A poll on this topic might yield interesting results, but what I'd really like to know is members' educated guesses on the distribution of not just gay men but all men who have sex with men. Here's the adapted scale:
0 Exclusively bottom
1 Predominantly bottom, only incidentally top
2 Predominantly bottom, but more than incidentally top
3 Equally bottom and top; versatile
4 Predominantly top, but more than incidentally bottom
5 Predominantly top, only incidentally bottom
6 Exclusively top
As a 5 partnered with a 1, I consider the ideal threesome partner to be a 3, with 2 and 4 also fine. But they are damned hard to find. Anecdotal evidence, my own and as reported by friends, suggests that this distribution is anything but a standard Bell Curve. Seems more like 1 is the most frequently encountered orientation, followed by 5; 0 and 6 seem like the next most common, followed by 2 and 4, with 3 the rarest. That is, at every level bottoms outnumber tops-- and this is especially true when you factor in all the bi married guys. This distribution, based only on personal experience and hearsay, would seem to parallel what is known about the real Kinsey scale in which true bisexuality is more rare than strong leanings in one or the other direction. (Especially for males.) I welcome comments from anyone about your perception of the distribution of tops/bottoms; a quick Google search came up empty but there might be research out there.
0 Exclusively bottom
1 Predominantly bottom, only incidentally top
2 Predominantly bottom, but more than incidentally top
3 Equally bottom and top; versatile
4 Predominantly top, but more than incidentally bottom
5 Predominantly top, only incidentally bottom
6 Exclusively top
As a 5 partnered with a 1, I consider the ideal threesome partner to be a 3, with 2 and 4 also fine. But they are damned hard to find. Anecdotal evidence, my own and as reported by friends, suggests that this distribution is anything but a standard Bell Curve. Seems more like 1 is the most frequently encountered orientation, followed by 5; 0 and 6 seem like the next most common, followed by 2 and 4, with 3 the rarest. That is, at every level bottoms outnumber tops-- and this is especially true when you factor in all the bi married guys. This distribution, based only on personal experience and hearsay, would seem to parallel what is known about the real Kinsey scale in which true bisexuality is more rare than strong leanings in one or the other direction. (Especially for males.) I welcome comments from anyone about your perception of the distribution of tops/bottoms; a quick Google search came up empty but there might be research out there.
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