ladies {yes, that's the ones with boobs, NOT the ones with willies!} men and porn?

[Wish-4-8]

Dolfette wins.

She wins a free membership to all the major porn sites so she could continue her research on the dispairaging effects of porn on the male psyche. :biggrin1:

 

[whatireallywant]

I was going to pitch my 2 bits but you've already been overcome by men lol

overcome by men, cum over by men.
it's the internet!

"Overcome By Men"

Sounds like a good title for a porn! :biggrin1:

 

[rob_just_rob]

I spent far too much time in my formative years focused on porn of every description, so I thought I would treat this as a survey.

they have unrealistic expectations of physical perfection. Yes
they assume most women actually enjoy porn moves, like rough anal, facials, gang bangs etc. No
they are more concerned with the visual aspects of what they're doing than with the physical/emotional connection. Sometimes
they always feel a little let down with the realities of sex, thinking that other men are enjoying porn moves with a dozen women a week. Yes
they like fake boobs. Sometimes, not really fussed either way
they'd like you to dress like a hooker in public. Not really, except perhaps Halloween.

 

[deleted356736]

When I was young enough to be thinking of sex but not old enough to be actually doing it, photographic porn in magazines was just appearing. There were, I believe, 8mm loops from Scandinavia around at the time, but who had 8mm projectors? The magazines at this time were often stills taken during the filming sessions of these short movies. There were no rules for these magazines and loops, and therefore they were displayed without being sealed, and there were no age restrictions on purchase. They also covered beastility and under-age sex, and both were legal at the time.

The only real impact these magazines had on me was that I thought myself average in terms of penis size, because many of the actors were about my size and some were bigger. But as they weren't moving images, they didn't really have much effect on my sexual expectations. The actresses in these loops and pictures were generally attractive with natural flaws, so I didn't have unreasonable expectations of the female body. Women come in all shapes and sizes, and the only thing that turns me off is a woman who has 'let herself go'.

The introduction of the video cassette recorder opened the floodgates of porn, but by then I was sexually experienced so I took what I saw as being fantasy rather than reality. Also, '80's porn was generally heterosexual intercourse with some anal but not often, and not anything like what we see today. Indeed, I prefer some of those old movies that I still have, as they have character and plot and a bit of connection between actor and actress. By this stage the actresses were still attractive, and still not enhanced in any way.

I don't know how I would have coped if I was 21 or 31 now, rather than 51. Unreasonable sexual expectations derived from porn? Unreasonable expectations that all women are pin-up beauties? Probably. One thing I do find strange is the desire for some men, or perhaps a lot of men, to pound away at intercourse for lengthy periods of time. Maybe this is porn driven, or maybe it's from discussion forums like this. While I could last half an hour or more, I would get bored and sore from friction, and my wife would also be bored and sore. Either way, it's not much fun, and there's much more enjoyment to be had before and after intercourse, and intercourse only needs to last as long as it needs to last.

 

[Drifterwood]

It's a bit like how you used to be in love with David Cassidy.

 

[dolfette]

who is david cassidy

 

[B_New End]

I don't know how I would have coped if I was 21 or 31 now, rather than 51. Unreasonable sexual expectations derived from porn? Unreasonable expectations that all women are pin-up beauties? Probably. One thing I do find strange is the desire for some men, or perhaps a lot of men, to pound away at intercourse for lengthy periods of time. Maybe this is porn driven, or maybe it's from discussion forums like this. While I could last half an hour or more, I would get bored and sore from friction, and my wife would also be bored and sore. Either way, it's not much fun, and there's much more enjoyment to be had before and after intercourse, and intercourse only needs to last as long as it needs to last.

Not every man finds pounding porn interesting. I know I don't. I am sure even a majority don't care for it. But male sexuality is far from a "majority rules" democracy. All men have their little tastes and desires. I mean some men even enjoy fucking other men, to me that is a total WTF!?

So men get their jollies from porn in many different ways.

Regarding body type/ideal image. Again, I do not think so. My first G/f was definitely no porn star, but I still loved her because she was my first. I think every man has his realistic expectations, and regardless of pornography or not, there will always be the small minority that never, lowers expectations, so to speak. This happens to women just as well. There is also the minority, that loves amateur porn, where the woman can be of (almost) any size.

All Dolfette has done, is present the life follows art argument. I have always disagreed with that, and felt that art follows life.

 

[stamrod]

I think I fall into the category of watching a lot of porn. Especially before I started having sex. But, I don't think I had unrealistic expectations. I think the guys you're running into, dolfette, are just blurring the line between fantasy and reality.

Most people know that what they see in a video is staged and isn't reality, but they don't always act like they know it because deep down, they don't want to believe it. It breaks their fantasy. I think a guy has to be a little more rational and discerning to watch a lot of porn and not get high/unrealistic expectations.

 

[Drifterwood]

who is david cassidy

I'm not explaining my jokes.


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[silentview]

Not every man finds pounding porn interesting. I know I don't. I am sure even a majority don't care for it. But male sexuality is far from a "majority rules" democracy. All men have their little tastes and desires.

So many decent arguments to be had and seeing as this threads already brimming with cock I figured you wouldn't mind me making a few more.

I for one was exposed to adult materials at a young age, being as I've always been a bright one of the bunch I knew how to get to these things without ever getting caught. Its been a part of my life for a majority of my life and I know I was and have been addicted to porn several times all before now and I'm only just 20.

That having been said, I don't feel that I have been impacted as deeply as many would be lead to believe. Granted I have a high sex drive, I don't believe its anything that has been instilled in me just how I've been... blessed. I feel that any man with enough intelligence to get a quality girl (one for which all this matters) should be able to separate facts from fiction.

Its true that porn is highly visually stimulating, but when you look at how a man functions in his day to day life you'll realize men are naturally driven visually.

It can be said that porn does has its set backs. I have found that the mental resilience in sexuality can be lessened by an on demand world of streaming videos, but for anyone capable of understanding the risks they should be able to exercise their biggest sex organ, their brain, to compensate.

The expectations imparted into young boys by porn can be harmful in some cases but in the vast majority I feel that most men can handle the transition to S.A.P. sex after porn. Saying that men are pigs because porn has made them that way just doesn't seem to cut the mustard for me. I for one have seen and experienced the gauntlet and yet when it comes to sex IRL I'm a lover, sensitive and caring, I don't place expectations and needs upon my partners. I'm capable of separating fiction from real experiences and emotions. And yet I can be flexible enough to meet needs and demands.

If I've ever had any challenge caused by porn it was that I though it would all be so much easier my first time... you know what, I was wrong but I had a blast anyways. I love my women innocent and quiet, sensual sex is miles beyond a quick fuck.

 

[dolfette]

I think the guys you're running into, dolfette, are just blurring the line between fantasy and reality.

seeing me naked gives men unrealistic pornographic fantasies.

 

[KTF40]

For as much shit as porn may get from women due to how unrealistic it is from actual sex, I think women could definitely benefit from watching some more porn themselves.

For example, I had sex with a girl last weekend who had no idea what she was doing. She is extremely smart and has read a lot of books about sex, but I get the feeling she has watched little to no porn because of her movements during intercourse. When she got on top she just started bouncing up and down without purpose it seemed to me. She had no touch, feel, or understanding of how to get herself off on me. I'm sure if she watched some porn, and saw more experienced actresses due their thing, she wouldn't have looked goofy.

Also, while giving a blowjob she used the same technique the entire time! Apparently she read in a book or magazine the pleasure spots on a penis so she thought maintaining pressure on those spots was the ideal way or something. I doubt any guy wants his dick sucked the same way for 5-10mins! Mix it up, use two hands, one hand, no hands, lick it, suck it, go down and hold, etc. Some porn would have done this girl good.

 

[_Alexxx_]

almost nobody reads the link!

Is that an invitation to pm you? :wink:

 

[dongalong]

These days most teenage men get their sex education from the internet, unfortunately they learn too much when it becomes their favorite subject.

When men see some of the more extreme sexual possibilities, in our minds it is realistic - because we really saw it happen. Only girls that won't accept to try something think that it is unrealistic to actually do it. (obviously they have their reasons!)
If a guy wants to try something he saw, he'll just have to find a willing girl to make his desires reality - luckily there are women who will do anything to please their man.
With all this free internet porn, younger people have much less sexual limits, many young women are giving in to the pressures that men put on them to try new things, bisexual experimentation and anal sex are becoming normal sexual practice these days.

You should just accept reality, men like what we like and it's not always the same as women like, it's a bit sad to be critical of us, men are naturally stimulated visually, just look at the reaction that your avatar got Dolfette!

 

[silentview]

For as much shit as porn may get from women due to how unrealistic it is from actual sex, I think women could definitely benefit from watching some more porn themselves.

For example, I had sex with a girl last weekend who had no idea what she was doing. She is extremely smart and has read a lot of books about sex, but I get the feeling she has watched little to no porn because of her movements during intercourse. When she got on top she just started bouncing up and down without purpose it seemed to me. She had no touch, feel, or understanding of how to get herself off on me. I'm sure if she watched some porn, and saw more experienced actresses due their thing, she wouldn't have looked goofy.

Also, while giving a blowjob she used the same technique the entire time! Apparently she read in a book or magazine the pleasure spots on a penis so she thought maintaining pressure on those spots was the ideal way or something. I doubt any guy wants his dick sucked the same way for 5-10mins! Mix it up, use two hands, one hand, no hands, lick it, suck it, go down and hold, etc. Some porn would have done this girl good.

You've got to remember too that real sex takes practice.

 

[Wish-4-8]

men are naturally stimulated visually, just look at the reaction that your avatar got Dolfette!

Did I miss that thread?

 

[D_Barnemommy Crackspackle]

i know. i should rub, not strike.
but i's in my nature to offensive and caustic in my words.
it compensates for how nauseatingly sweet i am in my actions.

I love you dolfette!

Men adore what they see......... and love what they get

Hour upon hour of diff angles never does it for me

Let's play ALL the games, yes! ........But let's also enjoy

 

[davis67]

geez, there have been some strange outbursts of anger over this thread.

I wouldn't call myself a big porn watcher...I've watched little clips of this and that on the net, and really have no issues with most of what I've seen. However, I have seen a couple videos (a bangbus one and some gangbang audition tape or something like that) that have little snide anti-woman, bro's before ho's comments and attitudes in them and seem to want to present sex as men against women. It's a weird thing that I'm guessing appeals to the afraid little boy that exists inside some people. Aside from that, I think it's all pretty harmless to the well-balanced individual that gets that these images are fiction, they're entertainment not to be confused with how real people fuck and how real people react when having sex.