Ladies, is it better for a guy to think he's too big or too small?

[basincreek]

Sorry, there's really no hiding it. But you'll be fine! Don't mention your size. If she asks, tell her the honest truth and DON'T apologise for it - be proud and confident about what you've got (even if you don't feel that way inside). Let her explore you. And if she doesn't like what you've got, SHE is the one with the problem, not you.

I don't think a woman wanting at least an average sized dick is her having a problem. She wants "normal" at least. Is that so bad?

But, if what you and others are saying is correct, she'll use methods to find this out without me even telling her. Which just means we'll never even get to the bedroom at all.

If that's the case don't you think I should bring it up ahead of time in order to try and talk her into trying something smaller than normal? If I don't I'll just get a string of women bailing on me after using those methods to determine it's size ahead of time.

Yep! Your right there, just kissing gets most guys, especially me, very hard

Really? Granted I've never kissed a gal so I wouldn't know. I had never thought of it inducing an erection.

 

[B_Yeah69]

And BC, it's pretty easy to figure out someone's approximate size before you get naked with them. Most men (all the ones I've been with anyway) seem to get hard pretty quickly when kissing. And if I'm kissing them, my hands are very, very busy downstairs . . .

Very true:smile:

 

[Hardballin]

undersell it. say its only like 2 inches, they will be like WOW huge for 2 inches.

 

[basincreek]

Uh, if I tell them it's two inches there won't be an opportunity to show that it's actually bigger.

 

[B_subgirrl]

Yep! Your right there, just kissing gets most guys, especially me, very hard

Very true:smile:

So I don't have magic powers? Damn! :biggrin1:

I don't think a woman wanting at least an average sized dick is her having a problem. She wants "normal" at least. Is that so bad?

You ARE normal. As we've said many times already, most women would be satisfied with your size. If she isn't satisfied it will because SHE is unusual, not because you are.

But, if what you and others are saying is correct, she'll use methods to find this out without me even telling her. Which just means we'll never even get to the bedroom at all.

No reason you shouldn't get to the bedroom. You are a very normal size. Yes, you are slightly below average in girth. But it is a very normal variation and not a big enough one that you will be rejected based on that.

If that's the case don't you think I should bring it up ahead of time in order to try and talk her into trying something smaller than normal? If I don't I'll just get a string of women bailing on me after using those methods to determine it's size ahead of time.

DON'T bring it up at all. It will just make you look insecure. If she asks you tell her honestly what your size is, but DON'T inform her that you are in the bottom third and don't say anything that makes you look as though you lack confidence.

Really? Granted I've never kissed a gal so I wouldn't know. I had never thought of it inducing an erection.

Truly. While I've heard a few guys say it isn't that easy for them, for most people (male and female) kissing is a highly erotic experience.

 

[B_penispenispenis37]

Uh, if I tell them it's two inches there won't be an opportunity to show that it's actually bigger.

Why is it that you have to bother everyone else about your penis size insecurities? You are insane.

It seems that you refuse to accept the possibility that you could actually pleasure a woman with it.

You might have trouble grasping reality because you are looking for reassurance on a forum where people go to talk about LARGE cocks.

 

[7x6]

I think almost all women would find any guy preoccupied with his cock size a turn off. The only exception being the occasional size queen who might get turned on by claims of huge size but they are few and far between.

I've talked cock size to most of the women i've fucked (it turns me on, it's why i'm here) and very few want to talk openly about their preferences. Of those that did, two spoke of rejecting guys that made it obvious they were hung, not through fear of pain but through being turned off by attitudes they (possibly unfairly) associated with having a big dick. I hate to generalize but most women aren't looking for a fuck they're looking for potential partners and are going to find it hard to trust a guy that brings up his dick size when he meets a woman.

For a guy with a small cock to bring it up is insane. Most women will see it as insecurity, most to some extent prefer larger than average (much like guys' boob preference, most prefer them big but to some that might mean a skinny girl with C cups, to others a circus freak that looks like she has a couple of beach balls under her shirt).

 

[petite]

I'd go for the guy who doesn't talk about his dick.

Try discussing your favorite book instead, that's way hotter to me.

 

[basincreek]

Well, talking about your dick on a first date is probably a huge no-no. Even I know that.

As for talking about favorite books.....I wonder how many other people, let alone women, have actually read Future Noir: the making of Blade Runner?

Yes, that's among my favorite books.

Other favorites of mine include The Hot Zone, a book all about the Ebola virus, The God Delusion by Richard Dawkins and Why People Believe Weird Things by Michael Shermer.

As you can see I don't read a lot of fiction. I also tend to get used college text books and read them for fun. I used to have a subscription to the journal Nature as well but that lapsed a few years ago.

I actually did try talking books with one of my last blind dates but that was the one where she took off with another guy half-way through it. I don't think the book talk was why she did that though.

 

[B_subgirrl]

Well, talking about your dick on a first date is probably a huge no-no. Even I know that.

As for talking about favorite books.....I wonder how many other people, let alone women, have actually read Future Noir: the making of Blade Runner?

Yes, that's among my favorite books.

Other favorites of mine include The Hot Zone, a book all about the Ebola virus, The God Delusion by Richard Dawkins and Why People Believe Weird Things by Michael Shermer.

As you can see I don't read a lot of fiction. I also tend to get used college text books and read them for fun. I used to have a subscription to the journal Nature as well but that lapsed a few years ago.

I actually did try talking books with one of my last blind dates but that was the one where she took off with another guy half-way through it. I don't think the book talk was why she did that though.

They sound like pretty interesting books to me. Except for The God Delusion. I couldn't read much of that because RD wasn't being very respectful to those who are religious. It's totally possible to offer proof against everything a person believes whilst still being respectful (I'm not religious myself BTW). I've enjoyed some of his other books though.

I love hearing men talk about what they are passionate about, even if I don't know a thing about the topic (although I probably draw the line at sports :smile. I bet there are many women out there who feel the same way.

 

[petite]

I have to agree with subgirrl. As long as you're really interested in what you're talking about, you probably sound interesting when you talk about it.

Is it a love of Blad Runner that makes you love Future Noir, or do you have an interest in film-making?

My father happened to enjoy The Hot Zone and he recommended it to me. I also love non-fiction and I really enjoy science in particular.

 

[B_subgirrl]

My father happened to enjoy The Hot Zone and he recommended it to me. I also love non-fiction and I really enjoy science in particular.

I have to admit to being a bit of a pop science nerd. Especially if it's about animals or evolution (particularly human evolution).

 

[petite]

I have to admit to being a bit of a pop science nerd. Especially if it's about animals or evolution (particularly human evolution).

I like those, too. I'm also a big fan of Carl Sagan's non-fiction, "pop" mathematics books, and "pop" medical science. I've read several books on neurology by a neurologist and several on genetics, by a geneticist.

I'm also big on reading used textbooks, too. They're great! Since becoming pregnant, I've collected four on infancy and baby/childhood development! I wanted a contrast to the dozens of other books I've gotten about pregnancy, baby care, and child-rearing.

 

[Empathizer]

Textbooks are a good idea for something like pregnancy and child development (off topic I know, but...) because pop-child rearing books are full of grinding axes and agendas so thick they should be labeled "Filofax" (+koff!+ Jenny McCarthy!+koff!+). Texts, for the most part, are for people who have to know the facts for the profession.

It is a sign of a balanced and truly inquisitive and intelligent mind that you read textbooks in addition to the usual What To Expect When You're Expecting type books.

As for basincreek, I think your reading of nonfiction is symptomatic and emblematic of your search for The Truth of the Matter. So, it would seem, is your dating style.

Here's some advice that you can take or leave, depending, of course, upon what you want to do, duh-at-me. If a book seems too fluffy and full of shit for you and wanders off trying to seduce some other person's mind, do you blame yourself? No. Same goes for dating. If she wanders off and tries to find someone who cares about things you don't care as much about as he and she do, just put her back on the shelf. There's a book in the library of love for you. Just waiting for you to riffle her pages and consume her. And then bookmark her!

 

[B_subgirrl]

I like those, too. I'm also a big fan of Carl Sagan's non-fiction, "pop" mathematics books, and "pop" medical science. I've read several books on neurology by a neurologist and several on genetics, by a geneticist.

I'm also big on reading used textbooks, too. They're great! Since becoming pregnant, I've collected four on infancy and baby/childhood development! I wanted a contrast to the dozens of other books I've gotten about pregnancy, baby care, and child-rearing.

Neurology, medicine and genetics work for me too. Not maths though - yuck! I don't often read textbooks for fun (have to read too many of them for uni) but I'll ALWAYS go to textbooks or journals if i want to know stuff.

As for basincreek, I think your reading of nonfiction is symptomatic and emblematic of your search for The Truth of the Matter. So, it would seem, is your dating style.

Here's some advice that you can take or leave, depending, of course, upon what you want to do, duh-at-me. If a book seems too fluffy and full of shit for you and wanders off trying to seduce some other person's mind, do you blame yourself? No. Same goes for dating. If she wanders off and tries to find someone who cares about things you don't care as much about as he and she do, just put her back on the shelf. There's a book in the library of love for you. Just waiting for you to riffle her pages and consume her. And then bookmark her!

I think this is the best Basincreek-related advice anyone has ever given! Brilliant stuff!

BC, this is EXACTLY what we've been trying to tell you.

 

[Empathizer]

If any of you have ever seen the Disney version of Alice in Wonderland, you'l probably remember the song she sings when she is lost and sad and alone in Wonderland: "I give myself very good advice. But I very seldom follow it..."

 

[chefgreg]

Hit the nail on the head with that one. Another argument for an "Ask a woman" sub-forum.

I really like this idea.

 

[basincreek]

I have to agree with subgirrl. As long as you're really interested in what you're talking about, you probably sound interesting when you talk about it.

You'd think so but it throws you off when she says things like "I'm here for a date, not to think."

Is it a love of Blad Runner that makes you love Future Noir, or do you have an interest in film-making?

Both.

My father happened to enjoy The Hot Zone and he recommended it to me. I also love non-fiction and I really enjoy science in particular.

Good to hear. We have one local bookstore and it's really sad that I never see women in the science or history sections of it. They're in the store but they seem to spend all their time in romantic fiction and especially Christian books.

I have to admit to being a bit of a pop science nerd. Especially if it's about animals or evolution (particularly human evolution).

Also great to hear.

As for basincreek, I think your reading of nonfiction is symptomatic and emblematic of your search for The Truth of the Matter. So, it would seem, is your dating style.

Here's some advice that you can take or leave, depending, of course, upon what you want to do, duh-at-me. If a book seems too fluffy and full of shit for you and wanders off trying to seduce some other person's mind, do you blame yourself? No. Same goes for dating. If she wanders off and tries to find someone who cares about things you don't care as much about as he and she do, just put her back on the shelf. There's a book in the library of love for you. Just waiting for you to riffle her pages and consume her. And then bookmark her!

Interesting analogy. Now imagine you're in a locked room with only that one book and a bunch of other eager readers.

 

[Empathizer]

But she's YOUR book. She's telling the other readers to go away because she likes your boyish charm and she's maybe a latent domme who's totally jonesing to give you a starring role in her Well-Respected Female Sexpert/Slightly Geeky New Male Research Assistant roleplay. Think of yourself as a pen-and-paper RPG character who is unaware of how high his creator rolled when he was filling out the worksheet for you.

 

[basincreek]

That's definitely a new way to look at it Empathizer even if I'm not quite getting the RPG reference......yeah I'll admit that I never really played those things. Missed opportunity I guess.