I'm really starting to regret posting this entire thread. I mean, I know it was a stupid thing to ask, and I made it clear in my OP that I knew it was stupid. Anyway, I can't say anything about responses I receive because I DID ask for it by posting this. Maybe I'm just grumpy from no sleep last night
. I do want to make it clear that I'm not used to dating, or being with a new person. This is a first for me in over 10 years. I met my ex husband at age 15, and we just divorced in October. I am new at this, and just getting my feet wet with new relationship interaction.
I tend to answer truthfully when I receive a direct answer. This is me... I'd have given the same answer (if I had the same opinion).
And I would be the one pissed at you for putting me in this situation
All in all, relax... as you said yourself, you're learning... aren't we all?
I guess he had a right to be pissed, but if you read the entire thread, I mentioned how he asked me the SAME question the day before.
Man-o-man ... someone silly enough to ask that question, and someone silly enough to answer it. Sounds like a match made in heaven!
Perhaps. I suppose you've never asked a silly question before?
So what I'm left wondering, is:
Is there some other problem? Are you afraid of commitment? Are you afraid of success? It almost sounds like you went out of your way to do some damage to what you have here. Is that a pattern?
I swear these questions are not meant to hurt you in any way. I'm just wondering if there is a deeper issue we could maybe help you with. But I don't know you. I could be way off base. Anyway, I would be a little hurt at first if someone was asking me the questions I'm asking you, so I understand if you get mad at me. But truly, my intentions are ony the best, I promise.
Some of the things you said above ring very true for me, for various reasons. I suppose it is a pattern. Care to try and fix me? You've got your work cut out for you :wink: , hah.
One thing I have learned in my short 25 years is to make sure I want to know the answer to a question before I ask it. I have to consider the possibility that I may not hear what I want. It's taught me two things... 1, to shutup... and 2, to word my questions very carefully. You'll figure it out. :tongue: I don't even ask about the exes of my boyfriends because I still have certain hangups about myself and I know that one of those will be exposed if I ask about them.
I've learned some of that too MamaMeg, I'm 25 as well....although I may come off as pretty immature sometimes, I am and have been told I am wise beyond my years. I guess everyone makes a mistake every now and then. Dating is a new experience for me. I married the man I started dating at age 15, and we just divorced. So, like I said, this IS a learning experience for me. I am wise in most all other area's of my life, but this, I have to admit is a bit foriegn to me. Thanks for your reply....good advice.
It's always the same thing with ex's, it suffices to know they existed, no details needed. I also never asked about an ex, that question is full of pitfalls. Not only that there's the possibility you might not like the answer, what if he connects painful memories with one of his ex's, too? Maybe she was beautiful, but a cheater. Maybe she was his love of a lifetime, but died. Yes, that's drama, but two pitfalls that one should rather avoid then walk right into.
Those are good points Claire, much different perspective for me to think about.
Seconding the "who the fuck cares about titties" thing.
First of all, there's only so much you can do with titties.
I will take a delicious pussy that gushes all over my face over a couple of nipples I'll get bored of anyday.
Couple that with a lickable ass and I don't really care if you're an A cup.
Haha, he loves some pussy and ass too...so I GOT that covered :smile:
1. His statement did not convey the "I don't love you" that you heard.
2. This question will remain on your test that you need to pass at age 30, 40, 50, etc.
3. Forgive the poor bastard.
When we got together nearly 33 years ago I wondered what it would be like living with her as an old lady, could I handle it?
She is 59, I'm 58, and she is still just as cute as the day I met her 35 years ago. I enjoy looking at and fantasizing about young women with vibrant, sexy bodies and my wife likes to look at and fantasize about men with six pack physiques and a head of hair. We are still in love and love to cuddle and make love when we can. When we were first together I wondered what it would be like living with an old woman and if I could handle it, well I am here to report that she is cute and sexy and I love her and I don't see that changing in the future.
I will leave you with a simple statement "Love is the sauce/source of life."
That's really sweet Love-it. Your wife is a lucky lady. And you sound like a very happy man. Thanks for reminding me that we all fantasize but it doesn't mean we love our partners any less, or desire them any less.