I'll get to the point of my post just below, but to preface it, I'll just say that, at 51, I'm going through some health and career stresses. I have a very good friend who is 18 years younger than I. She has weathered abusive relationships and cancer and is stronger than ever - things worse than I have ever had to deal with. She makes me realize that age and experience are not necessarily the same thing - it's only that with age one has a greater chance for the necessary experiences. Now to the point and why I posted in this forum. To me, one of the greatest turnoffs in people - be it coworkers, friends, family, lovers, whatever - is when they don't know what it is they don't know. My friend has helped me to constantly look at things that way. It's a sobering aspect, but one, I think, that makes you a better person to everyone around you. It certainly puts one in ones place. I would rather be able to claim "Hey, I beat cancer!" than to claim "Hey, I have a big cock!" Like I said, it puts my meat in the persepctive it belongs. Oh, and here is something one definitely learns with age: knowing what it is you will never know. Once you can let go of the fact you really will not know everything, it's quite a relief.