Knows what he is doing with it.....

[rtg]

Once again, the ladies have already said what I would have said.

 

[Scarletbegonia]

Once again, the ladies have already said what I would have said.

You were going to suggest bedazzling a mons pubis?

 

[Scarletbegonia]

I have a question for the ladies. What makes a guy "good in bed"?

I know the answer will vary woman to woman but, in general, what makes for a great lay?

Emotional presence
Playfulness, don't be so serious all the time. It's OK to laugh.
Don't be looking for the magic move. Let it find you.
We aren't puzzles to solve. We are people. Focus on that aspect.
Feedback Rocks. Did that thing I do work for you? Let me know in the moment.

 

[Tight_N_Juicy]

You were going to suggest bedazzling a mons pubis?

I think somewhere, we all had that idea buried deep inside.

Wait, I think I need to work on my phrasing

 

[Scarletbegonia]

I think somewhere, we all had that idea buried deep inside.

Wait, I think I need to work on my phrasing

See, buried deep inside is exactly what I'd fear with a Rhinestone Cowgirl.
(I hear Glen Campbell's spirit crying)

 

[Tight_N_Juicy]

See, buried deep inside is exactly what I'd fear with a Rhinestone Cowgirl.
(I hear Glen Campbell's spirit crying)

My mind is wandering too far... I pictured a post sex peen pulling out a glittery surprise in it's head.

Tada!!!

 

[Scarletbegonia]

I Dream of Peeny?

 

[Scarletbegonia]

We now know why I don't bother with the pot shops. Don't need to.

 

[Tight_N_Juicy]

I Dream of Peeny?

Only rather than wiggle my nose, I wiggle my clit.

 

[Scarletbegonia]

Only rather than wiggle my nose, I wiggle my clit.

Wrong lame blonde.
Barbara Eden and the giant rhinestone in her scandalous navel.

 

[Scarletbegonia]

But I'm now wondering how to consciously wriggle my clit.

 

[5104]

I always spent so much time concentrating on how I'm making her feel, I never considered letting her know how she is making me feel! Good tip.

Yes, many women, I've found, want to know they are wanted or sexually desired, not just being served. Some, however, are the opposite!

 

[Scarletbegonia]

Song of the day. It applies.

Can I just say Sharon Robinson is the best?

You Have Loved Enough
Leonard Cohen
LYRICS
I said I'd be your lover.
You laughed at what I said.
I lost my job forever.
I was counted with the dead.
I swept the marble chambers,
But you sent me down below.
You kept me from believing
Until you let me know:
That I am not the one who loves
It's love that seizes me.
When hatred with his package comes,
You forbid delivery.
And when the hunger for your touch
Rises from the hunger,
You whisper, "You have loved enough,
Now let me be the Lover."
I swept the marble chambers,
But you sent me down below.
You kept me from believing
Until you let me know:
That I am not the one who loves
It's love that chooses me.
When hatred with his package comes,
You forbid delivery.
And when the hunger for your touch
Rises from the hunger
Songwriters: Leonard Cohen / Sharon Robinson
You Have Loved Enough lyrics © Sony/ATV Music Publishing LLC

 

[EllieP]

A sense of humor is an absolute must! If you cannot laugh while you're having sexual intimacy then you're not being intimate enough.

He's gotten whacked in the mouth with much boobage before, and I've been slapped upside the head with much weenie. That shit is funny, y'all.

 

[rtg]

You were going to suggest bedazzling a mons pubis?

I trust whatever you suggest

 

[Snarky_succubus]

Emotional presence
Playfulness, don't be so serious all the time. It's OK to laugh.
Don't be looking for the magic move. Let it find you.
We aren't puzzles to solve. We are people. Focus on that aspect.
Feedback Rocks. Did that thing I do work for you? Let me know in the moment.

100% this. Socalfreak is better with my body than *I* am. By far and away the best sex I’ve ever had. He’s totally a giver and very concerned with making sure that I’m feeling good... but there have been times where he’s been so focused on that that he’s putting pressure on himself... and I can feel it. That makes me distracted and feel pressured. You have to be having fun or what’s the point? There is no magic key that works exactly the same every time for most women. Just pay attention and communicate... and smile... and enjoy each other. And definitely let her know you’re feeling good too!

 

[sizehungry]

100% this. Socalfreak is better with my body than *I* am. By far and away the best sex I’ve ever had. He’s totally a giver and very concerned with making sure that I’m feeling good... but there have been times where he’s been so focused on that that he’s putting pressure on himself... and I can feel it. That makes me distracted and feel pressured. You have to be having fun or what’s the point? There is no magic key that works exactly the same every time for most women. Just pay attention and communicate... and smile... and enjoy each other. And definitely let her know you’re feeling good too!

Thank you . You have just described what happened with my last long time partner . I was so afraid of losing her to someone younger , stronger , fitter etc , that i just tried too damned hard . She sensed the pressure/self doubt that i was experiencing and that was a kind of dark cloud over our sex life . Inability to maintain erections became common , as i lived in a kind of sexual terror of not pleasing her . I thought that by putting her first , all the time , that we would " get through " , but all i was doing , was " going through the manual " . It was all too serious , which is completely opposite to what sex should be . Fun . I agree wholeheartedly with Ellie P. , re; having a sense of humor . That helps a lot . Since the " wild child " and i parted ( long time ago ) , i'm happy to say that i look back on it as a " learning curve . There's no such thing as " knowing it all " , just learning ,if we are open to it

 

[Holly Doors]

A lot has already been mentioned, myself I like creative foreplay which must include oral, I want a man to be dominant as well as attentive and sensual, I want kissing licking and sucking, I want my breasts kissed licked sucked, I want a big strong guy that can pick me up and pull off different positions, I want to see how into it he is, above all I want a guy with a huge thick cock, I genuinely enjoy the feeling of being full and stretched, the pressure inside me and that huge guy deep inside me which is what brings me the most euphoric orgasms that render me exhausted with the feeling of satisfaction.
Luckily for me I have a wonderful husband that absolutely nails it all!

 

[Dport]

I like a good 'serious' fuck session.

But I agree with being able to laugh and have a lil fun during sex. Those kind of nights/women stand out in my mind as the best sex of my life.

 

[AlteredEgo]

For me, sex is best when it is communication without discussion, to a certain extent. It is best when we are both giving, receiving and understanding non-verbal cues. Some cues should be direction, and others should be praise. It may take time and discussion to get to that point together. That's great too, so long as the journey is fun.