ladies, it'a about your shoes...

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Shoes are like clothes - ignore the label. Try them on and just wear what fits. Who cares what the number says?
 

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Shoes are like clothes - ignore the label. Try them on and just wear what fits. Who cares what the number says?

Ugh, I agree so much it's not even funny.

...And then I walk into some store and they want to know my size, *clerk fetches article I desire*... it doesn't fit, then proceeds to measure me and state that I had it all wrong, "you're actually ___ size Ms."

Shoes aren't so bad for this, as each store doesn't seem to make up their own numbers. But holeee-frig it's frustrating if you don't feel like trying 5 of the same thing on to get a fit for clothing.
 

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Ugh, I agree so much it's not even funny.

...And then I walk into some store and they want to know my size, *clerk fetches article I desire*... it doesn't fit, then proceeds to measure me and state that I had it all wrong, "you're actually ___ size Ms."

Shoes aren't so bad for this, as each store doesn't seem to make up their own numbers. But holeee-frig it's frustrating if you don't feel like trying 5 of the same thing on to get a fit for clothing.

I know. It's so frustrating. Sizing is so inconsistent with clothing. Shoes aren't as bad, but depending on style and where they are made can make a huge difference. I'm generally an 8, but I've had to buy a 10 a couple of times and a 7 once.
 

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Good question, why do we torture our feet? My feet hurt so bad last night after 6 hours in 4" heels I choose to walk back to my car in bare feet over rough pavement rather than walk another step in those stilettos. I really dont know why other than it elongates your legs and gives you a nicer overall appearance than shorter heels.
 

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The danger is to the softening ligaments of the mother (causing lower back pain), not to the baby. Mom's own decision for her own comfort level.

Thanks for you input.

So wearing heels causes extra stress to the lower back of the mother in addition to whatever stress is caused by carrying the extra weight of the baby?

I once saw an aquaintance say to his pregnant gf that she shouldn't wear heels while pregnant. She proceeded to wear them on that occasion anyway. It seemed like a plausible warning but I'd never heard of it before and didn't know the actual reasons behind it at the time so I didn't say anything.
 

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The interaction between the foot and the rest of the body has become something of a hot topic recently in the exercise world that has moved over into the physical therapy realm as well. I think all sides unanimously agree that high heeled shoes (for both sexes) are probably bad choices.

To start, an increased heel naturally elongates your gait to produce a greater heel strike while stepping. The heel is tough, but compared to the forefoot does virtually nothing in terms of absorbing shock. The extra stress is most frequently transferred to the knees or low back especially in the presence of poor ankle and hip mobility.

The elevated heel also puts your calves in a chronically stretched position, while inhibiting the muscles on the front side of the shin. I'd hazard a guess and say this is why a lot of women get shin splints from running or roll their ankles in heels. Additionally you can imagine (or reasonably conclude) that a chronically tight muscle group isn't going to do your body any favors.

You could have a looooong debate on arch support and padding in shoes in general, though the research is extremely early and tenuous so most of that is intuitively based. The general thought circulating at the moment is that arch supports and excessive padding create weak feet, which once again lead to all sorts of problems. I'm inclined to agree there's some potential merit to that argument, but I hate any conclusion that pins all problems on one variable.

Maybe we should all walk barefoot everywhere from now on :wink:
 

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When I was coming up they had just come out with 'Earth shoes' in Denmark, with the negative heel lower than the rest of the foot. They were pretty nice actually. I have the very broad and high arched foot known as "Native" type even though I am not, possibly due to the Finno-Ugric connection. Finding wide enough shoes has always been a struggle. Most ladies' high heels bend my foot in all the wrong spots to walk in.

However-- I recently found some marvelous platform 'playtime' boots at a second hand store that must have been made for a very petite woman, and they are amazingly comfortable for when I need to be taller than my partner, muwahaha. I wouldn't go anywhere in them but around the mattress. They look almost like hooves, they are so clunky!
 

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Referring to posters that said they have a wide foot and choose not to wear heels, that might be why I can wear heels - I have a narrow foot measuring less than a Medium width which I guess is actually quite odd since I technically have a large frame - large bones.
 
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I've paid the price for wearing pointy toe heels and have thrown them all out.

I love pretty shoes too but hubby and I shop together and we talk about the shoes we both like. He loves sexy, strappy, and I love the comfort. We have found some really good compromises. Yes some have heels, but they are definitely comfortable. The high heels are only worn on special occasions, and for a very short period of time.

If I'm going to be doing very much walking, it's flats with support for me.
I am tall so heels are just to highlight my long legs. And like I said, Im not gonna have them on for mor than an hour or so at the most, with very little walking (theyare my 'show shoes')...

I think I've found a happy medium and even my flats are stylish. You don't have to forsake style for comfort and health. Just have to look... and look...
 

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I have some heeled shoes, man-heels. You know, the shoe that's almost a boot type. I wear a plain pair of hard-wearing black shoes for exercise and general use. Other than that, I have a pair of very nice oxfords that my father made. Those are my dress-shoes and the closest thing I have to 'lucky shoes'.


MoT, that is so nice that you wear the oxfords that your father made and consider them lucky shoes - wonderful sentiment!

Also, you mention wearing heeled man shoes or boots, that sounds very militaristic.
 

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MoT, that is so nice that you wear the oxfords that your father made and consider them lucky shoes - wonderful sentiment!

Also, you mention wearing heeled man shoes or boots, that sounds very militaristic.
Thank you. :smile: The other shoes aren't really militaristic, they are similar to this. I don't know what they are called, but that's the closest picture I could find.
 

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Oh MoT, that's a nice looking boot, very retro actually.

I am curious though, why would you choose to exercise in them? When I exercise I wear shoes specifically designed for the activity.
 

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Good question, why do we torture our feet? My feet hurt so bad last night after 6 hours in 4" heels I choose to walk back to my car in bare feet over rough pavement rather than walk another step in those stilettos. I really dont know why other than it elongates your legs and gives you a nicer overall appearance than shorter heels.
i can't undersyand why anyone does that. :confused:
why put yourself through that much pain?
You could have a looooong debate on arch support and padding in shoes in general, though the research is extremely early and tenuous so most of that is intuitively based. The general thought circulating at the moment is that arch supports and excessive padding create weak feet, which once again lead to all sorts of problems.
my pet hate.
my feet get claustrophobic and need room to move naturally. i've always detested the feel of trainers. we evolved to move barefoot so, unless there's some weakness there, my gut instinct is that my feet are better off being naked. i have never worn shoes indoors.
 

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Most Western style boots, ya know 'cowboy boots', have rather a high heel. I can wear a man's size of those but not a lady's.

Helgaleena, I too have worn my share of Western style boots. I used to show horses in Western style classes and English hunt seat. I chose to wear Tony Lama brand western style boots even working at the stables - extremely comfortable and stylish boots!
 

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I am a comfort first type of shoe shopper. There are times when I break this rule, but that only occurs for footwear to fit a select-occasion, which shouldn't beat me down over time.

-For running I have a really funky pair of Vibram FiveFingers runners (which are *awesome*)
-My hiking boots are made by AKU and are literally the most comfortable things my feet have ever been in. I almost get sad when I have to put my feet in anything else.
-Daily wear depends on the dress occasion, but I try to stick with flip-flops or a dressy/casual pair of sneakers with really good arch support.
-Everything else I own has heels in some form, but it's rare that I would wear them more than a couple times a week, or do any endurance walking in them.

you actually run in those? theyre so thin, seems like it would be painful after a few miles. i kinda wanted them when i first saw them, but im not the kind of guy that just doesnt wear socks. i saw those man toe socks... yeah, that just isnt an option.

i guess ill just stick to Asics :(