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Any guys got any tips for this? I can can actually last a pretty long time in sex and hold off cumming for a while, but when it comes to FUCKING - what my girlfriend wants - I find it difficult to last for more than a few minutes.

This is exacerbated by missionary position. Doggie style I can fuck for hours but missionary is where I really find it difficult! Unfortunately my girlfriend loves missionary above all else.
 

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Any guys got any tips for this? I can can actually last a pretty long time in sex and hold off cumming for a while, but when it comes to FUCKING - what my girlfriend wants - I find it difficult to last for more than a few minutes.

This is exacerbated by missionary position. Doggie style I can fuck for hours but missionary is where I really find it difficult! Unfortunately my girlfriend loves missionary above all else.

I have the opposite problem, I can't cum in the missionary position at all.

Maybe if you visualize the woman's face from Throw Mama From The Train, you won't cum so quick.
 

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Any guys got any tips for this? I can can actually last a pretty long time in sex and hold off cumming for a while, but when it comes to FUCKING - what my girlfriend wants - I find it difficult to last for more than a few minutes.

This is exacerbated by missionary position. Doggie style I can fuck for hours but missionary is where I really find it difficult! Unfortunately my girlfriend loves missionary above all else.

Hi here...just try and regulate your breathing...this is what a lot of the pornstars use....inhale in the up and exhale on the down and set a slow pace..just keep that pace on concentrate hard on keeping that pace ..this take your mind off the cuming drama build up.Once you loose the pace you will start breathing faster you will cum that sooner...its in the breathing bro..!!
 

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If you wear a condom, you can use a small amount of numbing cream on your penis inside the condom. You won't feel quite as much but you'll be able to go for a while.
 

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Any guys got any tips for this? I can can actually last a pretty long time in sex and hold off cumming for a while, but when it comes to FUCKING - what my girlfriend wants - I find it difficult to last for more than a few minutes.

This is exacerbated by missionary position. Doggie style I can fuck for hours but missionary is where I really find it difficult! Unfortunately my girlfriend loves missionary above all else.

I find that changing positions helps me last longer. Staying in the same position (especially missionary) causes that buildup towards the point of no return. I find that switching positions gives my penis just enough of a break from that wonderful stimulation, that it's almost like starting 'fresh' after I start fucking in the new position. Changing your pace (slowing down) and controlling your breathing may also help.

I have the opposite problem, I can't cum in the missionary position at all.

Maybe if you visualize the woman's face from Throw Mama From The Train, you won't cum so quick.
If I thought of her while I was fucking, I'd be limp in seconds! Too much anti-stimulation! :lmao:
 

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I agree with lapdog. Swithchin it up not only makes the session more interesting but gives me enough down time to reset. Plus, like Katt Williams says, as a top you gotta know your fuck number. Certain positions will make me nutt quicker so know how long you can hang before you gotta switch it up. Also alternating between going shallow and deep dickin up against her sugar wall helps to make it last longer too.
 

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Any guys got any tips for this? I can can actually last a pretty long time in sex and hold off cumming for a while, but when it comes to FUCKING - what my girlfriend wants - I find it difficult to last for more than a few minutes.

This is exacerbated by missionary position. Doggie style I can fuck for hours but missionary is where I really find it difficult! Unfortunately my girlfriend loves missionary above all else.

How old are you? When I was younger (in my 20s) I used to jack off about 4 hours before having sex. I was able to last a lot longer.
 

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I'd mirror most of the other answers.

Changing position - even a fairly slight change - can help, as can changing speed. Deliberately breathing slowly works well for me sometimes, as can reciting something in my mind that is unrelated to what I am doing (lyrics of a song, or a list of something like railway stations or newspapers, believe it or not).

How old are you? When I was younger (in my 20s) I used to jack off about 4 hours before having sex. I was able to last a lot longer.
I do this sometimes. It works too. More fun than reciting the names of railway stations in your mind, too...
 

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when i am close to orgasm, i slow/stop and have a "mini" orgasm-- like one small spurt. that desensitizes me enough to keep going. kinda like edging... but if edging is going right up to the line but not crossing, this is like going up to the line, putting one toe over and then bringing it back... i can basically last as long as i need to. caveats: i was not able to do this until i was older, like mid 30s; and bad strategy if you are using a condom
 

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To refocus on the OP, I think he's asking for specific advice:

His GF wants to be fucked HARD.

How, when giving her the temp she wants, do you keep from cumming?

I have the same issue sometimes. I can last a while when I set a decent pace, when we change positions, etc.

But especially when on her back, sometimes my wife just wants to be fucked hard and deep and fast. And it's hard not to cum fast when providing it just like that. So I understand the OP's particular concern.
 

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The whole process of arriving at an orgasm is based upon muscle tension (myotonia), so a good strategy is to stay as "loose" as possible for as long as possible. For instance, don't clench your glutes excessively when thrusting, don't make your body an overly rigid plank in missionary, seek out the positions that make it easy for you to really fuck, and let your body weight rest on other objects.

As a second line of thinking, maybe you should give some liberator sex furniture a try, or use a sex swing. Either way, you might find that she gets off a lot harder and easier because of the new position variety, and you won't have to fuck as hard for as long.

Last idea: Mix a nice wine into the foreplay and sex regime. The mild amount of alcohol might help you (plus wine + sex?! C'mon!).
 
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Lexipro is prescribed for this if nothing else works
 

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Any guys got any tips for this? I can can actually last a pretty long time in sex and hold off cumming for a while, but when it comes to FUCKING - what my girlfriend wants - I find it difficult to last for more than a few minutes.

This is exacerbated by missionary position. Doggie style I can fuck for hours but missionary is where I really find it difficult! Unfortunately my girlfriend loves missionary above all else.

I find it's all in the breathing.... I can lower my level of arousal by taking deep breaths...
 

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one thing that i've noticed with myself is that it's harder for me to come when i'm really hot. i moved to a tropical climate, and here, it takes me much longer to get off. i'm sure it could be a combination of a lot of factors, but i've also heard that it's harder for guys to come in a hot shower. maybe there's something to the ambient temperature... try turning off the A/C or cranking up the heat, and let me know if you have any noticeable results
 

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one thing that i've noticed with myself is that it's harder for me to come when i'm really hot. i moved to a tropical climate, and here, it takes me much longer to get off. i'm sure it could be a combination of a lot of factors, but i've also heard that it's harder for guys to come in a hot shower. maybe there's something to the ambient temperature... try turning off the A/C or cranking up the heat, and let me know if you have any noticeable results

This is certainly true, it's much easier in the winter. But I attribute that too simply the temperature being more comfortable, and more comfort leads to greater sensation. But yes, there might be some other biological explanation for it. One could be you are set to lose fluids through sweat. Anyway, it gets pretty damn hot here in the summers, I have often found myself reaching out for the AC and putting everything to max cool.

I haven't really been with someone who prefers super long sessions (most liked it short and sweet) but if it happens leaving the AC off might be an idea. It's just that I don't like long sessions myself, not sure I would enjoy it either way.
 
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I agree with lapdog. Swithchin it up not only makes the session more interesting but gives me enough down time to reset. Plus, like Katt Williams says, as a top you gotta know your fuck number. Certain positions will make me nutt quicker so know how long you can hang before you gotta switch it up. Also alternating between going shallow and deep dickin up against her sugar wall helps to make it last longer too.

Yep, this is exactly what my problem is. Switching positions is absolutely no problem, I can have a steady session for 40 minutes easy, but who wants a steady session?? ;)

I will try breathing and remaining loose, both good ideas!

Thanks for the posts guys, keep them coming. I'll let you know how it goes.
 

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To refocus on the OP, I think he's asking for specific advice:

His GF wants to be fucked HARD.

How, when giving her the temp she wants, do you keep from cumming?

I have the same issue sometimes. I can last a while when I set a decent pace, when we change positions, etc.

But especially when on her back, sometimes my wife just wants to be fucked hard and deep and fast. And it's hard not to cum fast when providing it just like that. So I understand the OP's particular concern.

I simply cannot last long when going hard and fast. The stimulation is simply to much to take and I cum. On very rare occasions I have been able 'pound pussy', usually doggy style while holding onto her hips while thrusting. I can never tell ahead of time when I will last in that position, but when I do, the woman usually has had enough (too much stimulation or too deep) after a few minutes and we switch positions. Mind distractions do help to keep the thrusting going, but don't get so 'out of it' that you loose your erection!