New here so sorry if I am in the wrong section. My wife and I have been married for a long time and over the last few years she has to read erotica all through sex to climax (i say say sex as it is not real love making as she makes no effort to pleasure me). I dont know if this was after she may have had (i had suspected something from tex msgs) had an affair, but never admited anything. I use to give oral, but she wont even let me anymore. I tell her that she still turns me on etc and help around the house. What do you women make of the situation, I am tempted to look elsewhere for a more intirmate relationship.