ladies {that means NOT men who think they know the answer} how do you cum?

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  1. dolfette

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    g spot?
    clit?
    nipples?
    all three?
    not at all?
    kissing?
    sitting on a bike?

    i can only O via clit.
    nipple stimulation speeds things.
    i like vibes but fingers work ok too.

    and i only orgasm solo.

    you?
     
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    Clit. Vibes are cool, but can numb the area after awhile, so I prefer fingers. A little anal stimulation doesn't hurt. I have had several instances where I have cum w/out touching myself at all.... images, both visual & mental have done it for me. That's always fascinating.
     
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    I have only orgasm solo also but yes clit sucking my nipples and bikes speed things along I agree to that. I like a lot of kissing and rubbing and god I love the feel of a harley motor between my legs its awsome!
     
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    My favorite way to orgasm is during sexual intercourse with my husband. I can do it with me on top.....or with the missionary position......him on top.

    I can orgasm through masturbation......but it takes a lot longer.....and I need to be reading erotic material or watching porn.....or looking at pics.
     
  5. dolfette

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    i wank so rarely these days that numbing isn't an issue.
    but weirdly, my clit lost a lot of sensation after i popped out a >10lb baby.
    nerve damage of some type perhaps.

    the O without contact is interesting...
    what time scale are you talking?
    see a pic & pop?
    or spend 30 minutes watching good porn?
     
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    yay! we are not alone...
    and you're almost my opposite.

    do you think single life was more difficult for you, before your hubby came along, if pleasing yourself is tricky?
     
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    I do from clit stimulation, g-spot (this I discovered only recently, oddly) and a-spot stimulation. Nipple play and anal play help matters, sometimes.
     
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    i was born with a lot of clit nerves apparently...it definitely dominates. a little gspot stim makes it come along much quicker but it still takes a lot of concentration and the planets aligning perfectly to happen at the hand of someone else.

    alone....im an insane masturbator because it comes fastest this way. a vibrator up my ass makes it much more intense but i rarely can do that anymore. anal is a real pain in the ass because of the preparation to make it more pleasant.
     
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    i've quit on anal entirely.
    i think my issue is boredom.
    everything loses it's novelty value for me eventually, so these days i'm just scrubbing one as a sleeping pill.
     
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    I thought i was the only one who orgasmed to sleep....it works like nothing else. All the body tension and then the sudden release makes for some serious snoring my good friend!
     
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    i O thru clit stimulation only and only 5 guys have ever managed it. nipple play helps but a filthy talker helps more. and i also like to O to get to sleep! its just amazin.
    xoxoxoxo
     
  12. dolfette

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    tones the pc muscles.
    helps you sleep.
    and it burns calories too!

    it's like a wonder drug.
     
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    so far we're mostly clitters it seems.
     
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    it would appear so. i wonder why men find it so hard? even with instruction they're not great and tbh giving the instruction takes the spontaneity out it so i don't bother with it a lot. it's a good job i can enjoy a great fuck without one!
    xoxoox
     
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    and the simple instruction of 'do NOT go straight under the hood with dry, rough fingers!' is so very hard to follow.

    /whine
     
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    Penetration only. The bigger and better the dick the more I can have.

    G-spot if the curve is right and the dick is long enough.

    Solo takes alot more work but can be accomplished.
     
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    I only orgasm through g spot/vaginal or clitoral stimulation with penetration.
    If there's no penetration (just fingers or vibe) I have to kegel rhythmically or hold one during clitoral stimulation to make it happen. :shrug:
     
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    well if you dont mind, i'd like to ask the ladies what kind of clit stimulation you prefer? fingers tongue? soft hard? i wonder if we're all so different that when a guy learns how to do it to a girl does he just do it like that to us all?
    xx
     
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    Im amazed that girl talk always brings out the natural stats on how many of us need direct clitoral stimulation to orgasm....i cant help but notice if a bunch of guys are talking about female orgasms that they generally claim its because of their fucking abilities and not the fact that the most sensitive nerves are generally located under the hood.

    i love a good fucking and would choose it over masturbation to orgasm anyday. i love me some cock and intimacy.
     
  20. B_Mademoiselle Rouge

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    this article will explain why its the job no one wants...

    http://www.nytimes.com/books/first/m/maines-technology.html
     
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