Well, I love a man who has his own agenda, especially when he is still able to pay attention to me and see that I'm into what he's doing. Since I LOVE very long sessions, the thought of 15 minutes of head-fucking sounds delicious. My lover does this often, sometimes after I've cum several times- it's a good way to take a breather and still stay "connected". I've also been able to orgasm from the clitoral contact, which has not usually been my MO.
My best lover is the one I'm fucking now, but thinking of past lovers, the ones who shine in my memories are the ones who come to the party with a lot of ideas, always eager to please. For most guys, it's a given they they'll get off, so the ones who want me to enjoy it too are the ones who get call-backs. If a guy just has one standard fuck and that's all you're gonna get, THAT'S what I call boring. Oh, and as for kegels- learn them! Men and women can benefit tremendously for the monstrously increased sexual control.
This goes right to the heart of the matter I like to refer to as sexual compatibility. I'm sure there are plenty of women (probably most) who are not into long fuck sessions, but the ones who do will be teary-eyed over finding an exceptional lover.