Thanks guys. I've just figured out what I'm doing wrong. I'm squeezing instead of pushing. I will try giving it a go - not with a toy this time though.
Not till I've practised a bit anyway.
I really do appreciate the answers. I can't believe I got to this age without realising there was a difference.
Lucky I've never been pregnant hey? Although maybe antenatal classes might have taught me there was a difference between the two?
Thanks again. Much appreciated.