Hello, this one is for the ladies please:
Here is my issue, my fiance and I have been together for two years now and our relationship has lost its spark after she moved in a couple of months ago. Here's how it goes: she has become moody, bored, thinks she is ugly, stressed, and is tired all the time. I tried everything to reignite the spark and make things less stressful. I cook, clean, feed/clean up after the cats, I tell her how special she is to me, how beautiful, sexy, and smart she is at least twice daily, I pay the bills, take care of the finances, and do the housework and never complain. I tried having a fire, listening to relaxing music, light candles, and bought little presents to show her I love and care for her.
Now for me: I like sex and intimacy which has diminished since we got engaged. I tried to communicate my feelings about her not being intimate anymore. I told her that I feel like there is no spark, no intimacy, it feels like we are a married couple. She said that its not me, its her, she said everything I stated in the aforementioned paragraph as to why she lost the spark. She said she would work on it the past three times I told her about how I feel, but nothing has changed. Now, when we discuss it, she becomes even more sad and doesn't know what to do about it and frankly it is really bothering me.
I believe that she is depressed, or sad, or stressed, or all three. I tried making life easier for her, tried to switch things up sexually, like sitting naked when she walks in the door, dressing up un a suite with nothing on underneath, tried having romantic dinners, and taking her away to someplace special. None of this has worked. Where the heck do I go from here, will it always be this way, and why did she present herself, before engagement, as being a strong sexy, independent, sex loving, couldn't keep her hands off me type of girl, but only to become sad, bored, moody, and not interested in intimacy anymore?
What advice would another another woman say, should we go to therapy, or is she just depressed and things will change? I love her very much, hence why I engaged her, however, I feel like she isn't who she was when we were dating and she isn't helping me help her. Any advice would help, thanks.
Here is my issue, my fiance and I have been together for two years now and our relationship has lost its spark after she moved in a couple of months ago. Here's how it goes: she has become moody, bored, thinks she is ugly, stressed, and is tired all the time. I tried everything to reignite the spark and make things less stressful. I cook, clean, feed/clean up after the cats, I tell her how special she is to me, how beautiful, sexy, and smart she is at least twice daily, I pay the bills, take care of the finances, and do the housework and never complain. I tried having a fire, listening to relaxing music, light candles, and bought little presents to show her I love and care for her.
Now for me: I like sex and intimacy which has diminished since we got engaged. I tried to communicate my feelings about her not being intimate anymore. I told her that I feel like there is no spark, no intimacy, it feels like we are a married couple. She said that its not me, its her, she said everything I stated in the aforementioned paragraph as to why she lost the spark. She said she would work on it the past three times I told her about how I feel, but nothing has changed. Now, when we discuss it, she becomes even more sad and doesn't know what to do about it and frankly it is really bothering me.
I believe that she is depressed, or sad, or stressed, or all three. I tried making life easier for her, tried to switch things up sexually, like sitting naked when she walks in the door, dressing up un a suite with nothing on underneath, tried having romantic dinners, and taking her away to someplace special. None of this has worked. Where the heck do I go from here, will it always be this way, and why did she present herself, before engagement, as being a strong sexy, independent, sex loving, couldn't keep her hands off me type of girl, but only to become sad, bored, moody, and not interested in intimacy anymore?
What advice would another another woman say, should we go to therapy, or is she just depressed and things will change? I love her very much, hence why I engaged her, however, I feel like she isn't who she was when we were dating and she isn't helping me help her. Any advice would help, thanks.