ladies {yes, that's the ones with boobs, NOT the ones with willies!} men and porn?

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  1. dolfette

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    i have noticed that men who watched a LOT of porn before they came to sex have different attitudes to sex than men who just experimented with sex.

    in my personal experience...
    they have unrealistic expectations of physical perfection.
    they assume most women actually enjoy porn moves, like rough anal, facials, gang bangs etc.
    they are more concerned with the visual aspects of what they're doing than with the physical/emotional connection.
    they always feel a little let down with the realities of sex, thinking that other men are enjoying porn moves with a dozen women a week.
    they like fake boobs.
    they'd like you to dress like a hooker in public.

    is this just freak coincidence that i've only come across this in late-to-sex, early-to-porn-addiction men?

    ...i s'pose the men can have an opinion on this. but if you take over my thread i'm going to curse your penis to shrink :smile:
    and how do you think porn has effected men's attitudes to sex with you?
     
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    How do you define "a LOT"? I mean, as a teenage male, I attempted to look at any and every naked woman I could find, and if they were doing it with some dude at the time, even better, but I can't be sure if it was a lot... it was before the internetz, there wasn't such easy access.

    I think it's more likely that people who are like what you described are more apt to watch a lot of porn, then porn influencing the mind. Certainly watching a ton of porn affects the mind, but I think mature adults can separate fantasy from reality. I understand the letdown you describe, though, as I can personally attest to feeling that; in part, though, it was my reality that was the letdown - I wasn't very good when I first started :)
     
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    still pictures are different to film.

    *ponder*
     
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    I like what feels smells and tastes good in sex with a woman.But then I am 40,I only looked at a few magazines as a boy before I got the real woman in my bed.So now when I choose lingerie as a gift for my wife I think about how it will feel under my hands,against my body when I hold her and will it be good for her.

    I do think the boys now have spent way to much time with porn.What's on film does not always feel that great for either partner.

    And no way would I share my wife with another man,let alone a gang bang!
     
  5. dolfette

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    she's a lucky girl!
    i've been presented with some utterly ridiculous clothing, which i couldn't even bring myself to try on.
     
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    A silk or satin chemise is my fave cause it's soft smooth and warm to the touch.And it is simple like a night shirt and shows just enough of her curves to get me going.

    Ok my hands are itchy now so I'll stop!and I think I'm taking your thread off track!:)
     
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    they have unrealistic expectations of physical perfection.

    WTF ever

    they assume most women actually enjoy porn moves, like rough anal, facials, gang bangs etc.


    rough anal is a whole level above a facial every now and then, and a gang bang is a whole 2 or 3 levels above rough anal.

    they are more concerned with the visual aspects of what they're doing than with the physical/emotional connection.


    What is this pop psychology bullshit?

    they always feel a little let down with the realities of sex, thinking that other men are enjoying porn moves with a dozen women a week.


    Men do enjoy porn moves with women. Some women are frigid. Like you. SO yes, most men will be a tad disappointed, and eventualy move on from a bitch like you. Sadly, I don't think lesbians would think too highly of your sex negative attitude either. Lesbians like their girls to cum too, porn watching or not.

    they like fake boobs.

    WTF ever. You are full of shit.

    they'd like you to dress like a hooker in public.

    Many men like their women to doll up, porn viewing or not.

    I'm sorry you hate sex Dolfette, I'm sorry you can never cum with a man. It sucks to be you. Stop blaming it on the men. You will never be able to relax with a man enough to get off with him. Sorry. Totally sucks to be you. You have missed out on a good sex life, and you can stew there and say no you haven't, btu deep down, you know damn well sex would be better if only you could get off.
     
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    Looks like someone is either having a bad day or didn't have sex for over a year, or both at the same time!

    (and I'm not talking about dolfette)
     
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    Alex22 comes to the rescue of the damsel in distress!
     
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    Is about the only one I'd agree with to be honest. My brother was a complete porn freak and when he finally got round to shagging his first girlfriend, he was more obsessed with doing it in about 15 positions. Not for any sort of sexual filfilment [it was his first time, remember] - but because he'd seen things done in porn.
     
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    How do you know his intentions? Tons of guys want to try many different positions, (and women too, I know, it might blow your mind, but it's true). You ever hear of the Kama Sutra? That was around way before "porn".

    Although, porn has been around for millenia.
     
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    the 15 positions/shag is a pet hate of mine.
    stop starting is just plain frustrating.

    there's plenty of time to try each position.
    you don't have to fit them all into one shag.
     
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    Everything is frustrating to you. Your entire post history is a litany of frustrations with men incapable of satisfying you. (There is a common factor with every man you have fucked, and every frustration you have had...... YOU)
     
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    i fear i may have struck a nerve!
     
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    How do I know his intentions? I mentioned that he's my brother. Not exactly a friend of a friend. So, he told me straight up. Christ knows why you feel the need to be such a condescending prick.
     
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    You always strike a nerve with me.

    You don't watch porn? Buuuuuuuulllllshhhhiiiiiit!
     
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    Ok you've completely lost me now.
     
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    PoRN!! DO YOU WATCH IT!?
     
  20. dolfette

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    i know. i should rub, not strike.
    but i's in my nature to offensive and caustic in my words.
    it compensates for how nauseatingly sweet i am in my actions.
     
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