Background: Whenever my wife and I used to have sex, it would go like this: Foreplay Penetration ...5 minutes... Her orgasm/my orgasm (seeing/hearing her come is the hottest thing ever) Cuddle This was OK. I have always kind of hoped she would want to go for number 2, etc. but she's never had any interest in continuing after her orgasm. So, it was fine...whatever...short, straightforward, but I guess the mutual orgasm thing was cool. I am, however, getting older (married 10 years) and just seeing her come doesn't necessarily pop my cork so to speak. So, now it's more like: Foreplay if I'm lucky Penetration ...2 minutes... Her orgasm ...more minutes... ...she's just lying there... ...I start to feel like I'm fucking a dead person... My orgasm (maybe--sometimes I just can't do it). She says she's sure she wouldn't be able to have multiple orgasms or really want to keep going after the one. She feels pretty guilty when things go flat but she says she doesn't really know what to do about it. She's pretty passive even when she's really turned on, possibly due to childhood sexual experiences (non-violent abuse). Lot's o' questions: Do any of you experience this kind of on/off response? If so, is it always or only sometimes? If sometimes, can you tell me what makes a difference? Partner? Circumstances? Hormones? If you do want to keep going after your first orgasm, why is that? Is your desire just like before you started? Do you just like having more orgasms? Do you find your partner hot and just want sex to keep going? Is it a challenge? If you do like to keep going, was there a time that you did not? How did you discover that sex after O#1 could be fun?