Ladies, to moan or not to moan during intercourse -that is the question

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  1. B_superlarge

    B_superlarge New Member

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    Ladies, if you ever moan or grunt or pant during intercourse (or any vocal you do), what are the causes? In other words, how much do you attribute your vocal(s) to technique, how much to penis size (girth and/or length), and anything else you can think of pertaining to intercourse (for this question you've already had proper foreplay warmup before intercourse). Answers in percentage form would be good, but not necessary. If your particular type of vocal has varied accordingly, please specify which vocal corresponds with which intercourse factor. For instance, if Mr Z had you moaning, but Mr Y had you groaning, Mr G had you grunting, and Mr H had you panting, and you were silent with Mr R please specify why there was a difference in sounds coming from you.
     
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    For the most part, my moaning, grunting, etc. is an involuntary response. Curious if it is different for other women?
     
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    Yes moaning and groaning for me is something that just happens, however my moans of "god yes fuck me hard" are usually under my control xx
     
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    Involuntary response to what though? Also, are you saying it hasn't varied from guy to guy?
     
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    Just happens from what? Has it varied according to technique and/or penis size, and if so how much has each factor contributed?
     
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    Urgh, I know this is for the ladies, but I'll say that for me it depends on whether the guy is there 'doin ya' and not showing any love - then no sounds unless it starts to hurt owowow.
     
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    An involuntary response to sexual stimulation? Whatever the act, if it feels good, I make noise, but it is involuntary.

    No, it doesn't greatly vary from guy to guy. If it feels good, noise will be made.

    Sometimes I'll experience something amazing and beg them not to stop. But moaning, grunting, shaking, etc., no, if it is good there's a nice combination of all responses.
     
  8. D_Kaye Throttlebottom

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    I have to agree, it's involuntary and I don't make a mental note of how big or what he was doing when it happened.

    You asked if varies from guy to guy....dude it varies when I'm with the same guy and I don't keep track of his penis versus others. I just go with the flow and if it feels good, it feels good and I'm in love then I can let go, versus if I'm pissed off and it just feels like a chore.

    I think it's an off-shoot of what makes a lover the best...it rarely is it limited to the size of his dick.
     
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    it depends how comfortable i am with the person i'm screwing. like chocokittie said, the majority of the time panting and moaning are involuntary responses. it's just part of how both women and men are hard-wired. all men have different techniques and it simply comes down to the matter of how a man pushes my buttons. the mood also contributes to how i would respond as well. for example, if it's an intimate setting then i would be more likely to pant and moan and slip out a few "oh my god (insert name here)." but if it's an i-haven't-fucked-in-months type of setting, then i would be screaming my head off and gasping for air and telling him to fuck me harder.
     
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    I agree with everything you gals are saying, of course. Those are certainly very valid aspects brought up. The only thing I guess I might add is that just like guys can blow this whole penis size thing out of proportion in certain environments, I think gals can downplay it at times. In other words, neither side are being 100% realistic. I think that may be happening in this thread and the one linked to. Counting this thread and the one that was linked to, there are at least some women responding with no mention about size, and yet in past threads they have clearly stated size counts. I pondered as too why this is occuring and it seems to me this thread and the other one illustrate that once the important aspects of love and happiness are introduced and penis size has been left out of early posts then some women who would normaly at least bring it up are avoiding doing so because the threads are running along with a very pleasant and important tone and they want to help reinforce what has been said without bringing up the penis which shouldn't be talked about so much to begin with. So they leave the penis out. The only problem is that then we have these two feel good threads that don't quite fit overall reality. I understand what you ladies are saying, I just think there is some avoidance. I'm not knocking you though. I'm tired of the penis topic, and ready to give up letting it control my thoughts a bit too much. I guess going with the flow is best advice anyone could ever offer. Afterall, that's pretty much what we do in life everyday. Just be happy and not worry about being the very best.
     
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    Oh I'm sure it matters at some point, but I don't keep track with the size/girth and how I moaned or groaned or panted. I remember how it felt, but I don't remember if I moan or groan or whimper, etc.

    I mean can YOU rememer if you differentiate what your exact reactions or if you're loud or not? I think it easier to remember a partner's reaction than it is to remember or distinguish whether I groan or moan.
     
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    Just seems to happen. You know like when you cry out when you receive sudden pain. Similar involuntary reaction to extreme pleasure. Seems to get louder or more frequent as the pleasure increases.
     
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    I'm always silent. Making noise is just not me.
     
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    My moans are an involuntary response to what feels good, regardless of what it is.
     
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    Funny. I don't really moan, I comment with words like "Ooooo", "Ahhhh", "Shit" and switch up like " Oooo Shit" and "Ahhhh Shit". I try to be quiet sometimes but it doesn't work unless I can't feel any pleasure/pain down below. But out of all my alphabet soup guys: D, A, B, R, S they did the job.
    Mr. D was the first and boy did he hurt, it was a hilarious event on my part and I made the mistake of laughing which caused him a lil pain. Wasn't on purpose.
    Mr. A and Mr. B were bothe endowed , A more so than B.
    Mr. S well that was just a fingerlicking good time together and he had me screaming a naughty phrase I still can't believe I said. but it sounded hot to him and me.
    Out of them all Mr. R had me most with the oooo's and ahhhs, but nonetheless it was what it was.

    Overall the going in is what gets me. Feels like someone's punching the wind out of me which causes to me suck on air. And with all the positions the pleasure/pain ratio grows greater and especially greater if he's bringing hard, no mercy you know.

    Well that's my 2 cents.
     
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    Off the top of me head

    deep stroke - sigh
    fast thrusting - short, sharp breath moan
    slow thrusting - throaty groan
    Near orgasm - drawn out whimpering
    Orgasm - silence
     
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    I agree it's just something that happens and I don't really think about it. I don't really pay attn too much and just go w/it but i think this basically describes it for me:
    deep thrusting - throaty groan my bf calls it "gutteral"
    fast thrusting - short breathy moaning
    slow thrusting - sorta quiet
    near orgasm - kinda fast whimpering or panting
    orgasm - it totally depends on the orgasm, sometimes it feels like waves and i kinda moan w/the waves, sometimes especially if it's a big one i get quiet when it first hits cuz i feel like i'm choking on it and then just crazy moaning :tongue:, if it's a super huge one like big enough to make me squirt than sometimes i might get to screaming just a little :smile:

     
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    I believe penis size and female vocals are correlated at least to some extent. It's not the be all end all but that there is a connection nevertheless. The answers in this thread have been too in general to isolate this. Also, ever noticed how many guys with average penis size make the comment "they haven't had any complaints" from the ladies. To me that isn't exactly rave reviews either. If sex with average size can be so fantastic, just as good as a big one that knows how to use it, then why do so many guys with average size have to rely on the 'no complaints' and take that as positive feedback. Look at how many posts there are by guys with big dicks who state they have received rave reviews. Then take a look at how many posts there are by guys with average size who have had 'no complaints'. Not exactly the same thing is it?

    Sorry, I can't help but spot these differences. I even have a direct personal example to go by. I know for a fact that an ex gf of mine was very noisy with a hung ex of hers. I heard the story of a girlfreind of hers walking up to their house and accidently seeing and hearing them going at it. That the sounds coming from her were unearthly, and ecstatic (pain and extreme pleasure combined was the description). I also know for a fact that she was never noisy with me, at all. She actually told me that she liked my size better, and yet I found out about that noise difference later on. We had sex often for a year, and yet I only heard her make a sound three times. I used plenty of technique, so don't put it off on that. I even found out she said I was small, even though I was average by penis size charts (I do penis exercises so I am some bigger nowdays though still average).
     
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    Here's one. It's not a clear video but the first guy looks smallish and she does react some at first, but I think she must have become wetter and expanded more as she becomes quiet for a while, even when he pounds hard. Then the second guy begins and he looks to be above average. Even though she is still at the expansion and wetness level she was with the first guy she now begins grunting, cursing, and panting with the bigger guy even though he doesn't pound her like the first guy did. It appears that she can feel the size difference very much so. Would she think she was equally vocal with both men?
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    I'm a moaner. My G-spot vocals are more gutteral, though - often with deeper thrusts, which is easier with a larger cock but certainly has happened with average sized gentlemen as well.

    I've never screamed during sex (repressed, you think?) - but I make sure to provide some audible feedback, I know a totally silent partner (no pun intended) can be a bit frustrating (as for the 'quiet cases' at least I get a bit concerned/ self-conscious of whether he's actually enjoying himself or if he's just bored or asleep...)
     
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