From superlarge:Engage their minds? You're the one who's got to be kidding. In those settings if a guy tries to engage their minds with something other than mere chit chat the vast majority of those chicks will not be leaving with him, if any. I've seen guys try it and it doesn't work. I even tried it before I came to realise it just doesn't turn chicks on in party atmospheres<< end quote Would you fuck a guy on a one night stand (if you even do one nighters) based simply on looks? I say unless he is unreal freakishly good looking, I say no. I say he needs some wit, charm, or ability to make some connection mentally b/4 you will fuck him. My personal experience is that if I can engage a women in some sharp fun conversation, and I have passed the initial 3 second fuckability judgment, then I stand a good chance of getting laid. If I fumble the male/female repartee, I am toast.