What works is the guy who fits. Mentally, emotionally and “mostly physically.”
I care more about the physical fit of a hug, and cuddling, there are specific points I prefer to be in when in an embrace. And points that I can’t stand hitting.
So we have to overall fit together.
It’s not a tall v. short thing, either. Too tall partners [such as my beloved ex and beloved current] have taken their toll on my knees, since I have to be on tiptoe, stretched out, in hugs. I have a standard warning that I’m dropping back to my soles. I’ve pulled both off balance enough to cause falls. That’s usually in the learning curve. But, it’s worth it to be in the Golden Hug Zone.
And the hug needs to feel like gathering in, not clinging in a storm...unless we are in a storm, real or metaphorical.
If the bodies fit well, but the genitals are a bit off, I can work around that. Because I select partners who care about mutual satisfaction.