Ladies, do you ask a guy his size on a first date?

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Sorry you feel the way you do Dolfette. I am glad everyone can have an opinion and not have to worry about being called names.

I am not in the dating scene. I have been married for 19 years and I knew what I was getting from the get go.

I think it is very important to ask intimate questions before establishing an intimate relationship with someone that a person could be incompatable with.

This is my opinion.
really? i'm not sorry at all!

my feelings about it work for me.
they're yet another filter, ensuring i only invest time on people who are on my wavelength.
i like old fashioned, door opening, hand holding, slow moving guys who evolve into depraved perverts as the relationship progresses.

anyone who would ask has a greater incomatability with me that penis size.
 

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i like old fashioned, door opening, hand holding, slow moving guys who evolve into depraved perverts as the relationship progresses.

Sounds more like the type of guy who would be more conservative in bed.

If ya want a depraved pervert then you should look for one and be up front about it.

If I wanted a ferrari, I wouldn't look in the want ads for a corvette that suddenly would one day turn into a ferrari... Although that sounds pretty cool.
 

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i might ask that question if i met him on this site! but it would be a joke.
 

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Dolfette is right. I wouldn't ask a man about his size in a first date conversation as i wouldn't like him asking me personal things about myself, and if he did id be highly offended as he would have all right to be aswell. It cant be done light heartedly in a joking way but by no means would i ever ask seriously and expect an honest answer. I would hate to be though of as being that superficial that i need stats to be interested in persuing anything further with the guy
 

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Sounds more like the type of guy who would be more conservative in bed.

If ya want a depraved pervert then you should look for one and be up front about it.

If I wanted a ferrari, I wouldn't look in the want ads for a corvette that suddenly would one day turn into a ferrari... Although that sounds pretty cool.
shows what you know! :rolleyes:

the old saying "still waters run deep" has some truth in it.
the overtly sexual men are often a little passe in bed.
my guy is a perfect gentleman in company but as soon as we're alone...i consider myself an experienced pervert but he does things with me that i've never done before.
 

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i might ask that question if i met him on this site! but it would be a joke.

Of course you would want to use humor to 'make light' of a question like that, and there is simpy no reason not to. For instance, if the guy has big hands, a girl could say:

"Is it true what they say about men with big hands?"

Most men would find it alluring and sexy. Of course, he might not tell the truth, but that's always a possibility, whether or not you frame it as a joke. If a woman has every intention of sleeping with the guy, but size is important to her, she has nothing to lose by asking. And she might just spare herself from a major disappointment.
 

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Sounds more like the type of guy who would be more conservative in bed.

If ya want a depraved pervert then you should look for one and be up front about it.

It's usually the guy with a firm grasp of what being a gentleman is who's the little kink filled animal in bed.
 

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It's usually the guy with a firm grasp of what being a gentleman is who's the little kink filled animal in bed.
you know! :D

sexual energy.
you can let is spill out everywhere.
or you can keep it contained and focus it.

i've never met a guy who was brash about sex and was amazing in bed.
the best sex has always been with the guys who don't feel the need to advertise.
 

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honestly {and i KNOW i'm going to insult a few people here} it strikes me as cheap, tacky and lacking in class to ask intimate questions of a person you've yet to establish an intimate relationship with.
i would assume the person extremely immature and shallow.

i don't sleep with people who can't grasp basic manners.

i agree completely.
 

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If a woman asked me that off the bat, I'd immediately think she's shallow, and that's a major turn-off. I don't want my penis to be the major reason someone is dating me. I think I have more to offer than that.

like what? :biggrin1:

i mean, uh, you're a... really.... cool? smart? funny?... guy?

whoops, caught myself staring at your gallery pics again. brain won't work. blood has flooded groin region.
 

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I've been asked on a first date before, but only once, and only because the conversation had turned in that direction because of an exchange of double entendres.

Generally unless it was asked out of a spirit of fun and fit into the conversation, I wouldn't see it as being the classiest move a lady could make.
Ditto!!! If your just looking for a big one,, HELL NO!!!! NOT COOL AT ALL
 

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i had to confess it once on a first date because she'd asked me to come back to her place and i didn't have any condoms and didn't know where to pick up any in my size that late. she seemed very excited by the notion though and only fueled her wanting me to come back over. that was a fun night.

and i've had female friends ask me while hanging out, some of whom i later wound up dating and/or fooling around with. but no one's ever outright asked on a first date. again, for me, it would all depend on how they asked and the context of the conversation. if they just popped out with "so, how big's your cock?" before the appetizers came out...well, i might still see where it went, but it wouldn't do much for my considering her in a long term sense. if we'd been talking for a while and had a flirty fun playful vibe going on and she slipped it in there in the same manner, i wouldn't have much problem with it. lol.