I have been on this site for almost five years and I have just as recently as this evening realized a very important lesson. You can not trust anyone. Feeling shift opinions change and a word spoken in anger or frustration may somewhere down the line morph into a whole new life you never intended it to have. So again no matter how careful you think you are mind the words that you say in public and private. Does anyone else have any thing to say?
And in the long run, the long-term reward of finding the gems out there who handle my trust respecfully, far outweigh the temporary setback of having it betrayed by a DOP.
Somehow, however, I am an optimist. Cynicism about everyone is too great a burden to carry for me.
I hope that you'll eventually realize that the number of disappointments (however much they hurt) is small compared to the number of folks who have proved honorable in the long run. The cost of extending your trust too easily is that you are occasionally let down, but the cost of never extending it is a lifetime without intimacy...
I'll take the pain, myself.
I hope, however, that yours is short and small. (Pain that is. I hope some other things are long and large. )
I hope you know I know how you feel, Naughty, you know? But there are more than a few of us here who value friendships enough to be there when times are tough while others are stamping their feet and pointing.
Keep being yourself, dear. You're indeed dear to us.
I'm not sure, but they could very well be the acts of desperation from a man on the brink. I just hope it doesn't backfire on you, Kim. The current atmosphere doesn't seem conducive to yet another beef-filled thread.
Stay strong.
There are a handful of people here that I feel that I could trust with my home/belongings, but theres a bigger crowd that I wouldn't confide in too much.
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I've noticed, someone I consider quite dear has left and will most likely not be coming back. :frown1:I don't know the details, but Im guessing somebody said something that didn't sit right. People that have to "dig" are not happy with their own lives, therefore they prey on making other people feel as miserable as they are.
I've learned to refrain from wearing my heart on my sleeve in here, and i would recommend that advice to anyone. I think we all get too deeply involved with the site, and lose touch of what it really is, just a chat site. But, I will say that the site has changed, and not for the better. There seems to be an influx of bullshitters running about, and lurkers that are only here to dig. OMG! From late April on it has been as if someone hung signs worldwide that said please troll LPSG.org There's a lot of people that have left, And not because of the Big D issue either.
of all the boards i have been on, i find the crowd here to be the most unforgiving. once you piss someone off, you are done, no matter who is wrong. I've noticed that as well but honestly have not enough experience with other boards to make a fair comparison.
on the flip side, there are some terribly interesting and smart people here. i miss the "old crowd" but am starting to feel like the influx of new peeps is not a bad thing. slowly, but surely. i try to keep in mind something dr rock said once. "it's just the internet". it works most of the time, but not always. I feel that way about Ford's but not the internet. :biggrin1:
don't sweat it, naughty. but agree. less info provided to others is better. it seems to always leak out. practice that in the future. It's the intentional vindictive using of information against someone that really bothers me.
I've never been hurt by anything that's happened on the net because I always keep in mind something I think is very important - no matter how deeply you think you know someone they're a stranger. You could pass the person you've spoken to every night for a month in the street and you probably wouldn't realise. I understand what you are saying and I can agree with you on a cerebral level. But I'm not wired like that. I am a highly emotional and passionate person I don't do anything halfway.I hope you know I know how you feel, Naughty, you know? But there are more than a few of us here who value friendships enough to be there when times are tough while others are stamping their feet and pointing.Agreed!Keep being yourself, dear. You're indeed dear to us.
]*snip*I thank everyone for their kind words. It has been a learning experience in that it teaches me to be the woman who I want others to be to me. Internet or no internet. We are all real people with real feelings. So true! The thing that bothers me about the internet is that people think that because it's virtual and not real life it gives them carte blanche to act like vitriolic satan's spawn. It does not. [/font]
Before I said goodbye in March, I was chatting with Sam about something like this. I'm one of those people who takes the web world as seriously as the physical world. Yes, i know we all are nicks on a screen, but behind that screen we are persons, and as persons we are just trying to relate, share and communicate. Just like in the physical world.Very well stated, and bolded for emphasis. I am so glad you've come back to us knockernail.I don't think we should use different codes here. We get upset and dissapointed as we do in real life. We get hurt and we hurt as we do in real life. And we keep on going ahead as we always do. Time is the only factor you can use to make sure you can trust in someone. Anyway, you have the right to feel that way, but you have not the right to get away from us :tongue: :redface: .
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Naughty, I have no idea what circumstance you find yourself in, but you mustn't stop trusting. And I know you won't, because it seems to be your default offering.Quoted for emphasis.Have you ever gone into a chat room and found someone to chat with and then go back over the coming days only to find that they dont chat anymore and find that No one wants to chat with you??? taking into consideration that they have never met you or seen you , only chatted.....and now you are alone. why is that??? first impressions??? No, never. :redface: