DaveyR
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This is an interesting thread on many, many levels. Since I feel that most of the levels have been discussed ad nauseum, I do feel it important to share my thoughts one aspect of this thread.
I have read several posts that stated the supposed victim of this supposed incident should have sued the gym for not reprimanding the supposed perpetrators of this alleged offense. True, if this incident happened, it could be considered sexual harassment. However, like all sexual harassment lawsuits, the difficulty in pursuing a case like this lies in a quagmire of "he said/she said." Or, in this case, "he said/he said." Unless the victim could prove that the incident happened, or could bring witnesses with him that would testify to the incident having occurred, there really is nothing the gym or a judge could do.
Nevertheless, the supposed victim in this incident has changed gyms and seems to have solved the issue.
On another note, I have to agree that the original post had a definite homophobic slant to it. Whether the poster intended to come across as such does not matter. I have argued this many times - you can't have something both ways. Either homophobic behavior is wrong or it is not. You cannot jump on someone for being "homophobic" and then excuse said homophobia just because he may have been in a situation or an incident where his response was to be homophobic. That makes absolutely no sense, and no one should get a pass for acting irresponsibly or with malice toward someone or a group of people. I don't care how uncomfortable I may be in a situation - I would NEVER call someone a "fag" or a "queer." It's just not right.
Well said. What a great perspective on this.