Ladies! i need some wisdom!

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Please ladies? I need some wisdom, perspective... something.

Why are 99.99 percent of men so.... for a lack of better words... stupid, selfish and right down absent minded. I honestly feel like I’m the proof that sexuality isn’t a choice. Cause I wish I wasn’t attracted to men. How do you deal with being frustrated like that? Is the frustration even justified?
 

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I don’t know what wisdom you seek. You love who you love. We are all imperfect - some more so than others; some less so. There are certainly women who could drive me to pull my hair out, and others to whom I’d happily surrender my 10%.

Perhaps you just haven’t been attracted to, or met the right man yet. Life is both long and short. Too short too waste on those who aren’t right for you, but long enough to wait for someone who is.
 

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I don’t know what wisdom you seek. You love who you love. We are all imperfect - some more so than others; some less so. There are certainly women who could drive me to pull my hair out, and others to whom I’d happily surrender my 10%.

Perhaps you just haven’t been attracted to, or met the right man yet. Life is both long and short. Too short too waste on those who aren’t right for you, but long enough to wait for someone who is.

Thank you.
 
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I don't think it's just guys. Everybody is inherently self-serving; it's what kept the strongest among the species alive when we still existed in a state of nature. Men are necessarily more sexually motivated than women as a byproduct of similar sociobiological factors. We exist in a state of cooperation and cohabitation today that often morphs the manifestation of our core drives and instincts into a shape that is more readily permissable within the confines of personal and social ethical codes, but the the basis of those feelings and urges are the same as they have ever been. So, just like you can't help but be attracted to men, those men can't help but be strongly influenced by the 3.5 billion years of evolution that predisposed them to certain behaviors and desires. It makes it easier, for me at least, to then understand that people aren't being arbitrarily spiteful, vindictive, or aggressively sexual, they're just being people. Similarly, part of loving somebody is accepting the fact that they aren't just your perfect mental image of them, but also a person that has those feelings, desires and predilection inside of them.
 

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I don't think it's just guys. Everybody is inherently self-serving; it's what kept the strongest among the species alive when we still existed in a state of nature. Men are necessarily more sexually motivated than women as a byproduct of similar sociobiological factors. We exist in a state of cooperation and cohabitation today that often morphs the manifestation of our core drives and instincts into a shape that is more readily permissable within the confines of personal and social ethical codes, but the the basis of those feelings and urges are the same as they have ever been. So, just like you can't help but be attracted to men, those men can't help but be strongly influenced by the 3.5 billion years of evolution that predisposed them to certain behaviors and desires. It makes it easier, for me at least, to then understand that people aren't being arbitrarily spiteful, vindictive, or aggressively sexual, they're just being people. Similarly, part of loving somebody is accepting the fact that they aren't just your perfect mental image of them, but also a person that has those feelings, desires and predilection inside of them.

That was a mic-drop right there...

Great post.
 

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Please ladies? I need some wisdom, perspective... something.

Why are 99.99 percent of men so.... for a lack of better words... stupid, selfish and right down absent minded. I honestly feel like I’m the proof that sexuality isn’t a choice. Cause I wish I wasn’t attracted to men. How do you deal with being frustrated like that? Is the frustration even justified?
It just sounds to me like you need to say no more often. Men are usually thoughtful and sweet toward me. I expect certain behavior, call out treatment to the contrary, and refuse to tolerate any encroachment on my boundaries. I never feel chronically mistreated. Sometimes I feel we aren't compatible. Sometimes I feel like his feelings have changed, and he's no longer treating me well, and it's time for me to go. So, I do. I have lots of male friends. Most of my friends are men. I love them, and they have been so very good to me.

It sounds like you're hurting right now. It will pass. I promise. You just have to let it.