Ladies, do you tell girlfriends about your man?

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dable_wi: There is an old song by Sippie Wallace, a blues artist, which was re-recorded when she teamed up with Bonnie Raitt in the early 90's. The song is called "Don't Advertise Your Man." One lyric goes like this:

" these women nowadays, they ain't no good;
they laugh in yo' face, then try to steal yo' man from you;
Women be wise, keep you mouth shut, don't advertise yo' man."

Do ya think Sippie had it right?

 

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Tender: [quote author=dable_wi link=board=women;num=1067229094;start=20#20 date=10/30/03 at 09:02:49]

Do ya think Sippie had it right?[/quote]


as long as this site doesnt count?!
otherwise im guilty of advertising !

Tender

 

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rainfletcher: Sorry to weigh in so late on this, but:

My first blabbed and lied to anyone and everyone. Friggin' bitch. I had all kinds of problems after that, snickering in the hallway, dates that cancelled etc.

My girlfriend does and has talked some, but it strikes me as pretty innocent. Her girlfriends just talk about this stuff, and it's not crude or bitchy. It just comes up, you know? She's always discrete and doesn't brag or get into specifics. So, I don't mind at all....

 

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emilywee: sorry guys, but we talk about everything amongst ourselves. in the past i've usually decided how much i'd discuss or how specific i'd get depending on the guy i was with and go from there. but i have a couple of girlfriends i share everything with, and anyway the two larger guys i've been with knew we talked and weren't upset, they actually liked that my friends knew. the thing is you have to be careful to tell the right friends stuff or they might get too interested and make a move on your man.

 

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fourdeg420: I told a couple of times (I just wanted to be able to brag, you know how girls get) and at first my friends didn't believe me but then I told this chick that had known him longer than I have. Well, I guess she had an idea but when she found out for sure, it seemed like she was on a mission to destroy our relationship. She told him that I was talking about him and since he is already very sensitive about his hugeness, it really hurt his feelings. It was awful becaue he doesn't get mad, it's like when your Mom says, "I'm not angry, I'm just dissapointed." Now I try my hardest to be good, but it's so big and beautiful, I have a hard time not talking about it

 

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inquiringmind: Heh Fourdeg,

Let that be a cautionary lesson, dear. If you've got to tell some body,tell it to a tape recorder, baby . You have had a glimpse .... take the hint. It also sounds like you need to have "a meeting in the Ladies room" with girlfriend. To quote the song, "Handy Man", "...tell all your friends about the sweet things I whisper in your ear and they'll come runnin' to me..." They do say, " loose lips sink ships"

Inquiring mind

 

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SpeedoGuy: Although she has not acknowledged it, I suspect my wife talks to her sisters and friends. I can tell this because I occasionally catch those sisters and friends taking sneaky peeks at my crotch.

SG

 

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AnonyMs: oh, SG, sweetie... we sneak peeks at all guys' crotches! lol

 

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Donk: I must say I found the responses on page 1 of this thread surprising. That is, I was surprised that several women strongly stated that they would never tell such a thing to anyone. Emilywee's response tracks my experiences more closely--that is, my gf's have told certain friends who they share "everything" with about it, though it's not like they blabbed about such intimate matters in inapproriate contexts.

Like emilywee's past boyfriends, I'm not upset when I know I have been talked about and secretly find it flattering. But I sometimes feign embarassment to avoid seeming too "cocky."

But I appreciate the sensitivity reflected by the women who feel its inappropriate to disclose such a private matter about another person and, as some of the male posters have commented, it can result in some awkward situations.

 

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wesleysh21: I'll share some of my experiences, but only for those that crave details, these are just the girls I got closer to:

I've had a few girlfriends gossip about me.  The first told quite a few people, nothing specific such as exact inches, but definitely got her point across.  And when I started dating my second, the first told her "be careful, he'll hurt you with that thing."  

The second told anyone that wanted to listen about me.  She was the kind of girl that didn't exactly begin the conversation, but always took it over when it pertained to size.  I'm what most would call a "pretty boy," I'm a fairly attractive guy with an athletic build (but I'm slightly below average height)...the girls she told seemed both shocked and intrigued.  Funny thing is, she did that "false measurement" on me.  You know, my true "from the top" measurement is 8.25".  She did the one from the bottom and got 10.5", so that's what she reported to other girls.  Where the rumor mill really started to fly was on an overnight trip she took for a school club she was a part of.  In a large convo in the back of the bus she told everybody within listening distance about me...in detail.  She also told one of her friends directly "he'd definitely hurt your little ass."  Well, little did she know me and that girl would eventually sleep together, and I hurt her little ass (oops).  Trust me, my size was a small part of it, talking to some of my boys that had been with her about her (we gossip too) we agreed that she just couldn't take dick very well.

The third girl was willing to tell everyone that I was great in bed, even told a few select people about my size.  She mainly bragged on my looks though and the very fact that she was sleeping with me.  Eventually, there was a one night stand on a brief vacation for me where a girl admitted she slept with me because of what this girl (the third) had said about my size and abilities.

The fourth girl worked with me and the third girl.  After we had sex, she rubbed it in the face of the third girl as well as told female members of her own family.  Never really told anyone outside of that.

The fifth girl I was with never told a single soul.  She heard from the first two about my size, and admitted that made her go from really liking me to being willing to just fuck me any time I got the nerve to ask her.  She was of the school that you don't tell girls about your man, cause in her words "you never know when a shady bitch like me is listening."

The sixth girl I worked with as well (different job, different state).  She made it very clear to her friends and some select coworkers that she liked what I did for her in the bedroom.  She never commented on my size.  In part, because she didn't think it was all that noteworthy.  This was the kind of girl that could care less about size, only what you could do with it.  Like I said, I'm a slightly thick 8.25".  Its large, but there are still guys much larger than I am.  Like I always like to say, "my size puts me in the big leagues, but once I get to that level I'm the last man on the bench."

The seventh girl told her sister in great detail, as well as some friends of hers.  She slightly exagerrated my thickness on purpose.  She has one girlfriend in particular that none of them believe anymore, cause she always drastically exagerates.  This girl never gives exact measurements, just talks about how huge these guys are.  Long story short they definitely know some of those guys weren't big at all, lol.

My current girlfriend won't even discuss sex, forget size.  She's a very private person, and doesn't feel that anything going on between the sheets in her life should be divulged to anyone.  When the topic of sex does come up, she will stay completely quiet and just listen in, but never offers up any info.

 

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roedhunt: When I am in a relationship, I tell no one (not even my sisters who are close). To me, it is a very private thing and because women do like to gossip, I say very little.

However, when the relationship is over (months or years later), I ONLY say something when it becomes relevant. For instance, my gfs or my sisters are comforting one of us about an awkward situation that happened with their bf or husband. Then we in return, do the "I know what you mean" thing. In one of those types of comforting sessions, I revealed that my last bf of 4 yrs was small so it we had certain problems. Each of them was shocked to find out that I never revealed this info previously. I informed them again, that I do not divulge that kind of info when I'm in a relationship.

<sigh>... they never looked at him the same way again... I shoulda :-X

Since then, my friends know I'm still like this, but yet now they try to break my of standards... :-/

Which goes to show you, there is the 50/50 of women.

 

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tasha_in_east: I am very close with my little sister and we share almost everything. We have total confidence in each other. I also have a couple of very close girlfriends that I share info with, but that is it. I never go aroung advertising or bragging about anything. It is fun to share certain information though, with my sis and close friends...

 

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Interesting responses here!

Personally, I would much prefer my endowment NOT be shared with others. I feel I have enough attention coming my way without stirring up anymore!

My heart goes out though, to guys at average (or below) and their "size" becoming known through the gossip mill. Think of the consequences (then) HE might face--within his own friendship circles, and most importantly within himself. This kind of chatter may not necessarily "destroy him" but it could "bruise" him quite a bit.

 

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lucy_daviesuk: After the first time I saw my partners penis I could'nt wait to tell my best friend how big he was - i even e-mailed pictures of him naked. 5 years later we are now married and my girlfirends still try and get a glimpse of his cock when he is in the shower or in bed. Luckily he is cool about it. Us girls like to gossip but it can also be or worst enemy !! :

 

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palladen: I'm on luci's side with this one. Very flattering, but also dangerous ... esp if you have some very aggressive friends.

 

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AOX3: A few months ago, my wife and I had another couple over for dinner. THe wife of the other couple was and is, a VERY close friend of my wife. After dinner, all of us went into the computer room at my house for me to show them some of our vacation pictures. The lights were off and my house has about 6 computers in it, with three of them in one room all networked with tons of peripherals.

The husband of the other couple entered in the dark and noticed alll the red and green lights and made a comment about it resembling the bridge of the starship Enterprise. Then when our wives walked in he turned to his wife and said, I gotta get a setup like this, it is something like I would imagine 007 would have. My wife, who was feeling rather tipsy from the wine she had consumed during dinner, blurted out, "he's no DOUBLE OH SEVEN, he's more like DOUBLE OH EIGHT AND A HALF" I was flabbergasted and embarrassed. Although I have always enjoyed my wife's comments about my penis, I have had to over the years tell her to keep it quiet because such talk is clearly 'inappropriate'.

I now am starting to get sly looks and winks from my wifes friend and have become uncomfortable due to the wifeys little revelation. Her husband has mentioned it a couple of times too, always joking of course.

Besides,in reality it's more like 8.9 inches, at least she could have averaged to the upside.

No real problems, but I just thought I would share.

Anyway, thats my story and I'm sticking to it!

AOX3

 

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nobel: Late chiming in, but here goes...

In my experience, my wife rarely talked about sexual issues with friends. One time, however, she came home after chat with the girls that centered on penis size. The ringleader of this discussion was a friend from high school. I knew her to be pretty forward and very sexually oriented. For what it is worth, her job at the time of this discussion was as a stripper.

The first result of this conversation was my wife measuring my cock for the first time. When they were comparing notes, she didn't have an actual figure. They sent her away with a homework assignment. As I recall, I was actually kind of turned on by this. The coolest thing is that she didn't have any idea how to measure correctly. She came away with a measurement of 9 1/2 inches, even though I am just over 8 on a good day.

The story gets a bit twisted from there. Once she reported back, her friend's behavior toward me definitely changed. She was overly friendly - to the point of uncomfortable - and made size innuendoes whenever I was around.

This whole thing climaxes (no pun intended) when she was babysitting our daughter, who was then an infant. I went to pick up our child and the friend told me that she was asleep. She then changed the subject and went directly to the point. She let me know that my wife had told everyone that I had a big dick. She then begged me to see it. It was truly a surreal scene.

My mistake was that I took her up on it. I told her look, but don't touch. She got down in front of me as I took out a half hard cock. I remember initially being glad that it looked pretty impressive.

It took a "turn for the worse" when she blurted out a few phrases of praise. She then leaned forward and tried to put it in her mouth. I kind of freaked out. I knew I had made a dumb mistake. I yanked up my pants and asked that she never tell anyone what happend. As far as I know, she kept this event to herself.

As a post script, my wife and I have recently split. I am almost certain that this is the kind of story that the friend will now share. (Proof that I was an asshole.) I can't wait for the rant from the ex...

 

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Superchest_Funbird: Oh yeah. My twin sister is getting all the scoop about my current BF.

 

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alysen6: I have a few girlfriends I talk about everything with. They pretty much have the same views on size as I do, so we usually talk about it. But I always make a point to ask the guys I date or talk to if they mind. I have yet to date any guy who didn't want me spreading it around. I was surprised that many guys on this thread would feel the opposite.

 

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petite_girl: I don't bring it up, but when everyone is talking about size, then I'll talk. I usually only go into as much detail as the others do, and I stop short of blabbing all.

It's the sort of thing that comes up in a round of drunken "I never" during an all-girl slumber party at a lakehouse.

I was also in the weird situation of being one of two girls at a bar with a whole bunch of guys when the size thing came up. The guys are super-blunt and will say all sorts of sh*t so I just talked sh*t back at em.... somehow, it ended up coming up.

The thing is, I would never tell anyone who knew my boyfriend anything. Everyone who I've talked to has probably told me more than I've told them. And, none of them know him.