ladies...holding off your orgasm

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  1. strat69

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    ladies, have you ever felt an orgasm coming on and somehow held it off to make it more intense later? maybe you wanted to wait and come together with your partner?
     
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    No, never! :eek::confused: I mean yes I can feel one coming on; but no I would never hold off hoping to make it more intense later. The thing with my orgasms is though frequent and sometimes multiple in nature, they are tempermental. If I stall or he changes rhythm, or the doorbell rings it can throw off my mojo and my orgasm can be gone . . . for the night.:mad:
    So no, I never hold an orgasm at bay.

    I'd like to believe thats pretty much just a guy thing anyway, but I may be wrong.:redface:

    njqt466
     
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    Hmm I don't wait well :smile: so I'd have to say no but my bf teases me all the time where he'll slow down and he totally knows how to do it so it's almost torture but then yeah later it's bigger :smile:.
     
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    Why wait, I think that's mainly a guy thing because they're usually only going to have the one then have to have a refactory period so they might want to build it up a little.
     
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    you are right about it being mainly a guy thing....but I have had a couple of ladies who did this and said it did lead to an intensified orgasm for them...but everyone is different
    on a related sort of idea...have you had a guy who was obviously on the verge of coming for quite a while duringsex with you? maybe he had to keep stopping or something? was that sort of hot ot just annoying?
     
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    I never hold off but my orgasms get increasinly intense till I have to stop because my stomach's hurting.

    My ex had a slight sexual dysfunction which meant he could carry on as long as he wanted but he didn't have to stop, however, two or three hours of fucking would just be boring so we'd fuck a little, have some more other non penetrative sexual related stuff then back to fucking.
     
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    your very lucky princess........its been too long since i was f****d for hours
     
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    Sadly he's now my ex, ah how I miss his enormous penis :)
     
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    rofl.

    have u looked at your clcok SP?..its 4am-eek

    where are you in england?.ive a big sis in notts

    i may need my bed soon...zzzz
     
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    soz.....clock
     
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    I had a lover who did this. It was like edging for her. She was multi-orgasmic with me but would deliberately back off and build it up over time – 30 to 45 minutes until she got to a huge one. That then led to ongoing orgasms that could go on and on. As long as we continued. She could have earlier achieved smaller scale orgasms (she called them minis) but preferred delaying for that much bigger one.

    She had only one prior lover, her ex husband, who was a premature ejaculator. She explained that if she got noticeably excited he always came right away. My speculation was she learned to prefer delaying hers through masturbation since she didn't come with her ex during sex.

    Habits can be quite ingrained.
     
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    Agreed.


     
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    I've tried holding it, but it's way to hard. Either way, when I orgasm it's still fantastic.
     
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    I'm ignoring my clock, it's been ages since I've been up this late, I've been rather busy of late so I'm having some empty headed me time :)
     
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    Im like NJQT here, if i hear a horn honk or the dog sneezes, it stops my orgasm from fully happening so to speak. And i hide the bodies of those who ruin the first orgasm, those are always the best!

    It also seems like men have this point of inevitability where they can take their hands off their cock and still ejaculate. If i stop stimming my clit mid-orgasm, its gone and I'm in a bad bad mood.
     
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    gd gd......ive only recently been learning how to have "me" time too.
     
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    this sounds much like one particular lover I had some time ago...
     
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    I only do it during masturbation, and it definitely increases the intensity.. kind of -yeah, like I imagine edging to be.
    not during sex, can't hold it back.. don't wanna...and it's so flipping good I don't need to.:biggrin1:
     
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    ...I could never wait :rolleyes::tongue:
     
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    Ive learnt my body well enough that i will orgasm on the 3rd peak. I have 2 'almost' orgasms where i get there and just have to back off and on the 3rd i can let myself go. it isnt holding off or 'edging', its just how its always been for me
     
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