Ladies, do you enjoy being called 'ladies'?

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  1. SR_Blarney_Frank

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    When I hear the word, all I can think of is Adam Horowitz of the Beastie Boys screaming 'hey ladies!!' ... or better yet, Jerry Lewis for those enjoying LPSG from the shared computer at the retirement home.

    Just curious because, ladies, you bring me up when I'm down...you turn me on when I'm lonely and show me all your charms. Thoughts? Is it a compliment? Or does it piss you off as much it irks me when someone calls me 'pal' or 'buddy' or 'friend' (which usually means they are none of these things to me.)
     
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    Sure! It beats some of the alternatives...
     
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    Fair enough - but do you consider it a term of respect? Or does it just not suck.
     
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    It only pisses me off when i see new "Ladies...." questions usually pertaining to cocksucking and dicksize every 12 minutes. It's enough to drive one to homocidal rage at times.
     
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    I prefer being called a woman, but lady isn't as bad as girl. lol. One of my favorite sayings? "I may not be much of a lady, but I'm one hell of a woman."
     
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    I always say that I'm a lady, so I like being called one.
    Whether it's Beastie Boy casual style, or not.
     
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    I'm fine with being called a lady and think it's stupid to get all bent out of shape about it. There are so many worse things that men call women, like bitch, cunt, and whore.

    On the other hand, I'm not real fond of being referred to as a female. Military people tend to do that and it makes me feel like a lab experiment. I think gal is kinda goofy, but not offensive. :cool:
     
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    To be honest, I still use the term "girl" for women around my age or younger. I'm slowly transitioning on to "women" now. "Lady" or "ladies" still feels somewhat weird to me, but maybe it's because I'm still fairly young.

    Personally, I agree with the OP, I get a little irked when someone calls me "pal", "buddy" or "boy", but I think it depends on the context. Most of the time those words can be used sarcasticly or in a negative manner. For women, I think "lady", or "woman" are rarely negative. "Ladies" is more likely to be negative since it includes the gal/girl into a certain stereotype/group.

    Heh, that was probably my most " filled post.
     
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    Oddly, I was taught never to refer to a jury as "ladies and gentlemen of the jury" because for some older generation women, to be referred to as a lady was the same as being called a prostitute because the PC term for prostitute used to be ladies of the night or something similar. So, while lady is a fairly benign term now, you never know who you will get on a jury so I always address them as "members of the jury" then the Peter Griffin inside me says "hee hee, member"
     
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    I'm fine with being called a lady and think it's stupid to get all bent out of shape about it. There are so many worse things that men call women, like bitch, cunt, and whore.

    I think the OP's intent was what we call "sarcasm". This is also referred to as "tongue in cheek" ;-)
     
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    What about the term 'females'

    Ex. A guy walks up to a group of girls and says "Whats up females?"

    Yay or Nay?
     
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    NAY! I don't like being referred to as a female. Military people tend to do that and it makes me feel like a lab experiment.
     
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    I may be missing something but I dont really see what possibly could make someone upset at the term "Ladies" unless it is being used to objectify or to diminish someone. For example I am borderline petite (5"3") I have no issues one way or another about my height but if I did and someone was refering to me continually as "little lady" that might rankle but there are so many other things out here to get upset about...
     
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    Female sounds a bit clinical and impersonal. As for the word Lady", it depends on context. You could be like Baron Munchausen, "Beautiful ladies", or Jerry Lewis, "hey Lady"....

    Guess I'll go with the Baron.
     
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    This is a great question! I always hate it. Reminds me of guys in the 1970s who wore their shirts open so you could see their hairy chests and gold chains, and wore too much bad cologne. The characters Steve Martin and Dan Akroyd played on Saturday Night Live, Horte and Yorge or whatever. There was a dude who called my wife "a very special lady" to me, he made me about puke he was such a sexist moron.
     
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    If I called you a cunt, you would have to ban me. OK bitch :tongue:
     
  18. SR_Blarney_Frank

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    Also a great scene in The Big Lebowski discussing the Dude's "lady":

     
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    He's such a sweet talker.:biggrin1: You can call me Master of the Universe.
     
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    I've always thought of the term "lady" as a respectful way to refer to a woman. I generally use either "woman" or "lady". As a gay man, I only really use "girl" when referring to friends, usually other gay males. Go figure... LOL.
     
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