Large penises and sexual submissiveness

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So we have all heard the claims that a large penis generally has little to do with how much a woman enjoys sex and that it really is more about what a guy can do with it, that if anything matters it is thickness, etc. I know the statistics about the depth of a vagina where the nerve endings run, etc, and this makes sense.

And yet.

You can go to the thread about reactions to your size, and it's pretty clear a LOT of women get excited about large cocks. I've been toying around with explanations for this discrepancy from my own experience, and it occurs to me that most of the girls who have been the most consistently interested in my penis -- the ones who keep talking about it even a couple of months after dating -- have been the most submissive as well. I don't mean this in a kink sense, I just mean in a general sense of where power is distributed in the relationship and bedroom.

So could I be onto something? I'm 6'3", broad shouldered with a jawline, and I think that's part of why I tend to attract more submissive women in general. Could large penises be turn-ons for some women just as a general expression of masculinity, even if they don't directly translate to sexual pleasure as such?

Or maybe the compliments are just ego stroking (in which case . . . it works!).
 

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This is my take....

As a fairly fit guy with an average (or slightly below average) endowment, I can report that women are / were interested in me for my looks and personality. And none were turned off by my size. Many praised me as a lover.

However, I’ve never received specific praise or attention BECAUSE of my size.

So, my take is that chicks like what they like: hieght, jaw, build, personality. And if they like that, then they will like your size even if it isn’t big or above average.

If they stop likening those other things about you, they may stop liking your penis too. Perhaps use it’s size as an attack on your ego if they aren’t nice (or feel you deserve it).

In the flip side, if a chick is naturally turned on by the masculinity of a big size, it might keep her around even after she stops liking your personality. But it will be because that’s what she liked in the first place.

In a why, Being hung doesn’t even protect a guy from an ego attack from an angry lover. She could just as well could say that you’re just a big dumb dick who doesn’t know how to use it.

I think some women like size as a symbol of masculinity and dominance just like sown like height or build or money. That subset cares about size a lot and if you are hung they will gravitate to you. That it seem like “size matters”.

Other women—the majority—are attracted primarily to other things. That makes it seem like “size doesn’t matter”

Those two realities are muddied by men’s competitive desire to be the biggest and women’s ability to exploit men’s insecurities if they are scorned or wronged.
 

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This is my take....

I have been married to same woman for 35 yrs. we are so connected in so many ways. Our sexual chemistry is terrific. Our sex lives is great. I am well endowed and not once has my wife ever indicated that she married me for what I was packing in my pants. In fact she has clarified that she did not marry me for my cock. She married me for all the right reasons. She has told me this several times that most women do not marry men for what is in there pants.

As a fairly fit guy with an average (or slightly below average) endowment, I can report that women are / were interested in me for my looks and personality. And none were turned off by my size. Many praised me as a lover.

However, I’ve never received specific praise or attention BECAUSE of my size.

So, my take is that chicks like what they like: hieght, jaw, build, personality. And if they like that, then they will like your size even if it isn’t big or above average.

If they stop likening those other things about you, they may stop liking your penis too. Perhaps use it’s size as an attack on your ego if they aren’t nice (or feel you deserve it).

In the flip side, if a chick is naturally turned on by the masculinity of a big size, it might keep her around even after she stops liking your personality. But it will be because that’s what she liked in the first place.

In a why, Being hung doesn’t even protect a guy from an ego attack from an angry lover. She could just as well could say that you’re just a big dumb dick who doesn’t know how to use it.

I think some women like size as a symbol of masculinity and dominance just like sown like height or build or money. That subset cares about size a lot and if you are hung they will gravitate to you. That it seem like “size matters”.

Other women—the majority—are attracted primarily to other things. That makes it seem like “size doesn’t matter”

Those two realities are muddied by men’s competitive desire to be the biggest and women’s ability to exploit men’s insecurities if they are scorned or wronged.
 

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I think this is all very simple. Look at the animal kingdom. The males with the best show during the mating ritual are the ones that get the female. The brightest colored feathers,the loudest roar etc.
A large penis is stimulating to both male and female. I have a straight friend who went with me to the nude beach. The guy next to us stood up and had a very big cock. My friends reaction was WOW.
I believe females are naturally submissive, but it takes more than a big cock to get them.
 
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Disagree.
The human male cock size only matters AFTER you get her into bed.
Then she may be impressed.
I have spent years on nude beaches and my whole life on the "hunt" for pussy.
My cock only ever impressed men even when I was a draftee in the milatary in the 70s.
In my experience:
Women take you to their bed not for your cock but for you you are.
It is the way you treat people and animals and the way you treat her that is finally going to get her to open up to you.
 
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