I'm not sure what the definition of kink is anyway, because what is kinky for someone else is maybe the norm for me. However I don't go asking or looking for it. My last two partners were generous and very passionate that it has changed how I view sex now. I came to realize that with up until the last 2 partners, I over did it with the kinky acts, and it was to the point where dalliances would treat me like an object, or do it in such a degrading way that it just was no longer enjoyable. Then the last two partners taught me that such kinky act can be incorporated in passionate sex, but conducted in a tender yet erotic way without treating the woman as an object or degrading her. I'm not sure I'm making sense here.
After recently breaking up with someone, it will be a while before I can have sex with someone else as the other person is still in my system. It would be entirely unfair for me to try hook up with someone because lingering memories would transfer over making me have expectations that would be hard for anyone to succeed.
