So I’m working on a personal theory and I appreciate some of your thoughts.
I indentify as straight. I’ve never had sex with a man. I am erotically attracted to men, but I have only had sex with women and my romantic relationships have all been with women. With regards to my same sex attraction, I’m tuned on by fit men, and in particular to “straight men.” By that I mean I’m turned off by gay men with pronounced “gay”personalities.
Now, as it happens, I’ve been invited to go the Belevedere Guest House on Fire Island. It’s a clothing optional venue for gay men. I’m going, and maybe if the right situation presents itself, I might get lucky.
My question about labels is this:
What does it mean to be bisexual? Here is the theory I’m working with. Gay men are men who (generall) are men who have sex with men and who form romantic relationships with men. Lesbians are women who (generally) have sex with women and form romantic relathionships with women. So to my thinking it follows that bisexuals are people of either (cis) gender who have sex with either gender and form romantic relationships with either gender.
I’m leaving transgendered or other non-binary gender identifying folks out of this for now.
I don’t think I’m a bisexual, according to that definition. But is there an identity for mostly straight people, who will have sex with people of the same gender on occasion. unregretibly and unashamedly.
Questioning doesn’t seem right, since I’m going be getting an answer soon. Men who have sex with men? Desk to seem right but maybe it is?
I’m interested in labels but also thoughts on my definition above.
I indentify as straight. I’ve never had sex with a man. I am erotically attracted to men, but I have only had sex with women and my romantic relationships have all been with women. With regards to my same sex attraction, I’m tuned on by fit men, and in particular to “straight men.” By that I mean I’m turned off by gay men with pronounced “gay”personalities.
Now, as it happens, I’ve been invited to go the Belevedere Guest House on Fire Island. It’s a clothing optional venue for gay men. I’m going, and maybe if the right situation presents itself, I might get lucky.
My question about labels is this:
What does it mean to be bisexual? Here is the theory I’m working with. Gay men are men who (generall) are men who have sex with men and who form romantic relationships with men. Lesbians are women who (generally) have sex with women and form romantic relathionships with women. So to my thinking it follows that bisexuals are people of either (cis) gender who have sex with either gender and form romantic relationships with either gender.
I’m leaving transgendered or other non-binary gender identifying folks out of this for now.
I don’t think I’m a bisexual, according to that definition. But is there an identity for mostly straight people, who will have sex with people of the same gender on occasion. unregretibly and unashamedly.
Questioning doesn’t seem right, since I’m going be getting an answer soon. Men who have sex with men? Desk to seem right but maybe it is?
I’m interested in labels but also thoughts on my definition above.