Ladies" would you marry a gay guy ?

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Would you marry a gay guy ? reason i am asking is a girl whom i work with is marrying her partner, they have a daughter but he is openly gay also, just wondering what the census would be.
Also my cool mate who is female has asked me why she cannot find a straight version of me, she has also suggested that we get together and have our own sex partners, what are your views ?
 

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a girl whom i work with is marrying her partner, they have a daughter but he is openly gay also, just wondering what the census would be.
<----Let me get this straight. You work with a girl who is marrying a gay man. At some point he agreed to father a child for her and since they are such good friends, they now feel they should marry, yet have separate sex lives. I'm sure this happens fairly regularly but I don't condone it. What happens when he or she meet someone they really want to be married to? Divorce? They never should have been married in the first place! They are just marking time until something better comes along. :no:


Also my cool mate who is female has asked me why she cannot find a straight version of me, she has also suggested that we get together and have our own sex partners, what are your views ?
I think y'all are all insecure, stupid; and crazy for even considering it :eek:mfg:


:wtf1: No, I would never knowingly marry a gay man. What's the point? I have gay friends whom I love dearly and they love me but marry one of them? To what end? :confused: Just to say I was married.That to me would be making a mockery of the sacrament of marriage. I'm cool with gay marriage but a marriage bewtween a gay or lesbian person and a straight person is just stupid. It sounds to me like one or both are just desparate to bend to societys' idea of what's 'right' or 'normal.'

:aargh4: :aargh4: The world has gone mad! :aargh4: :aargh4:​
 

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<----Let me get this straight. You work with a girl who is marrying a gay man. At some point he agreed to father a child for her and since they are such good friends, they now feel they should marry, yet have separate sex lives. I'm sure this happens fairly regularly but I don't condone it. What happens when he or she meet someone they really want to be married to? Divorce? They never should have been married in the first place! They are just marking time until something better comes along. :no:

I think y'all are all insecure, stupid; and crazy for even considering it :eek:mfg:


:wtf1: No, I would never knowingly marry a gay man. What's the point? I have gay friends whom I love dearly and they love me but marry one of them? To what end? :confused: Just to say I was married.That to me would be making a mockery of the sacrament of marriage. I'm cool with gay marriage but a marriage bewtween a gay or lesbian person and a straight person is just stupid. It sounds to me like one or both are just desparate to bend to societys' idea of what's 'right' or 'normal.'


:aargh4: :aargh4: The world has gone mad! :aargh4: :aargh4:​
WHOA!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!, calm down lol, i aint considering nothing i was asking for peoples views, not be INSULTED , anyway each to their own i guess. With regard to the sacrament of marriage you mention, what a hypocrite you are if you are talking in the biblical sense, your cool with gay marriage, i personally think that,that is people that are just desperate to bend to societys ' idea of what's right or normal ":ugh2:
 

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WHOA!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!, calm down lol, i aint considering nothing i was asking for peoples views, not be INSULTED , anyway each to their own i guess. With regard to the sacrament of marriage you mention, what a hypocrite you are if you are talking in the biblical sense, your cool with gay marriage, i personally think that,that is people that are just desperate to bend to societys ' idea of what's right or normal ":ugh2:

You asked for peoples views, that's mine.

I am fine with two people who genuinely love each other and intend to be together forever getting married, regardless of whether or not they are the same sex or if that union ever creates children.

Like most people I interpret the bible my own way. I don't expect you or anyone else to agree with it. :cool:
 

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Hell, Star Jones did..I now she HAD to know that he was GAY!! Hell, her friends and the WHOLE world KNEW but she did NOT? :eek:
So did Terry McMillan, but she had no clue that he was gay.
 

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Hell, Star Jones did..I now she HAD to know that he was GAY!! Hell, her friends and the WHOLE world KNEW but she did NOT? :eek:
So did Terry McMillan, but she had no clue that he was gay.

I suppose they had an idea but never looked at themselves or the guy and asked the question. Many people marry not just for love, but for hope.
 

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You asked for peoples views, that's mine.

I am fine with two people who genuinely love each other and intend to be together forever getting married, regardless of whether or not they are the same sex or if that union ever creates children.

Like most people I interpret the bible my own way. I don't expect you or anyone else to agree with it. :cool:

Thanks, not a problem, sometimes, written messages e-mails and texts don't read the same as actaul speech, i was reading some of your blogs before (not in a stalking way) and thought how informative it all is and the GSOH you have, anyway hope all goes well with your pregnancy, take care
 

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What if a homosexual man and a heterosexual woman love each other and intend to be together forever?
That is the same question the OP asked and my answer would still be, 'no.' I don't believe in open marriages. I don't believe the union, which he or you suggest would be satisfying to both parties in the long term. :redface:
 

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Question for the ladies
Would you marry a gay guy ? reason i am asking is a girl whom i work with is marrying her partner, they have a daughter but he is openly gay also, just wondering what the census would be.

I wouldn't see any point in marrying a gay man. Your friends had a daughter together. It doesn't mean they have to be married. They can be best friends and co-parents.

Also my cool mate who is female has asked me why she cannot find a straight version of me, she has also suggested that we get together and have our own sex partners, what are your views ?

I don't see the point of you two getting together only to have other sex partners. She may be one of those women who thinks since you have so much in common together, you would be willing to change your desire for men into a desire for her. This has been going on a lot lately with women who are frustrated with straight men.
 

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I wouldn't see any point in marrying a gay man. Your friends had a daughter together. It doesn't mean they have to be married. They can be best friends and co-parents.


I know they love each other and also if gay men and women can marry, maybe they feel it is okay for them to also as a protection maybe for each other and daughter
 

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I don't see the point of you two getting together only to have other sex partners. She may be one of those women who thinks since you have so much in common together, you would be willing to change your desire for men into a desire for her. This has been going on a lot lately with women who are frustrated with straight men.

Good Point
 

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There's one member I'd love to see weigh in on this because he actually has experience with what the OP is asking about. I don't know that it would be something many people could do because of the various emotional and practical concerns of being primarily sexually attracted to people other than your spouse. It just sounds like a logistical and emotional nightmare. N_S, I appreciate your point about wanting to be together forever and loving each other, but since that's the intention and not the result for over 50% of married couples, I take a more pragmatic view. Obviously, it's up to the couple to do as they see fit, but I think it would present challenges harder than a traditional relationship and I'm a little skeptical.
 

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Could be better than some straight unions. We tend to think that if a crack whore and a pimp get together and have children, which then feed themselves out of the trash can, that's okay because that is a nature intended.

In my never humble opinion it's all relative.
 

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i honestly don't believe marrying a gay man would work out for me. hypothetically speaking, if i can't have sex with my husband what's the point in being married to him? if i ever get married i only want to get married once and that's it.
 

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Question for the ladies
Would you marry a gay guy ? reason i am asking is a girl whom i work with is marrying her partner, they have a daughter but he is openly gay also, just wondering what the census would be.
Also my cool mate who is female has asked me why she cannot find a straight version of me, she has also suggested that we get together and have our own sex partners, what are your views ?
I'm not sure, maybe not 100% gay - depends on the situation and person. But, if I could live like a modern day Vita Sackville-West, sure.

When and if I get married, it will be for life. So, I am open to desires changing over that period, and an open marriage is a definite possibility. Although, I’m not certain I want it to begin under that condition.
 

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YAY for having my post cherry being popped!!!! Anyway, I think that people also need to take into account that sexuality exists on a very long continuum. So to say that someone is entirely gay or entirely straight is, not to say wrong, but misguided.

Honestly, there are a lot of girls that I find attractive. AND there are a lot of guys that I find attractive. Wether I end up with one or the other is anyones guess. I just think that people are over simplifying the complexities of human sexuality in order to find a definitive "yes" or "no" answer when one doesn't exist for every situation.

So, to actually answer the question, I think that it depends on the situation. If there is absolutely no sexual attraction there I don't think that they would be in that particular situation, or even be entertaining that thought of getting married. If they are doing it for their daughter to grow up in as normal a household as possible, then great for them and they already have my vote for best parent ever.