Ladies, your sex drive?

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  1. Drifterwood

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    I was chatting to a girl friend the other day. She's mid forties, two teenage kids, works etc etc.. She was saying that she is almost never horny nor thinks about sex, but when she starts having sex, only then does she get horny. I find this passiveness a bit unsexy if I am honest.

    Is this unusual? Do things change with ageing? Does sex drive modify to lifestyle?
     
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    i'm not a woman but sex drive differs from person to person. i think as long as one feels content with only desiring a little sex, then there should be no problem.

    the only problem i can see if is a person has no sex drive at all, or is so horny that they spend most of the day tugging one off. :biggrin1: But anywhere between those extremes is OK.
     
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    My wife lost interest in sex 23 years ago, when our daughter was born, and has never recovered her libido since. Seems to be a not-uncommon story, in my experience.
     
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    Most 45 year old i have met seem hornier than they were in their 20's
     
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    It varies. The commonest reason for low sex drive in women is OVERWORK. But the pharmaceutical companies do not sell pills for that.

    My sex drive rebounded amazingly as soon as the children could take care of their own hygeine and feeding to some extent and be given chores. It was like magic.
     
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    I'll chime in and echo my curiosity as well. I've always heard, read, and experienced a woman's supposed sexual peak in her 40s and I'm really not sure how accurate that is. If she's single and the kids are all grown up to let her mind go back to her needs, yes, she gets horny as all hell. But when she gets that supply of cock satiated, she seems to go back to the stereotypical, "You need it more than I do, so I make the rules" behavior.
     
  7. ManlyBanisters

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    Really?

    Citations, please?
     
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    So you knew them all in their 20's?
     
  9. D_Dallavell Dipsticke

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    Knew their moms
     
  10. D_Dallavell Dipsticke

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    Clarify that about moms..Knew friends moms who were divorced and they were horny as hell..friends who got married in their early 20's and got divorved were very horny after divorce by then they wer in their 40/s
     
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    Thanks, bra - clear as mud :wink:
     
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    Argh, I knew someone was going to ask this. You've caught me with my pants down and I'm about to head out for work.

    I'll look through my bookmarks when I get home tonight, I promise.
     
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    I'll be 39 tomorrow and my sex drive is higher than ever. I get horny every day, multiple times a day some days.
     
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    :smile:eek:.k. there u go ..39 years and firing away
     
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    MOST guys need sex like they need air to breath. MOST women past 45 only need air to breath to keep them happy. That is just the way it is as a rule!
     
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    I'm a woman, I'm 33, and throughout my life, when I've been in a relationship, the men have had trouble keeping up with my drive. I think women's libido's cover a broad spectrum, just like men's do.
     
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    mine is insatiable!!!! 44 years old here.
     
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    Thanks everyone, looks like this will be an interesting thread.

    Does anyone recognise this "I'm not horny until I start having sex"? It's a new one for me.
     
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    I sometimes go through periods of this. Sometimes its because the men I've known have all confused tickling for an appropriate expression of affection. After being tickled to much I'm disinterested in sex for days. Sometimes it is just a hormonal flux. Right now, it is due to adjustment period with regard to a new medication. I have so many weird side-effects that sex is really far from my mind. Since one of those side-effects is lower testosterone, perhaps it's due to hormones too. I asked if the pills would impact my sex life, and I was told they shouldn't. We'll see.
     
  20. D_Sparroe Spongecaques

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    I hit my peak when i got to 32.I'd left my husband,got divorced,moved 250 miles from home......and in the process i dropped 7 stone in weight.

    I can't speak for everyone and especially the woman in OP but depression lowers labido (sorry no links,ask your GP).Maybe she is just overtired,in a stale relationship,boredom or perhaps she could be starting an early menopause......
     
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