"Okay, this dance ain't for everybody just the sexy people." Morris Day & the Time. No seriously; I noticed there are quit a few threads that have str8 guys questioning their own sexuality or even their masculinity because they hang out on this sight. Got me to wondering; outside of the actual man on man sexual acts, how would you define a Homosexual? Personally, I know what being gay is, but I have a hard time defining it outside of the sexual acts myself. But that doesn't make me a novice by any means. I mean I passed for str8 to 99.9% of the people in my life until i was 35 and chose to come out. I even had a hard time then convincing my gay friends that I really was gay because I didn't seem to give of any blips on their "gaydar". Nevertheless, I knew who i was and i was ready to let everyone else know. But defining it verbally? Well, that would be tougher than you think and I am gay. So it obviously makes me wonder how bisexual and str8 guys define gay outside of the sexual acts.