Ladies, what contraception you use and why?

[Daisy]

I don't use contraceptives, my cunt is STD-proof, and I'll tell it when I'm ready to make babies.

LOL!!! Technically you're not telling your cunt when to make babies you're telling your ovaries, but hey, same thing.


NO contraception ever worked for me, too many ugly side effects. I finally just removed the unnecessary plumbing and my life is much easier.

 

[693987]

I've used condoms (of course) and a couple varieties of birth control pills. I got a Mirena plastic/hormone IUD almost exactly three years ago. It mostly has been ok, but over the last year or so it hasn't felt comfortable. Plus I've had partners who bumped into it, with the tip of their cock, which wasn't exactly a sensation they enjoyed. I originally got the IUD because I was in a long term relationship with a partner I shared bodily fluids with, and wasn't concerned about STD/STI, and just didn't want to get pregnant.

Downside... because I started having a lot of funky cramping problems over the last year, I tried to get the IUD removed in January or February.. and it wouldn't come out. The clinic recommended I go and get an ultra sound done, because they thought it had embedded in my body. Because of my finances, I can't afford that, however. Once I manage to get that straightened out, I intend to get the IUD removed, and get on the pill again, a la the seasonal variety so I only bleed every few months. Also, though I'm not having sex, if I were, condoms would be a must.

 

[petite]

The pill was like chemical castration! I also hate condoms, but I hate STDs more, so I use condoms with new sexual partners.

I like desiring sex and enjoying sex, and I didn't want it on the pill. I don't remember any emotional side effects or physical ones aside from my missing libido. What's the point of birth control if you no longer want to have sex?

The best hormonal option I tried was the Nuvaring, which releases fewer hormones into the bloodstream than the pill does, but it should not be used during breastfeeding (relevant only to me, I know). It did not effect my sex life as much as the pill, but I think it also reduced my drive, but not as severely. I wanted sex, just not as much as before, which wasn't as bad since I think I have a higher than average sex drive anyway. I thought it was very convenient since you insert it once a month, and there are no pills to remember to take daily. It releases a lower amount of estrogen into the bloodstream, a benefit of having the hormones released so close to the uterus instead of being digested, released into the bloodstream, and exposure to the uterus coming from that bloodstream exposure. The downside is that it was a lot more expensive than the pill.

After my child is born, I'd like to look into using a cervical cap or diaphram with spermicidal jelly. I've asked doctors about these at least a dozen times, and every time I was told that I'd have to see a specialist about getting one, then they never put me in touch with a specialist! Next time, I'm going to be pushier about getting one.

I might also use the rhythm method and insist that we use a condom during the peak fertility days. He's extremely fertile, as I've discovered.

 

[Chantillylace]

I remember mentioning this on another thread but, being on the pill actually makes me less attracted to men and obscenely more attracted to women, and it also regulated me, which I hate.
If God built me to natually endure 4 light periods a year, then so be it. I never ever had any cramping until the damn pill, no every once in a blue moon I'll cramp a little.

So suffice to say, I use condoms, eventhough I really effin hate them.

 

[AlteredEgo]

I remember mentioning this on another thread but, being on the pill actually makes me less attracted to men and obscenely more attracted to women, and it also regulated me, which I hate.
If God built me to natually endure 4 light periods a year, then so be it. I never ever had any cramping until the damn pill, no every once in a blue moon I'll cramp a little.

So suffice to say, I use condoms, eventhough I really effin hate them.

Have you spoken to your gynecologist and asked for a referral to an endocrinologist? My endocrinologist said that months when I don;t menstruate it's because I don't ovulate. The weird thing is, even if I don't bleed, I still feel the little pinch of pain in my ovaries as if I had dropped an egg. Anyway, the point is, there might be something wrong with your ovaries, or your uterus, and maybe your doctors should be investigating that instead of trying to cram birth control down your throat. I see no point in treating symptoms without finding the cause.

 

[Chantillylace]

Have you spoken to your gynecologist and asked for a referral to an endocrinologist? My endocrinologist said that months when I don;t menstruate it's because I don't ovulate. The weird thing is, even if I don't bleed, I still feel the little pinch of pain in my ovaries as if I had dropped an egg. Anyway, the point is, there might be something wrong with your ovaries, or your uterus, and maybe your doctors should be investigating that instead of trying to cram birth control down your throat. I see no point in treating symptoms without finding the cause.

I have asked my GYN about it on several occasions, and to several different GYN's. They all saay the same thing for the most part-- irregularity is normal, if not growing in numbers amongst people my age.
At times though I belive myself to have fertility problems. I was married for over two years and had regular sex, usually at least once a day unless we were fighting, no contraception, but also no pregnancy.
Then dated a guy recently for over a year, again no contraception, no pregnancy...
Though I have to admit that my irregualrity paired with no contraception makes for several trips to the grocery store for pee sticks.
I have thought about getting checked out sinc eI do eventually really want kids, but I figure, what's the point in knowing if I don't have a "donor". lol
So I keep putting it off.. Also I think me putting it off has a lot to do with the fact that I really don't want ot hear I'm tainted.

 

[AlteredEgo]

I have asked my GYN about it on several occasions, and to several different GYN's. They all saay the same thing for the most part-- irregularity is normal, if not growing in numbers amongst people my age.
At times though I belive myself to have fertility problems. I was married for over two years and had regular sex, usually at least once a day unless we were fighting, no contraception, but also no pregnancy.
Then dated a guy recently for over a year, again no contraception, no pregnancy...
Though I have to admit that my irregualrity paired with no contraception makes for several trips to the grocery store for pee sticks.
I have thought about getting checked out sinc eI do eventually really want kids, but I figure, what's the point in knowing if I don't have a "donor". lol
So I keep putting it off.. Also I think me putting it off has a lot to do with the fact that I really don't want ot hear I'm tainted.

You aren't tainted, no matter what may or may not be discovered. But if your reproductive system is malfunctioning, the longer you put off correcting whatever is wrong, the harder it will be to repair it when you decide it's time to use it. Gynecologists irritate me. They are always saying abnormal shit is normal. I got lucky. My very first one took my irregularity very seriously, and ordered ultrasounds. Based on those results she referred me to a specialist. The specialist ran analyses on my blood to check out my hormones. That's how I was eventually diagnosed with Polycystic Ovarian Syndrome. Gynecologists have been trying to treat that for years with The Pill. Only when I started seeing an endocrinologist for something entirely unrelated did I get other treatment options offered and explained. Another thing that occurs to me is that even if your gynos are right, and not menstruating regularly is a new norm, that doesn't indicate one way or another if it is supposed to be your norm. I think it's irresponsible of your gynecologists not to look for, and (hopefully) rule out trouble. It's bad medicine. Then again, I suspect you're here in America with me. Bad medicine is the new norm.

 

[EllieP]

Ellie, some of my friends who had children very young tried to get tubal ligation as well. Most doctors will not consider performing it, even if a future pregnancy risks the life of the would-be mother, unless the woman is age 25, or has had three children. This, of course, is ridiculous. So, my friends have had to have abortions when their birth control methods continued to fail them (which is how they got their first children) or deliver children they didn't want. Eventually, when they were old enough for doctors to finally consent, they were able to have the procedure they wanted in the first place. My one friend loves her daughter, but wishes she'd not had to raise her children in such abject poverty when the little girl was first born. She also laments the two abortions she endured.

EllieP, you're a very lucky lady.

I had a wonderful OB-GYN at that time who was not only a fine physician, but a good counselor. She listened and understood my plight and knew my frame of mind. It wasn't a hasty decision on my part, and I have to say that I am very content with my decision. I got remarried in the late 90s, and I was worried that he would want children since he had none of his own. He's very happy with a single grown-up child whom he claims is more mature than he is. He's says he'd prefer to be a father figure than an actual father.

But he would have made a good daddy, too.

 

[B_subgirrl]

I have asked my GYN about it on several occasions, and to several different GYN's. They all saay the same thing for the most part-- irregularity is normal, if not growing in numbers amongst people my age.

You aren't tainted, no matter what may or may not be discovered. But if your reproductive system is malfunctioning, the longer you put off correcting whatever is wrong, the harder it will be to repair it when you decide it's time to use it. Gynecologists irritate me. They are always saying abnormal shit is normal. I got lucky. My very first one took my irregularity very seriously, and ordered ultrasounds. Based on those results she referred me to a specialist. The specialist ran analyses on my blood to check out my hormones. That's how I was eventually diagnosed with Polycystic Ovarian Syndrome.

My periods were almost non-existent for a few years. Like Chantillylace I saw a doctor about it (in my case it was a GP - that's who you see here unless they refer you to a specialist). My doctor didn't seem the slightest bit bothered about it. But I was bothered! If I'm not menstruating it's a big red light saying that my fertility isn't 100%. I asked her to send me for an ultrasound to check for PCOS. Nothing unusual could be seen, and after that I was stumped - I had no idea what to suggest next, and my doctor didn't suggest anything either (because she thought it was 'normal' ).

Strangely, the problem solved itself. When I started having sex again (after a few years of no sex), my periods normalised again. It seems as though my body as reacted to the renewed sexual activity by saying 'right, best get ready for baby making then'. Very, very odd.

Chantillylace, having been there, I know it can be hard when medical people aren't being helpful, but this is something important that you need to look into. If you leave it until you have a 'donor', you may find it's too late.

 

[love2suckcock]

I went to the website for the sponge, and it seems like it goes up against the cervix. Does using it affect the feeling when hitting the deep spots for either partner? Also, is it difficult to apply and remove after use properly?

Depends on the woman's body. I recently had to go to urgent care to have one removed after hours of trying to do so myself. That was WAY fun.

 

[Pandora77]

Point is that a real woman knows when something's not "right" with her period.
I had the same issues, my period had changed, was not as heavy anymore when I was about 23 or 24.
I went to my ObGyn and he simply did a blood test to check my hormones.
There is a certain hormone in your blood when you ovulate (I am not sure what the english name for it is). So he could tell me after this blood test that I wasn't ovulating. Ultrasound didn't show anything abnormal so I went back a month later to get my blood checked again to see if this was a one time thing about not ovulating, or if I never ovulate.
The next month there was no ovulation again.
I started a special diet a couple of months later as I have a thyroid disease and my hormones are fu**ed up anyways. This diet was supposed to get my thyroid gland and my metabolism to start working normally again and about 3 month later I ovulated.
I just knew it the day I got my period, cause it was really heavy and with blood clots and everything. Went to the doctor for a test and he said yes, I ovulated.
So now one month I ovulate, another one I don't. I ovulate maybe 3 or 4 times a year, but still get my period every month. Sometimes lighter, sometimes heavier.
As a woman you know when something is wrong, my doctor wouldn't believe me at first either, but well............I knew better.
Oh yeah, to the topic: I do not take the pill, sicne my hormones are messed up enough (that could be the reason for my bad mood swings), but when I do have sex I use condoms. Not because I have to fear getting pregnant, but to protect myself from STDs.

My periods were almost non-existent for a few years. Like Chantillylace I saw a doctor about it (in my case it was a GP - that's who you see here unless they refer you to a specialist). My doctor didn't seem the slightest bit bothered about it. But I was bothered! If I'm not menstruating it's a big red light saying that my fertility isn't 100%. I asked her to send me for an ultrasound to check for PCOS. Nothing unusual could be seen, and after that I was stumped - I had no idea what to suggest next, and my doctor didn't suggest anything either (because she thought it was 'normal' ).

Strangely, the problem solved itself. When I started having sex again (after a few years of no sex), my periods normalised again. It seems as though my body as reacted to the renewed sexual activity by saying 'right, best get ready for baby making then'. Very, very odd.

Chantillylace, having been there, I know it can be hard when medical people aren't being helpful, but this is something important that you need to look into. If you leave it until you have a 'donor', you may find it's too late.

 

[ManlyBanisters]

Point is that a real woman knows when something's not "right" with her period.

No, she fucking doesn't. I know plenty of very real women who have accepted that their bodies are a certain way (sometimes because a doc said 'it's fine, don't worry') only to find out years later that there was indeed a problem.

How insulting is it to tell a woman she's not a 'real woman' because she doesn't intuitively know she has ovarian cysts, or whatever. Fuck right off.

What is all this 'a real woman does [blah] / doesn't do [blah]' shite I'm reading here lately anyway? For fuck's sake - can we not accept that we are all different, all fallible and all ultimately just human beings trying to get through this life as best we can?

 

[Pandora77]

I meant a woman that really is a woman and doesn't pretend to be one online....

No, she fucking doesn't. I know plenty of very real women who have accepted that their bodies are a certain way (sometimes because a doc said 'it's fine, don't worry') only to find out years later that there was indeed a problem.

How insulting is it to tell a woman she's not a 'real woman' because she doesn't intuitively know she has ovarian cysts, or whatever. Fuck right off.

What is all this 'a real woman does [blah] / doesn't do [blah]' shite I'm reading here lately anyway? For fuck's sake - can we not accept that we are all different, all fallible and all ultimately just human beings trying to get through this life as best we can?

 

[ManlyBanisters]

I meant a woman that really is a woman and doesn't pretend to be one online....

Of course you did, dear - because men pretending to be women don't ever know when something is up with their periods.

Way to back pedal

 

[Pandora77]

Feel free to believe whatever you'd like......

Of course you did, dear - because men pretending to be women don't ever know when something is up with their periods.

Way to back pedal

 

[Chantillylace]

I have to admit that I'm a little bit put off by you...
Are you in some way implying that I'm not a "real" woman?
The only reason I mention it is because I was the one who had brought up the irregular periods to begin with.
If you are then-- do your research. I was born a girl always will be a girl and love being a woman.
If you are not, than learn to be more clear.

I meant a woman that really is a woman and doesn't pretend to be one online....

 

[D_Charlie_Choadholder]

My gf got an iud...usually for women after they give birth because it has nio hormone variations and their uterus is a big larger after pregnancy. So my gf never had a kid and it was bit painful for a week or so, even a little buldge of the belly area, but it went down, doesnt show and I cum inside her all the time...she actually loves it now

 

[B_Innocentz]

None, I swallow

 

[AlteredEgo]

Of course you did, dear - because men pretending to be women don't ever know when something is up with their periods.

Way to back pedal

Oh no, she's not back-peddling. That's what she meant. She's implied elsewhere that this particular poster isn't female. She's not back-peddling, just too weak to make a bold declaration without being backed into a corner. She prefers veiled accusations such as the one on which you called her out, which irresponsibly paint many women as less than real. Whether she mean women who don't pretend on the net or not, ManlyB, your point still stands regarding the fact that many women are not perfectly in tune with their repeoductive rhythms for varied reasons.

 

[gretchenweiner]

I don't use contraceptives, my cunt is STD-proof, and I'll tell it when I'm ready to make babies.

lulz!