Ladies....meeting you

Discussion in 'Women's Issues' started by _avg_, Nov 11, 2007.

  1. _avg_

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    I need some serious advice on meeting women. I'm...just not good at it.

    I am not 'aggressive'; I don't hit the bars or the gym looking for women; I am *extremely* limited by finances and transportation; I hate "advertising" to the point of (possibly) undue humility. I treat my modesty as a virtue but EVERYONE I've spoken with has said it's a turn-off. I feel I have the intelligence wome often are looking for, but I lack the "smarts" to read their signals (properly).

    Please, help me to meet 'you'!

    Thank you in advance.

    [ps. "have confidence" is too obvious...specifics would help]
     
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    Practice makes perfect.

    If you have a close friend (male or female, doesn't matter), practice approaching them and talking to them as if they were a girl you wanted to ask out.

    It's a crack-up, but it can "oil" your boy-meets-girl mental machinery.

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    Some people do like modest, humble people. Some people prefer "warrior" type men. Eh. It takes all kinds to make the world go around. Be yourself. :wink:
     
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    Approaching a girl "cold" is possibly one of the scariest things in the world!!

    Of course, the worst they could do is kick you in the nuts...but still...
     
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    avg - You shold know better than to ask people about meeting women. Either you know, or you pay to play.
     
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    Hmmm...I'm not sure I follow, shaguar. Sort of the "If you have to ask what Zen is..." philosophy; is that right?

    There is no magic formula, that's for sure. I guess I'm looking for what's worked for others, as pretty much nothing's worked for me...

    That is, I want to know my audience better to better understand why they haven't responded (positively) to me.
     
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    LOL -- true. You are being held prisoner by your "worst case scenerios"!!

    This article is a really good read on how to ask without asking... without setting yourself up for out-and-out rejection:

    How to ask someone out...
     
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    Thanks again, hotmilf. I appreciate the article.

    I guess I'm just hopeless. Thanks anyways.
     
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