly shaped nose, or something like that. It seems people are really ballsy or really stupid and ignorant to things that might offend others. Anyways, I'm wondering if anyone else has had similiar experiences with having an uncommon name.
I am an immigrant from another country but I moved to the United States at a young age, so I speak English fluently and unless maybe you see my name, you'd never pick me out as being an immigrant. I stayed with the same uncommon/foreign name that I was born with. When I went to the citizenship office in order to finally become a citizen, I was interviewed by some girl, maybe 5 years older than me, that seemed pretty jaded/bitter that day. She asked me a series of questions, including if I wanted to legally change my name. I assume they ask everyone this when becoming a citizen and I said no. "You sure?", she asked. Thinking back retrospectively, it seemed like she asked it sarcastically, or with a vague attempt to offend out of her own personal pleasure...I mean, why else would she ask twice, you know? I didn't say anything (or really think about it) afterwards but thinking back now, it just seems extremely rude and it really offended me.
I don't want to share my name here due to privacy reasons, but several times in my life has someone responded negatively in my face to my name. It's a name that is really only odd in America and not at all in other countries. I remember one in response in particular by an acquaintance's white trash mother: "(My name)? Your momma must have not loved you". I know there have been similar reactions when someone tells another person my name while I'm not present. I do have to admit that I've also gotten positive feedback whether or not I was there to hear it "Wow, (My name)? That's a cool name", but still, the negative still leaves me self-conscious in settings where I have to meet people or introduce myself.
I'm not sure what gives people the impression that judging someone for having an odd name is any different from judging someone for having an oddly shaped nose, or something like that. It seems people are really ballsy or really stupid and ignorant to things that might offend others. Anyways, I'm wondering if anyone else has had similiar experiences with having an uncommon name.