Ladies - can you shed some light on this?

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Lordpendragon said:
I see what you are saying Lisa - but isn't it a little illogical?
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LPD, you are reading way too much in your girlfriend's statement. Size, in general, obviously doesn't matter to her, but lo and behold, she's found a treasure chest of fun. It's possible you may have ruined her for all other "average" men:tongue: Don't worry so much. Enjoy her pleasure and yours.
 

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Lordpendragon said:
I see what you are saying Lisa - but isn't it a little illogical?

I do get it - it's like enjoying a sport even if you don't win, but when you do win it's great - but actually the winning does matter but then it doesn't.

Men, always trying so hard to be logical. It's just their cute little way of always staying in control :wink: .
For her, the size of your cock may be one of those things that is exciting but is a bonus, rather than something that actually plays a part in who she decides to be with.
 

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stud_hunter said:
Men, always trying so hard to be logical. It's just their cute little way of always staying in control :wink: .
For her, the size of your cock may be one of those things that is exciting but is a bonus, rather than something that actually plays a part in who she decides to be with.
She's got it right. While she wouldn't dump you or let it affect the relationship if your dick wasn't huge, there's not reason why she isn't going to absolutely love your unit and have fun with it. I mean do you expect her to just act like its no big deal? Hell, I've gone wild over a 6 inch dick before, and if anything it just turned the guy on that much more and made the sex better. Chances are, if your dick was attached to some guy she didn't really like, she wouldn't go as wild for it.
 

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ClaireTalon said:
Preferring size or not, as long as it doesn't hurt a big penis always means more stimulation. So, if she goes crazy when you two have sex, that means you're doing a good job. Neither does "not caring for size" mean "dislike size". You can't care for something, but still you can actually like it when you get it, which seems to be the case here.

I think this is where men and women get confused with each other. When a woman says that size doesn't matter, i guess she ISNT saying "regardless of the size, it will make absolutely no difference in pleasure". Which is of course how men read that statement.

So ladies, when you say that size doesn't matter, do you mean that small and large CAN work. And that skill in bed along with size up to your particular limit will give you more pleasure?

I ask this cause all of my g/f's have always said that "size doesn't matter" but then they go buckwild for me claiming that it's by far the best they've ever had, blah blah blah. And how they really enjoyed the dimensions of my dick???....But size dont matter right :smile:
 

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Multipass said:
I think this is where men and women get confused with each other. When a woman says that size doesn't matter, i guess she ISNT saying "regardless of the size, it will make absolutely no difference in pleasure". Which is of course how men read that statement.

So ladies, when you say that size doesn't matter, do you mean that small and large CAN work. And that skill in bed along with size up to your particular limit will give you more pleasure?

I agree that men often confuse "size doesn't matter" with "it makes no difference whatsoever in the experience of sex."
I never say size doesn't matter because for me it does. But I think for the bulk of women who aren't size queens, there are a few categories:
1.Women who like size but either won't admit it or haven't figured it out
2.Women for whom a larger size really doesn't mean more sexual pleasure, or might mean less.
3.Women for whom a larger size does make a different in sex, but other
things make more of a difference, thus size, relative to those other things, doesn't matter.
 

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Hefty said:
Women are supposed to think and say that size does not matter: it is the politically correct answer.

True enough, but I refuse to do that!

Size matters so much, to me, anyways.

It's the same as those guys who say, about breasts, "More than handful is a waste"... lies!! We all know it.


The woman in question may be, as has been observed already, just letting you know that you are more to her than a hefty beef-bayonet.
 

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stud_hunter said:
Men, always trying so hard to be logical. It's just their cute little way of always staying in control :wink: .

There's a difference between understanding things and controlling them, but then I wouldn't want to bother your cute little head with such onerous concepts.:wink:

In truth, the more this is discussed, the less I understand it - so maybe I shouldn't trouble my own little head with these complex issues:smile: .

Let's see - your size doesn't matter unless it's the size I love to have my brains banged out and even then it might not matter. I am the keeper of what truly matters and this is no matter for you.
 

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Lordpendragon said:
In truth, the more this is discussed, the less I understand it - so maybe I shouldn't trouble my own little head with these complex issues:smile: .

I think when it comes to the issue of penis size, men tend to think in black and white - either size matters or it doesn't; either it's a really important thing or it's completely irrelevant. In reality it's all gray. "It doesn's matter" is a relative term. Some women like the feeling or sight of a large penis, and for those women size matters. How much it matters is as grey an area as how much she cares about his hairline, or a certain personality quirk. It's one factor in a bunch, that happens to be higher up the list for some women than for others.
I like the color blue. But if I'm going to buy a house, color doesn't matter, because there are other things I'm considering far more important. There are some women who care a lot about size, some women who don't care at all, and some women who are in the middle.
 

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Thank you Ladies for all your most excellent posts.

I have come to the following conclusion

When a woman says that size does not matter, given that she is telling you the truth, what she is saying is

I am not a woman who is built so small that a big one causes me pain, nor so large so that a small one does not create enough sensation. I am capable of having great sex with a skilled lover of average proportions. If I appear wild in bed it may not be because you have a larger unit and if it is, it is just a bonus on one or more of many levels.

You can not read the inverse when someone says that size does matter. :eek:
 

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VixPix said:
It's the same as those guys who say, about breasts, "More than handful is a waste"... lies!! We all know it.
Actually, more than a handful is often worse than a waste - it can be fucking gross. A lot of the guys on this site seem to have big-boob fetishes or w/e which I guess makes sense 'cause of the nature of the LPSG and everything, but I seriously prefer smaller, less droopy boobies.

Of course, I recognize that I am in the minority on this point, but I feel it is important not to marginalize the very real population of women who probably prefer smaller penii for various reasons.
 

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Spladle said:
I would just like to point out that the thread should have ended with this post.

Well that's democracy for you.

On a side note - the next time a woman asks me if her bum looks big in something - I'm just going to say it doesn't matter.
 

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Lordpendragon said:
Well that's democracy for you.

On a side note - the next time a woman asks me if her bum looks big in something - I'm just going to say it doesn't matter.
Something about honesty and the best policy.
 

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Hefty said:
Women are supposed to think and say that size does not matter: it is the politically correct answer. Depending on your personality, as she perceives it, she might also tell you this in order to keep your ego in check.

In bed, however, political correctness has a tendency to go out of the window at the first opportunity. Thank God.

I found that size does matter, because on occassion,girls have told me they do not want to "stretch" their bodies, and, often, I can not receive good oral sex.
Size matters, or else, women would deep throat any of us w/o complainning
 

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I've been in similar situations. I always assumed there's a couple reasons a woman will do that. First, I think she wants you to know that she thinks of you a more than just a sex object (nice gesture IMO). Second, she doesn't want your head to blow up too big (evidently we men have a tendency to get cocky). LOL
 

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Truth in that TLM.

I do believe the ladies. You don't need an 8 x 6 as a prerequisite for great sex. Sure it might be a bonus, a help, hell a hindrance for some - don't we know it.

Obviously I don't have a vagina and I'm happy with a virgin ass thanks, so I don't know about this "fill me up big boy" element, but take a look at Stud Hunter's great thread on Size Queen Traitor.

Given the many routes for a woman to enjoy sex, I would say that occasionally it may be lack of experience, but more commonly a mental process that would make a woman think that only a horse cock is going to do the job.