Ladies, please help! She cant get me hard!!!

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  1. stevie_g

    stevie_g New Member

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    Hi all.... Im new to this site.. So Hi Ya to everyone.

    My Problem:

    I've been seeing a girl for a few weeks, and we've finally moved things to the bedroom. But i cannot get hard when im with her..... She is a gorgeous girl and has a very sexy body, but it just wont happen.

    I have slept with quite a few women in my life and never ever had this problem!!!! I hav no idea what is wrong, and to be honest, it is really quite embarressing.

    Whats going on? Can anyone offer some views or suggestions?

    Thanks





    10.5 x 8
     
  2. naughtynymph

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    Hi Stevie, welcome to the site, sorry to hear about your problem. You say this girl is gorgeous with a sexy body, but you didn't say if she turns you on. If she does then it could be that you think too much of her, and deep down you want to wait to make it really special.
    You also said you've slept with loads of women and this hasn't happened before, were any if these women serious or just flings. :tongue:

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    thanks naughty,

    yeh she turns me on! no question. And maybe your right.... maybe she turns me on too much! I think shes so perfect that i just want to make the sex perfect for her. which i know i can do.... but am just struggling at the moment!

    I have had 4 or 5 long relationships.... but the rest have been flings.
     
  4. RideRocket

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    Welcome and enjoy the group!

    Sounds like you have a case of performance anxiety. I think you may feel a bit intimidated by her since you said she's gorgeous and sexy. All men experience periods of impotence so don't get distressed. You are probably nervous when you are around her because you want to impress her and satisfy her. You may not realize it, but there is stress you are putting on yourself, and your penis tends to be the first to suffer.

    Try to relax, take things slowly and don't force the issue. Also, talk with her and let her know how you are feeling. Besides, contrary to popular belief, it's not always all about the penis. There are other ways of satisfying her until 'he' decides he's ready to play.

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    to further evaluate your situation I need to see pics of this girl...:smile:
     
  5. stevie_g

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    thanks for the advice rocket.......

    Dont worry, I've been trying to do everything i can for her..... I dont think i have ever given a girl oral sex for 2 weeks straight before now. Which is great, but i'd sure like to get off at some stage.

    She says that it is no problem, and she is happy to keep trying. But i know that she must be frustrated (as am i).

    I've tried to relax, take it slow, not really think about it. But nothing is working!!!
     
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    Riderocket is right, sounds like you're intimidated.

    My suggestion is to move sex down the menu. Enjoy being around her. Snuggle on the sofa...hot tub it...massage...whatever you enjoy. My other suggestion in lots of foreplay...until it makes you crazy. I have yet to meet a woman who wanted me to just rip off my trousers and ram it in.
     
  7. windtalkerways

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    Concentrate on your thought process
    with regard to your new woman. You
    have to redirect thoughts...replacing
    the idea of her being "perfect" and
    wanting to "impress" her with a
    spectacular performance...to sharing
    the journey.

    Best advice is to make sure you stay
    in the moment... feel, taste, hear,
    see... everything happening between
    your bodies and do not fret over the
    moment of penetration.

    Concentrate on the here and now
    and the final destination will happen.
    Have a wonderful time.

     
  8. Lordpendragon

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    And don't jerk off between times!
     
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    Relax
     
  10. royston

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    get viagra from the doctor....loads of blokes take it but they just keep it stumm. once uv got hard once you wont think about it and ul b find...its only ur fear of it happening that is the prob x
     
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    Just have her start sucking on your soft cock. That works for me
     
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    The fact that you put your question in the "women's Issues" section says a lot about you.

    It's not her problem. It's yours.

    But here's a hint:

    If you think it's a coincidence, you haven't been paying attention.

    Another hint:

    If you think it's "she" who can't get you hard, there is a possibility you may never have another erection again as long as you live.

    Words have meaning.
    Actions have consequences.
    People are real.

    :raincloud:
     
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    stop thinking about getting hard
     
  14. ben40

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    dude, from personal experience, the less you think about things, the better you will perform
    just switch off and enjoy the moment!
     
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    anytime I'm struggling...i go downtown and spend how much ever time I need to get motivated:smile: It usually works wonders and gets her motor started....double bonus!
     
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    here's a trick i learnt in nam! if she's not gettin u hard then ask her to suck ur balls instead of cock and wank while she does it...that way u just get urself hard and she thinks she's helpin...once ur up and runnin its game over xx

    royston
     
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