Okay, this is about the guy I've been posting about lately. The one I'm teaching (who is learning very quickly, I might add :wink: ). Yesterday we hiked an approx 4 mile trail up some falls near our town. It was a beautiful day, and we took our time and it was really just breathtaking. So on the way back down, we got into this discussion....reflecting back, I wish we would have never even brought it up, but we did, and it led to an awkward dialogue that was really doomed from the start. We started talking about our previous partners, and what we liked/disliked about their bodies, appearance, etc. Then we began comparing those things to what we like about each other. Eventually this led to my asking the totally insane and insecure question "whose body do you prefer, hers, or mine"? Duh, such a loaded and immature question. But he speculated for a long time, and was finally honest with me. He said that if he had to choose based ONLY on physical appearance (not personality, sexual connection, compatibility,etc) he would choose her. I asked him what helped him arrive at that decision and he said basically because she had really large breasts and he likes large breasts and that she just has one of those "perfect petite bodies and cute round faces, that all guys like". Now, don't get me wrong...he tells me all the time how beautiful he thinks I am, and how I look more like a hot college coed than a 25 year old working mother, how sexy my body is, etc. But for some reason after this discussion, I can't help but feel jealous and sad, that I did "win". His comment was actually - "Well, I guess if I had to pick the body I'd want to spend the rest of my life with, yeah, her body". I felt like the ugly exile on the island. The ride home was completely silent....we sort of argued a little because I told him it was sort of shallow to pick her over me just because her tits were big, that would be like me saying I'd pick my ex hubby over him because his dick was bigger. I realized it wasn't fair to be mad at him for being honest....and I decided to just hush before we really got heated. Ladies, would him saying that stuff upset you, or would you be able to shrug it off knowing that he was only being honest, and confident that he does like your body? I just can't shake that one comment about "the rest of my life, yeah, I'd choose her"....I mean, damn, that's harsh. I don't even think he realizes it hurt my feelings, and if I brought it up he'd say "Oh, come on...you know you have a million things over on her, just because she has a nicer body doesn't mean shit". But to me it DOES. So anyway, I know I have self esteem issues, but this really didn't help matters. Maybe a more confident person would be able to say, "yeah we all would pick the person with the perfect body, if that's all we were using to make the decision". Or maybe some are like me, and expect to win all the time, even if that is a false and unrealistic expectation?? I'm rambling...thoughts?