Ladies, your help please if you may

Discussion in 'Women's Issues' started by Wyldgusechaz, Jan 13, 2008.

  1. Wyldgusechaz

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    From superlarge:Engage their minds? You're the one who's got to be kidding. In those settings if a guy tries to engage their minds with something other than mere chit chat the vast majority of those chicks will not be leaving with him, if any. I've seen guys try it and it doesn't work. I even tried it before I came to realise it just doesn't turn chicks on in party atmospheres<< end quote

    Would you fuck a guy on a one night stand (if you even do one nighters) based simply on looks? I say unless he is unreal freakishly good looking, I say no. I say he needs some wit, charm, or ability to make some connection mentally b/4 you will fuck him. My personal experience is that if I can engage a women in some sharp fun conversation, and I have passed the initial 3 second fuckability judgment, then I stand a good chance of getting laid. If I fumble the male/female repartee, I am toast.
     
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    If you're an asshole you won't be getting any. Period.

    Asshole = selfishness and overcompensation for lack of skills/equipment/prowess.
     
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    You got that right sister!!! Amen!
     
  4. the_reverend

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    if the girl can't appreciate intelligent conversation, we probably wouldn't have clicked well in the sack anyway. i don't really do "one nighters" anymore anyway...looking for deeper connections than that in my life right now. hell, even the last girl i hooked up with which was only "one night" since we both lived out of town from where we met has become a great friend that i still talk to. there's gotta be more than just "you look fuckable" in the equation.
     
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    I think it is important to define one nighter.

    If you are referring to going out with the girls and stumbling across mister too unbelieveably gorgeous and there is a mutual interest and doing him that one night ... I dont care how witty he is, he will need to find someone else. So no.

    However, if I have a friend who I have confided in, swapped fantasies with, grabbed a drink or two, realized that we are not relationship material but there is an attraction (and engaging the mind fosters that attraction) I may consider an one night stand. It would depend on where I was at with my personal life. If I wasn't dating someone, I would probably likely consider it.

    On the flip side, I have a gentleman that I have been communicating with for a short time who meets much of my criteria. He is educated, successful, good looking, bigger than average, in his 30s, over 6'1", a pilot (always thought that would be a great perk), etc. He probably could really engage my mind as he is a bright man, but he bothers not. He only wants to discuss fantasies and role playing. My finger is on the button of the trap door.

    Engaging my mind is crucial.

    Edited to add:

    In addition, I have met a young man online in recent weeks that I probably would have had no interest in should we have crossed paths in a traditional real life encounter. One HUGE reason being that he is only 29 yo, but through our online chats and telephone conversations, his mind has definately captured my attention.

    So again ... for me the mind is key.
     
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    Chit chat won't do it for me, anyone can chit chat and there has to be more to a guy than someone who can talk about the latest Big Brother shenanigans.
     
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    I have to at least like the guy... it doesn't matter how cute he is, if he's not likeable I'm not going to fuck him.
     
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    Oh for heavens sake! :12: There is only one definition for a one night stand. :headache: The other two situations you mentioned are at best hook-ups.

    I agree!



     
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    Geez, no need to raise the body temps. The last two situations were to give examples of how important engaging the mind is for me.
     
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    After reading this thread I now understand why prostitution is still alive and kicking!If I'm horny and looking for something to poke,I'm not spending all night to impress a woman with talk and drinks.I'll spend my money on a hooker!But of course i don't have to do that,my wife likes quickies.So here's a song for you!

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    A guy would have to be pretty fuckin slick for me to have a one night stand with him. It would require a LOT more than looks.
     
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    I just cant bring myself to have a one night stand, no matter how gorgeous or charming the guy is. I have no problem with the people that do, but it just isn't for me, so he would have to be a really, really smooth talker to get me into the sack
     
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    Hmmmm. No offense, but the question doesn't compute. Are you asking on behalf of superlarge? And what exactly is the question? Whether we need to have our minds engaged? Whether engaging our minds is a waste of time?

    There is no cut and dried answer.

    -- Contrary to popular belief, I don't do one night stands. Anyone I fuck is a friend. And always with the consent of my s/o.
    -- If I don't "click" with someone's mind, then I won't fuck them.
    -- But then, there are a lot of people who I think are fantastic with great minds... but I would never fuck them.

    I guess the simple answer to the question is:

    X + Z = ?

    X = attraction
    Z = mind connection

    All I'm saying is that there ISN'T a formula. There are no guarantees.

    If men want a sure thing, they should go over to the other side where the gay grass is wonderfully green! :biggrin1:
     
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    Naturally its competition between men that I am asking you ladies to mediate. Isn't that just like we silly boys?

    What I am saying contrary to the obvious subject of this site, is that women are drawn to intelligence, not dick size. You all answered affirmatively it for me, thank you, and that is you aren't going to fuck a guy just cause of his size. He has to have some degree of charm or wit or personality. I can tell from some of the frequent posts here that some (a lot?) guys think all they need to do is flash a trouser monster and you will melt. I think for the large percentage of women (not size queens tho) penis size is a very very small factor in selecting a partner. If you are a man, average in size, and have some class, charm and wit, u will not want for partners.

    I read some of the posts on this site whereby guys ask how much of their IQ would they give up to be bigger. 20 points for an inch or 2? A lot of men would make that trade. Not me. Since the dawn of homo sapiens, intelligence is the trait for which it is most selected in man. Intelligence (and industriousness) is everything. Its why Neanderthals are extinct.

    Lets face it, penis size is getting further and further down the list of positive evolutionary attributes in men. Look at it this way, the further you get from the cradle of man, Africa, the smaller the testicles. Asian men and Native North and South Americans have the smallest testicles of homo sapiens. Thomas Jefferson even noted how slight the reproductive organs were of Indians. Why? If testicle size where even slightly critical we would have seen maintainence of large balls but we do not. Women simply cannot afford to waste their time on a dummy.

    IMO women are rarely driven to fuck a guy purely based on physicality. As all of us are there is an initial attraction based on looks but if he opens his mouth and nothing but hot air comes out, see ya.
     
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    one night stands hmmmmm, well before I was married i would go for that. If the guy had a good looking body, bought me a drink and flirted with me. Yeah if he flirted and got my aroused he would have his one nighter. And of course if he brought or used the condem I brought. We would fuck at his house and then he had to take me home.

    Now that I am married I have no interest in one night stands cause I get all the sex I want at home. of course it took my husband years to get me to admit that I just love to fuck and don't need all the romantic shit. Funny how I tried to hide what I wanted from him because I thought it was being slutty.
     
  16. ManlyBanisters

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    Well - I can think of two occasions where I have been at a party / club and met a guy who I knew did not measure up intellectwise and fucked him anyway. It may have happened more than twice - but there are two that spring to mind.

    Of course that has to be taken in context of me - In those days it wasn't unknown that I'd fuck a guy with no conversation whatsoever occuring, either before or after - didn't happen often (twice actually) and in both situations both ecstasy and, fortunately, condoms were involved.

    But then it has also been said that I have a far more male attitude to sex than most females.

    On a more general level, taking me now and most other women I know into account, I think what Wyldgusechaz is saying is the norm.
     
  17. Not_Punny

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    I've been debating this (internally), and I think I know what answers it for me.

    Future.

    No, not the stock kind of futures, but looking forward in time.

    Where sex is concerned, men seem to be very much into the NOW. But women seem to have one eye on the future: where could this go? What about tomorrow?

    Since the dawn of time, women have had to worry about pregnancy and the aftereffects of pregnancy -- death or child rearing. I believe this has inculcated caution into the female brain.

    It's only been 60 - 70 years since maternal mortality rates dropped dramatically with the introduction of antibiotics, ultrasound, and refinements in c-sections. And it's only been fifty years since the sexual revolution -- since women haven't had to worry about the certainty of pregnancy and the certainty of social ostracization.

    Fifty years is a drop in the bucket of evolution. And the "problem" still exists -- every year, worldwide, 210 million women become pregnant, and 600,000 women die in childbirth.

    Granted, some women are wired more like men. Also, altered mental states (from drugs, too much alcohol, etc.), will temporarily suspend this "future" habit in women.

    Men wanna get laid. Women want someone who will be there.

    I could be wrong.

    But that's how I see it.
     
  18. Not_Punny

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    In other words, when a man is chatting up a woman in a bar, she's consciously or subconsciously looking at him as potential bf or husband material, not just as a dildo for the night.
     
  19. Wyldgusechaz

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    I agree and its the entire premise of my argument. Going back eons in time, women have to be concerned with the quality of the man they fuck. There is no more helpless creatures on the earth than a post partum female and her newborn infant. None. I was reading this one article and there used to be huge eagles that may have preyed only on humans, specifically toddlers. Thats where are genetics was forged. As you said hotmilf, a woman risks her LIFE to have a child. She needed a partner that would protect her while she recovered from child birth. That where love comes into play.

    Cock size has almost nothing to do with what a woman wants in a man. She might drop her guard under the influence of drugs and alcohol but over the long haul, she want quality not quantity.


    I figured I would be right, thank you for confirming it.
     
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