Ladies, how much ejaculatory control do you want in a man?

Ladies, how much ejaculatory control do you want in a man?

  • A guy with high sensitivity to your stimulation and quickly cums uncontrollably

    Votes: 12 20.7%
  • A guy with detachment that requires lengthy, intense stimulation to cum

    Votes: 10 17.2%
  • A guy with strong PC muscles that sometimes leak but prevent cumming early

    Votes: 16 27.6%
  • A guy with a short or no refractory period and can cum multiple times in a row

    Votes: 20 34.5%

  • Total voters
    58

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Wow, this is already a popular poll with a lot of comments. Thanks, ladies.

Current votes are:
0 - High sensitivity
3 - Mental detachment
4 - Muscle control
6 - Short refractory time

Regarding the requests for multiple-choice, that defeats the purpose of the question: to make you choose what's the most desirable quality.

I find it interesting that several have praised men that "honestly" ejaculate when stimulated by a woman's efforts, but nobody has picked it as the most desirable quality.

There's also a lot of praise for men that can sustain intense penetration, and I guess if you add mental detachment and muscle control together, that preference is reflected in the voting.

Another invalid poll..... Sorry Spurt.

You should have related your poll and questions to one particular situation, as you can see from the answers, there are many possibilities and different circumstances to give valid answers.

My answer: All of the above.

You can't compare Sunday morning sex with Friday night's.
 

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I usually last from about an hour to an hour and a half, it all depends. I'm guessing that comes under #2? I'm not sure.

As for 'detachment', I try to keep that off the cards as much as possible - sex is there to be revelled in, not endured whilst thinking about something else. One of the GF's friends told her about how her BF was more interested in watching Jay Leno than in her whilst screwing, now that just sounds pretty boring to me. I got VERY detached one time with the ex, as she did with me (it was towards the end of our relationship, things weren't easy between us and the sex wasn't that great by then anyway) and after about 3 hours and with no end in sight we cut our losses and went to bed; it was just turning into one long interminable soulless perma-fuck and to be honest it wasn't fun, it was depressing - I'm never going there again.

Instead of detachment I try to vary things up a little if I'm getting too close to the tipping point - a change of position or 3 (and the 30 seconds break from screwing that provides) goes a long way to prolonging the fun for both of us, as well as mixing things up to make them more interesting. As does switching to going down on her for a while if I really really need to calm down :p I've gone for 3 and even 4 hours this way with the current GF on occassion by using enough breaks in the action, and it was a completely different experience to the time I mentioned above - and when it's time to blow, woah! Recommended!

The only problem with being a #2 is you don't have much scope for 'quickies'. I think the quickest I have been would be about 25-30 minutes - I just take a while to get there I guess. This obviously limits your options for getting rude quickly and getting away with it, say, on a night out if you have a chance to get away or something; but we still have fun, and she doesn't seem to mind that I'm not the fastest - the last guy she had was apparently a 'three-minute-man' consistently, and she says she's not really into being too quick anyway. My ex sometimes wanted me to just be as quick as possible and come so we could get on with something else, and it didn't make me feel good that she wanted it over and done with quickly or that I couldn't really do this for her, so I'm not really into being too quick either truth be told! Taking our time is much more fun :)

I guess the one time I can be 'quick' (of sorts) is when we've already been at it for a while and then she gets on top of me and rides me with the express intention of getting me to cum as soon as possible - there is a certain way she can do this when she wants to, and if I'm already quite worked up it's so difficult to hold back from letting go in a really earth-shattering way! I just feel stunned and completely out-of-it when we end up doing it this way, and she really gets off on the effect she's obviously just had on me!

As for refactory times I can definitely tell a difference between how I am now (25) and how I was when I was 18 or 19, but the increase in time isn't devastating, and as already mentioned it matters a lot how your partner treats you in between - I can still deliver 3 good loads a night when we get the chance ;)
 
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The only problem with being a #2 is you don't have much scope for 'quickies'. I think the quickest I have been would be about 25-30 minutes - I just take a while to get there I guess. This obviously limits your options for getting rude quickly and getting away with it, say, on a night out if you have a chance to get away or something;

Just because you aren't going to cum, it doesn't mean you can't have a quickie. If you see the orgasm as being the point of fucking, then I guess a quickie won't do much for you. On the other hand, if you see the fucking as being the point of fucking, there's no reason why you shouldn't indulge in and enjoy quickies.
 

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Just because you aren't going to cum, it doesn't mean you can't have a quickie. If you see the orgasm as being the point of fucking, then I guess a quickie won't do much for you. On the other hand, if you see the fucking as being the point of fucking, there's no reason why you shouldn't indulge in and enjoy quickies.

Totally agree with this. I've often mentioned how I'd love to get the orgasm out of the way so I can just enjoy the fucking. That link, the contact, the mutual pleasure, the bond... that's all I need sometimes.
 

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Just because you aren't going to cum, it doesn't mean you can't have a quickie. If you see the orgasm as being the point of fucking, then I guess a quickie won't do much for you. On the other hand, if you see the fucking as being the point of fucking, there's no reason why you shouldn't indulge in and enjoy quickies.

That's so straightforward and yet I've not seen things that way before - thanks for that, it will give us something new to try next time we get the chance for a bit of quick cheekiness!

The thought of a series of quickies without my orgasm throughout a day or evening (such as being able to get away from a night out with mates for a short while a couple of times) would really increase the lust and tension, and you just know there would be so much anticipation for the final act at the end of the night :) Sounds like a plan!
 

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I do, even if I prefer not to have quickies in general. I'm the type who'd much rather pin you down and grind against your backstop with my cockhead for hours.

Quickies are brilliant for when we need to be quick. If there's time, I'd be overjoyed to have you grinding against me backstop for hours :tongue:.


That's so straightforward and yet I've not seen things that way before - thanks for that, it will give us something new to try next time we get the chance for a bit of quick cheekiness!

You have many happy (but short :biggrin1:) times ahead of you.


The thought of a series of quickies without my orgasm throughout a day or evening (such as being able to get away from a night out with mates for a short while a couple of times) would really increase the lust and tension, and you just know there would be so much anticipation for the final act at the end of the night :) Sounds like a plan!

Oh, quickies GREATLY increase the lust and tension! I definitely see them as the appetiser, not the main event, but they are SUCH a worthwhile appetiser :tongue:.