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I've always been big on "sexual education" in the get the job done sense and was fortunate to have a boyfriend who shared the academic interest.

We mutually delved into a lot of guides in different formats that had material ranging from kamasutra, foreplay, positions, tips & techniques, and so on. If you already think yourself fairly well versed, most of what you find or purchase is going to be directed at men, and will only contain a few good tidbits or facts here and there.

The material I found useful was in the form of novel bedroom techniques and "why didn't I think of that!" stuff. For example, the use of a fine soft scarf to rub across each other as foreplay, wines and foods that best mix with the flavors of sex, and even placing things between your legs when being penetrated from behind so your clitoris has something to gently brush against. I'll see if I can find what the book that touched on this stuff was... I think it was a 100-best or something stupid like that, but was divided half-and-half for men and women and was well written.

Nina Hartley has some great guides for both sexes, and unique ideas to boot! Things that sound silly at first like tracing the motions on the underside of his chin with your finger, so he knows exactly how you want him to move whatever part of his body actually works *reallly* well. Thank-you Nina!

She Comes First: The Thinking Man's Guide To Pleasuring A Woman: Amazon.ca: Ian Kerner: Books

Was the book *I* appreciated most, and was the biggest recipient of. If you're finding the foreplay of your partner to be in need of improvement (or you want to glean some ideas for yourself), this would be my first go-to.

Also, I am certain I read the Lesbian Sex Book mentioned above (though it had a different cover) and give it another nod of approval.
 
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This is a pretty stupid thread for dolfette.

Forgetting the fires of hell that would be unleashed on this forum if the question were reversed to "are there any books or aids to make sure that a first time girl isn't a lousy lay, & knows how to damn well satisfy her man", the point is anybody will be relatively crap there first time.

If both parties are inexperienced, they can learn together can't they?

No one even knows what they really like, or what works for them until they physically try it - learning driving in a book does not prepare you for the road.

Stuff that works well on a 40 year old may not fly at all with a teen, physically, or mentally.

The only thing that makes people better in bed is practice. It's pointless learning delaying techniques for a newbie guy, because you can't recreate the stimulus, & hell, you can be up again a minute later - & why deny yourself multiple orgasms at the only time in your life that you'll naturally get them?

The age old solution, still practised on the continent I believe, is to just take a virgin son repeatedly to a clean & sensitive hooker, but really, FFS just let them find out for themselves what they want to do.
 

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This is a pretty stupid thread for dolfette.

Forgetting the fires of hell that would be unleashed on this forum if the question were reversed to "are there any books or aids to make sure that a first time girl isn't a lousy lay, & knows how to damn well satisfy her man", the point is anybody will be relatively crap there first time.

If both parties are inexperienced, they can learn together can't they?

No one even knows what they really like, or what works for them until they physically try it - learning driving in a book does not prepare you for the road.

Stuff that works well on a 40 year old may not fly at all with a teen, physically, or mentally.

The only thing that makes people better in bed is practice. It's pointless learning delaying techniques for a newbie guy, because you can't recreate the stimulus, & hell, you can be up again a minute later - & why deny yourself multiple orgasms at the only time in your life that you'll naturally get them?

The age old solution, still practised on the continent I believe, is to just take a virgin son repeatedly to a clean & sensitive hooker, but really, FFS just let them find out for themselves what they want to do.
Nonsense. Maybe I'm just saying that because it was a topic by me that inspired this topic, so it's not really dolfette's fault for this.

In any case, I don't see what's so wrong with this topic. It's probably one of those "Ask a woman" topics and not necessarily a woman's issue, but it's certainly to do more with woman than a penis!

Now I don't know if we're necessarily talking about virgins or simply inexperienced guys, but personally I'm taking in what the ladies have to say so that when the time comes, I can test what I learn and see if the girl appreciates it and gets off on it. Some women will say that they would prefer a man who knows what they're doing rather than telling him what to do - obviously not every women will think this, and I'm sure they would be considerate if he was a virgin or didn't have a lot of experience.

Still, even using your example with driving: knowing more about the car before you use it is a great headstart. If mommy or daddy or sissy or whoever taught you to drive didn't tell you what the controls do, how else would you know? You could do trial-and-error and have no idea what you're doing and try to be lucky in "hitting the right buttons", or you could just read the manual and see if that works. Hopefully no one is just going to read or watch something and not do anything with that knowledge.
 
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I've always been big on "sexual education" in the get the job done sense and was fortunate to have a boyfriend who shared the academic interest.

We mutually delved into a lot of guides in different formats that had material ranging from kamasutra, foreplay, positions, tips & techniques, and so on. If you already think yourself fairly well versed, most of what you find or purchase is going to be directed at men, and will only contain a few good tidbits or facts here and there.

The material I found useful was in the form of novel bedroom techniques and "why didn't I think of that!" stuff. For example, the use of a fine soft scarf to rub across each other as foreplay, wines and foods that best mix with the flavors of sex, and even placing things between your legs when being penetrated from behind so your clitoris has something to gently brush against. I'll see if I can find what the book that touched on this stuff was... I think it was a 100-best or something stupid like that, but was divided half-and-half for men and women and was well written.

Nina Hartley has some great guides for both sexes, and unique ideas to boot! Things that sound silly at first like tracing the motions on the underside of his chin with your finger, so he knows exactly how you want him to move whatever part of his body actually works *reallly* well. Thank-you Nina!

She Comes First: The Thinking Man's Guide To Pleasuring A Woman: Amazon.ca: Ian Kerner: Books

Was the book *I* appreciated most, and was the biggest recipient of. If you're finding the foreplay of your partner to be in need of improvement (or you want to glean some ideas for yourself), this would be my first go-to.

Also, I am certain I read the Lesbian Sex Book mentioned above (though it had a different cover) and give it another nod of approval.

Such a ringing endorsement. Might warrant me checking it out.
 

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Nonsense. Maybe I'm just saying that because it was a topic by me that inspired this topic, so it's not really dolfette's fault for this.

All is explained then!:tongue:

Still, even using your example with driving: knowing more about the car before you use it is a great headstart. If mommy or daddy or sissy or whoever taught you to drive didn't tell you what the controls do, how else would you know? You could do trial-and-error and have no idea what you're doing and try to be lucky in "hitting the right buttons", or you could just read the manual and see if that works. Hopefully no one is just going to read or watch something and not do anything with that knowledge.

The best advice for any man who wants to elicit information from a woman is still - Ask question courteously, shut mouth, listen, do not interrupt, smile, & say thank.

I wouldn't want to learn about sex from Mommy or Sissy thanks.

If a woman is way more experienced than the guy, she should always hop in the driving seat IMO.
 

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but not all women will.
he might fall in love with a shy girl.
it's good, IMO, to have a little book learning as a starting point. you can adapt, experiment and improvise from there.
 

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I don't have any books or videos to refer Mr Inexperienced to, but from personal experience:

Do your best to understand the anatomy of women in general and of your woman in particular. Know what each bit is, what it does, and where it is located (including female anatomy that doesn't tend to be directly involved in sex). Know which spots commonly produce pleasure if stimulated. Understand that these spots will not all work for all women, and some women will have orgasmic spots that are less common (it's good if you know some of these too).

The most important contributor (I think) to good sex is your ability to watch your partner, be aware of what they are feeling, and if you aren't sure what they are feeling, ask THEM. An awful lot of posts on this site could be avoided if people just paid a bit of attention to their partner whilst having sex and had the courage to talk about that sex with the person they're screwing.


Oh, and last but not least, all my backposts. I know, I know, I'm the humblest person I know!

In all seriousness, this is actually REALLY good advice!
 

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but not all women will.
he might fall in love with a shy girl.
it's good, IMO, to have a little book learning as a starting point. you can adapt, experiment and improvise from there.

New book ideas.

Bondage for Dummies

A Beginner's guide to S&M

The wonderful world of anal

Toy Story 4 - Buzz her ears off

They'll probably happen:rolleyes:
 

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