Ladies... Have you ever been choked during intercourse?

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erotic incision?! :eek:
Oh man, that sounds bad (and messy).

Choking, no, cant say it does it for me.

But to help out a couple of posters who say it is about pain - it does not necessarilly hurt. I have been choked out wrestling and I also nearly drowned (er... strong candidate for brain damage?) neither time did it hurt, it just gets dim. Strangely you can still hear though, and you know what is happening right until you pass out totally. If it was just edged, you would probably stay in the "between", which might be pleasurable if you got off on the lack of power/nearness of death thing.
 

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right ok this one i can comment on :)

me and my fiancee do like to play a little rough sometimes and she loves to be choked while having sex ( to the point of almost un-concious ) i realise of course this is dangerous to an extent and am extremely careful not to take it too far we have a huge amount of trust between us and she knows i will not take it too far with her, I think it has a lot to do with a sub/dom relationship and although i would not say we are fully sub/dom by any means she does like to be dominated in bed and she also likes a little pain too ( within safe limits ) we use a safe word that instantly would stop anything either of us were doing at the time ( this has never been used )

i dont think this makes us or her wierd in any way to be honest with you,

if we like it and it hightens the pleasure we both experinece then it is ok

on that note i think trust is the main issue when these things are concerned.

if the trust is complete and mutual then experimentation is not a bad thing at all


hope you all dont think im some wierd bloke ( i really am not )
 

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hope you all dont think im some wierd bloke ( i really am not )
Stand next to me and Galt--nobody will ever think you're weird.



Back to the opening topic--and choking-- it's a risk I'd rather not get involved in. What happens on a day when it goes one second too far? It's along the lines of the persons into slapping, punching or various othere violent acts for sexual pleasure. A punch hits too hard and a bone is broken or a kidney is damaged. Is it worth it? With choking, what if the person has a moment of respiratory distress and the choker is so high on the moment that he/she neglects noticing it? Is the chokee becoming unconcious, comatose or dead really a good place to go?


Rest in peace Jennifer Dawn (it'll be 21 years next month).
 

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point taken onslow,

i am i hope a very carefull person when we indulge in such activities ( not often but sometimes ) i know it is a very fine line that we tred and this is why perhaps im am so cautious not to over step the mark, and because my pleasure is hightened by hers and i do not gain pleasure from the act of chocking her ( although she gains some from that ) i am able i believe to not be in the same maybe un-controlable place she is at that moment this allows me to have the control over the choking and not her,

she does enjoy using a belt to choke herself when she is alone i found out recently and have put a stop to that ( i made her promise not to ) as this she could easily lose control over i believe.

my only wish is to please her and for this i am willing to be dominant if she wishes and if she wants to be choked then at least i am the one in control and i know i can protect her from any injury and i know she has the trust in me to know i will not harm her in any way, so perhaps ( conjecture ) she likes the feeling of danger involved with the sub-concious knowledge that she will ultimatly be safe and unharmed.
 

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My view on this is simple. She apparently enjoys the pressure, and definitely the orgasms. So long as you do your best to keep her alive and having orgasms regularly, I really don't see a problem if you're okay with it all.

As for me... I prefer a more gentle touch.
 

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thanks Magic,

i think your right and as its good for her then im happy to do it,

we do also enjoy very gentle sensual sex too, but variety as they say is the spice of life and i would not do anything ever she did not want to do or was uncomfortable with

as as a final note it was her not me lol that got us into that side of her kink :) i do it because she likes it and it makes her orgasms stronger and multiple,

but i really enjoy making her orgasm ( thats my kink lol ) is all about pleasing her and i get off on her pleasure that is what makes my orgasms more intense.

as for Gentle ( i love that too )
 

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Well all I can say is that some people are not so mentally open to crazy acts lol... and it is there choice really.. Opinions are like assholes lol.. everybody has one!!!...And actually I do respect everybodies opinion... but gosh dont have to be so rude about it lol... tellin me to go buy drugs lol.... ummmmm LMAO!!!!!!!!.. me be nice n keep my mouth shut now.. cus im a nice little girl....I think
 

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loveitbitch,

dont worry about what people say hunny, each to there own and im sure you a nice little girl like you say, if everyone in teh world had the same kinks me thinks it would be a very boring place indeed, i dont and have never done drugs natural highs are the best in the world :)

and i am never rude ( do unto others as you wish done to yourself ) and carma is a bitch lol so be good out there lol
 

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Awww sweetie thank you and i have to say what a beautiful lady you are too after looking at your pics makes me sorry i am taken lol :)

if i wernt i would be running onto those luscious lips right now xxx
 

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But you are correct that it can be dangerous which is why I don't really understand its allure.

The danger is part of the allure. Why do some people get off on having sex in public places? Because of the danger of being caught. There's also the dominance aspect of it -- actually that seems to be where the majority of the pleasure came from with the two girls I've done this with. (Interestingly, they were both very ambitious lawyers. I think they got off a bit on being submissive in their private lives where they absolutely could not show any weakness professionally, but that's just a theory.)

Also, you need to understand that, at least the way I've participated in this type of play, you're not throttling the girl with two hands using all your strength. In fact, it's not even a squeeze; I simply extend my thumb from my hand, put her neck in the crook between the thumb and fingers and apply light, straight-ahead pressure, pushing gently into her neck rather than gripping it. Done this way, the restriction is more in blood flow than in oxygen. Try it on yourself right now using light pressure; you'll get sort of a "head rush" feeling of mild throbbing in your head without your breathing being restricted to any dangerous extent. Yes, it can still be risky, but only mildly so (again, doing it the way I've done There are doubtless harder-core types out there who are into the really rough stuff), and I'm always very upfront about telling the girl that she can tell me to stop at anytime, and that I'll stop on my own if I don't feel comfortable.

Wow. I didn't realize I had so much to say on erotic choking. Anyway, I hope that sheds a little light. For everyone not into it, that's totally understandable -- and I'm not too heavy about it myself. I've only done it by request with those two girls.
 

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Theres was to do it that are a LOT less dangerous.. And dont give the bug eyes :p

Woman on top, you just cup your hand and let her ride you and lean in to her want.

Thats what me and my ex did.

It applies a little pressue which slows down the blood flow, doesnt stop it, and makes your orgasm seem much more intense. Or at least thats how i view it.

I've never really seen it is violence


Edit: Should've read the post above mine :redface:
 

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See.. Glad to know Im not the only freaky one here.. as u guys wud claim...lol...... exlinebacker makes me blush...scarey
 

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Well, I like a little pain with my sex. Sometimes. Maybe even most times. Once I was introduced to choking, it became a big part of sex for me. Trust really isn't the factor for me, b/c if I'm fucking you, I trust you.

This is all part of the D/s thing I love. Dominate me or go home and I'll get my vibe out.

I fuck men b/c I want to experience more than an orgasm. I can give myself an orgasm.
 

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Well all I can say is that some people are not so mentally open to crazy acts

I am in emergency personnel, a volunteer paramedic and a certified Incident Commander with the fire department. I am also experienced in D/s, having been married to a Dom, though I am not into pain. The two can go hand and hand when what goes on between two adults is safe, sane, and consensual. A well known motto in BDSM.

Considering that one needs to pass numerous psychological and written tests to even get accepted as a reserve firefighter, I would say that "crazy acts" is not something anyone in that field would be "mentally open to" when described as previously noted, and would certainly not be taken so lightly.

I am not being judgemental to anyone that is into this, and no, I do not do it. There are people that like to be cut, fire play, have their labial lips sewn together or their scrotums nailed to a board. It's all out there. However, there are a number of irresponsible people who will walk into something like this without any type of research or education. There are actually workshops on it, not that I have ever attended, but I know those who have. What it comes down to is that a person could be killed, which means someone is going to prison, or there could be permanent brain damage, which means a number of things, including a bill picked up by those paying taxes and insurance premiums.

That being said, I find the statement quoted to be quite disturbing.
 

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i love it!

not to the point where i can't breath & i'm seeing stars...that would be dangerous. not so i'm gasping for breath & my eyes are bugging.

but tight enough that i know it could be. that little fear factor. that discomfort.

sick shit? maybe, but i love it!
 

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i love it!

not to the point where i can't breath & i'm seeing stars...that would be dangerous. not so i'm gasping for breath & my eyes are bugging.

but tight enough that i know it could be. that little fear factor. that discomfort.

sick shit? maybe, but i love it!

It's not sick - I quite like something like a collar so that If I chose to lean into it I can, I enjoy the slight pressure - but I think that's a more submissive thing to do with restricted movement and being controlled, for me anyway. It's all different levels of the same kink though, isn't it? But I don't think it is sick.
 

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It's not sick - I quite like something like a collar so that If I chose to lean into it I can, I enjoy the slight pressure - but I think that's a more submissive thing to do with restricted movement and being controlled, for me anyway. It's all different levels of the same kink though, isn't it? But I don't think it is sick.
i love my collars!
that pressure on my throat just feels so right.
i feel naked without one.