Large penis = possible desensitization?

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  1. D_Skid_Marque

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    Hey everyone, coming to you with a possible concern and/or interesting discussion material. As someone with a larger then average penis, I have come across a concern that I may be able to have help answering here. I find that during intercourse with my partner, after around the 10 minute mark the sensation and sensitivity I have starts to die down quite a bit to the point where I can risk not reaching orgasm what so ever, or to the point where I last an hour long before climaxing. I have a naturally long lasting time with sex, I can easily go on for 30 minutes, but I'm wondering if any of you have had a similar issue.

    It's almost as if my nerves go a little numb, and as far as I can tell it could either be from me going too hard and too fast thus over-working the nerves; I could be stretching out my partner to the point where he is too loose; or other (?). Any ideas?
     
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    It might just actually be a sensation over load. Sometimes when you're having sex you can get so excited that things feel a bit outer body.

    I'm about 8.5 x 8. And I kind of have the same problem. But its simply because I feel so out of it when things start. If its not being too aroused, then you need to BE aroused.... get your partner to do something to you... Have him find out the sensitive parts on your body, so you know you're being touched. Have him lick somewhere sensitive, have him try a bit of oral on your to get you started.

    It doesn't sound like theres a build up to what you're doing. Try some good foreplay, get each other excited.
     
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    having the same problem to be honest, the feeling during sex fades after a while to a point where it's impossible to reach a climax... pretty much every time :p
     
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    Oooooh foreplay isnt an issue, we usually double the time of actual sex with the amount of foreplay we have. Oral most deffinately being a part of our foreplay. Maybe it could be a libedo thing cause I know his is higher than mine for sure, he can turn on the switch and I have to say sure and work myself up to it. But I suppose that is pretty much the same thing you just brought up.

    I do know when we're going at it I have a tendancy to go pretty hard and fast though, which is why I brought up the possibility of stretching him out or overworking the nerves.



    Well buddy, keep an eye on this, ya may find something that works :D
     
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    I've experianced this, like you said after awhile it doesnt feel as good.
     
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    Hrrrm.... yeah... Sounds odd... I'm not exactly an expert in this area, heh. But when it does come down to performing.... well it sounds like you do lose your libido halfway through... Do you start going soft as well while you're inside him?
     
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    Quite the opposite actually, I can stay hard up to 20 minutes after blowing XD

    During sex? I have noticed that, while i stay hard all the way through, I kinda lose that iron hard feeling, and the bf has commented that it doesnt throb as much, kinda like my dick just gave up on me XD
     
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    This is actually really interesting to see. Larger then average people are having this issue quite a lot it seems. Or at the very least 5/5 as of this moment :p
     
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    i get it once in a while from holding back your sensation dies down
     
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    *laughs* Then it does just sound like you lose that libido after a while. Its nothing to be ashamed of, you've just gotta find something to keep you going, whatever it is?
     
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    Not ashamed at all, just lookin at it as a puzzle to solve. To be quite honest whenever I have this issue of having a hard time getting to orgasm, I will take a couple days off, get back at it, and will have no issue what so ever. So yeah, could be that taking a break raises the libedo, could be that taking a break gives my nerves a weekend. :p I shall solve this in the name of science!
     
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    Perhaps you're going at it too hard? Desensitization often happens when nerves get overloaded - like when guys masturbate with a death grip and then can't cum from sex. An unforgiving handjob, bad oral, or jackhammering anal (you said you like it "hard and fast") could be culprits. Maybe slow down the motion and enjoy the ride? Try a slow burn?

    Also, if you do fine during oral, which you called foreplay, but start losing it during anal, perhaps your penis needs more oral and less anal? I know I would love to love hand jobs, but my dick doesn't and I can't make it no matter how hard or how often I try. Meanwhile, oral makes my cock go so crazy I can practically see through time. So do I: a) Fight it? b) Enjoy what works for me?

    I'm not saying quit anal, or that one of you's not doing something right and that's rubbing you numb, but do think from what you've said your body's sending you a message.

    Alternatively, if you guys are using condoms (which, of course, you should be doing unless you're in a committed monogamous LTR and you've both been thoroughly and properly tested) you may want to try a new brand. Going from great, most likely unprotected, foreplay and oral to strapped-up anal might be a tough transition for your dick to make, so a better condom might be in order.
     
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    Wow.. I have no real solution to your question but.. just from what I've read in the thread, you being large.. being able to fuck forever, doing it hard and fast.. I just had to say I'd so want to be fucked by you. xD :X
     
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    If I masturbate over 30 minutes my orgasm feels like nothing; like it isn't happening almost. If I get off in like 2 minutes I have super powerful intense body-shaking orgams and absolutely no cum.
     
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    Orgasm is something different, I haven’t quite had that happen to me, though I do know there are cases where people can cum without orgasm, or orgasm without cumming, those are usually rare cases for that to happen however.

    I mean more during the act of sex the sensation of sex itself will die after a while on occasion, usually when I am going really fast and really hard, so the possibility of over working nerves or stretching the bottom out to the point of lack of sensation or both or other is a distinct possibility.
     
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    Because I was really big when I was really young I was referred by our family doctor to a specialist just to make sure I wasn't suffering some genetic condition or some such. (Haven't ever heard since of any such condition, I suspect our doctor was just doing something to reassure insecure parents).

    Any way as far as this thread is concerned I established a really cool relationship with the specialist and saw him a few times between the age of 7 and 14. He was as much a counsellor as medical expert and in one conversation he told me that it really doesn't matter what size your penis is as far as the number of nerve endings present in your cock. So a guy with a small cock getting hold of the whole thing is triggering every nerve ending at the same time, while the huge and the hung can't do that. It certainly explains why so m any big guys cherish partners who can take it all. I know I do.
     
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    Thank god for being gay. Men are deeper then woman are. That and I have a bf who can not only handle it, but handle it hard and fast. :p

    Had a conversation with the bf about it though, he seems to think that after 6 years of sex with me, he stretches out really easily now so the longer we go, the looser he is, the less sensation I get. Makes sense that way too.
     
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