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It seems to me that in most of my relationships, most women seem to wait until it's bedtime to bring up relationship issues. Why is that? From my perspective, we've had all night to talk about things, yet when I'm done for the night, the heavy conversations come up. And because I'm cooked, I'm the asshole for being insensitive because at that point, all I want to do is go to bed (my perspective).

Ladies, please help clarify! Thanks! :smile:
 

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It seems to me that in most of my relationships, most women seem to wait until it's bedtime to bring up relationship issues. Why is that? From my perspective, we've had all night to talk about things, yet when I'm done for the night, the heavy conversations come up. And because I'm cooked, I'm the asshole for being insensitive because at that point, all I want to do is go to bed (my perspective).

Ladies, please help clarify! Thanks! :smile:

Damn, I can't help you here because I used to get pissed at my ex for doing the same thing. He'd wait til like 11 at night, knowing damn well I had to be up at 4 A.M to get ready for work, to start a conversation about things that he really needed to talk about. It drove me Nuts!! He also used to say I was being inconsiderate for saying I needed to just go to sleep and we'll talk about it tomorrow.

I felt bad for doing that, but I had to get some sleep and he had all day to bring it up but waits till we lay down. I'm just as confused as you.
 
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I know personally I would bring up the issues late in the evening only because we had kids and had to wait until they went to bed before we had time to talk with just the two of us but if you have no reason to not bring it up I dont understand why you dont just talk about it when it happens or when it crosses your mind. Could be a way of trying to deflect sex at bedtime. I guess it could be another way of saying I have a headache or just leave me the hell alone, or maybe the make up sex is worth starting a fight at night :)
 

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We do it because we know that right before bed the male brain is receptive to communication from a female. We know you expect us to say "let's get it on," so we shanghai this receptive mood to talk about something important.

OK, that might be a reason, I don't know. But I know I'm guilty of talking about serious matters while heads are on the pillow.
 
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cuz some lady brains are downtown at rush hour. when the streets clear out.. trouble begins.

right before bed she's tucking everything in place, putting together a list of everything she's got to do tomorrow.. and there it is. sitting in the middle of her head... the issue *ominous music goes here*

at first she's all like "fuck it, it's bed time.. i'm tired.. i still need to *list 200 items here*" but... she keeps tripping over that one damn thing. so she really starts looking at it. the Thing *cuz now it's caps worthy* has been there for weeks. she put it away a million times but The Thing is always right there. taking up space distracting her. there is practically a groove worn in the middle of her head where THE THING sits.

she looks over at her mate.. seemingly clueless to the presence of the THE THING!!!

from here on out.. there are just more CAPS, some bolding and yeaps of Cntl- stroke alternate punctuation. point is.. the THING is now everything and must be dealt with at 11:30pm.

at least that's what i imaged going on in my girlie's head when she was up 12:00am, grumbling under her a breath and mind-killing me in a brutal fashion.
 

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We do it because we know that right before bed the male brain is receptive to communication from a female. We know you expect us to say "let's get it on," so we shanghai this receptive mood to talk about something important.

OK, that might be a reason, I don't know. But I know I'm guilty of talking about serious matters while heads are on the pillow.

Bingo. Fact is it's the one time during the day we know we have your full and undivided attention. You're not getting the kitty till we get the answers.
 

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Thanks ladies for the input.

- a36ddd: that I can understand, that after all the other obligations are tended too it's a convenient time to bring it up.

- MickeyLee: What THING are you talking about? I have no clue. Eat, sleep, sex, drink, what other THING could there be? :)

- Mercurygirl: give me the kitty first and I'll talk all you want! Promise!