SpoiledPrincess
Expert Member
You said your sex life was ok before and that it's changed, what happened around the time it changed is the thing that's likely to have affected it.
Are you able to talk openly to her about your sex life and her past?
i cum once. i don't have multiples though i've tried and tried. i still enjoy sex after i cum for awhile, but i do have a sort of on/off response. it doesn't bother me, and my husband knows how to edge me pretty well. i do swat him away during oral sex because i know i'll only cum once and i want to make it last.
all of this really doesn't affect our sex life negatively-- i'm game to get him off however he wants and he's game to edge me or whatever.
neither my husband nor i think we're missing out on anything, but reading this thread (and other's opinions) you'd think that we should feel that way. not all women have multiples. hell, not all women have orgasms!
Sad. Have you tried telling her how much you adore her, and how much she turns you on, and all the wonderfully nasty things you think about every time you see her naked... (wiggling your eyebrows)....
I think this has gotten way too serious, and in the circumstances, I'd probably feel the same way.
My advice, while waiting for the counseling (and in addition to maybe getting the hormones or at least Replens which anyone, male or female, can buy at a drugstore), is to
-- think of one new thing you'd like to do that maybe wouldn't freak her out
-- introduce it in the most romantic way possible (flowers chocolate)... use your imagination...
In other words, WOO her.
Maybe she used to be a guy?
It is the way it has always been for me and I have been married to the same person for almost 20 years. It does make me worry that maybe my husband feels the same way you do. Maybe we need to join you in that couples therapy.
Do you really think it's necessary to have multiple orgasms to make a man feel good about having sex with his wife? Come on now, if you have a great sex life it doesn't matter how many time each partner cums. I think the OPs problems go far deeper than just sex.
I think I was just paranoid because I was identifying too much. I do that sometimes unfortunately.
It sounds to me like his wife is being kind of selfish.....like she doesn't care if he cums or not.....Or that is the impression I am getting. And that is where I see our situation is different.
After his wife gets her jollies it should be his turn next and he needs to tell her what he needs for her to do.....to help him make that happen. It is probably the best time to try new positions......try new things.
If his wife isn't willing to step out of her comfort zone.....or do things to help her husband get his rocks off......that's when the marriage counseling is probably the best route to take. Both people need to be happy.
It sounds to me like his wife is being kind of selfish.....like she doesn't care if he cums or not.....
I totally agree, it seems it's always up to the female partner to set the boundaries when it comes to sex, a couple consists of two people and the sex should please both of them, a husband should try his best to satisfy what his wife wants and vice versa.