OK, I don't pretend this list to be comprehensive or well-thought-out -- it's just some of the scenarios that have come up when talking to women: A guy with high sensitivity to your stimulation and quickly cums uncontrollably Believe it or not I've met women who value this. My old roommate's girlfriend let on in various jokes and situations the fact she gets off quickly and she liked the fact my roommate could be quickly finished off once she was ready to call it a night. She also liked the fact she could give him a BJ when she wasn't interested in sex and know he'd take less time than she spends waiting for her morning toast. A guy with detachment that requires lengthy, intense stimulation to cum The classic porn-stud ideal -- exactly what my roommate's girlfriend didn't want. But there's other women who want men that know their limits, pace themselves, and can go the whole night long and only need to cum at the very end, with plenty of warning. How many women get an extra sense of satisfaction knowing they had to work for the big finale? A guy with strong PC muscles that sometimes leak but prevent cumming early I had a girlfriend who said she was turned on by how she could ride her ex until the sweat was running from the folds under her breasts, and he'd keep gritting his teeth and not give in to temptation or his ejaculatory reflex kicking in. Once she let up on the stimulation and he relaxed, a spurt of cum would drool out, so it wasn't a complete shut-out, and repeated cycles of this would get messy. But she found the emotion of it very sexy. A guy with a short or no refractory period and can cum multiple times in a row When I was a teenager I could just keep going, so I didn't really see self-control as a goal. Now I've got some downtime after cumming, but not much. Some women use this to slow me down by getting the first one out of the way quickly.