Always pleasurable or sometimes painful?
Well I wouldn't say that simply being hard is physically pleasureable; it just is what it is, a boner. But there
can be times where it
is painful. If I'm with a girl that I'm really turned on by (generally if there's a strong emotional connection), the boner will be so hard that it'll hurt if it's not being taken care of.
If it's not being physically attended to by her, if it's just sitting there, hard, not doing anything, it'll being extremely physically uncomfortable and it'll really hurt. It's like it's trying to get harder, trying to reach some higher state of hardness even though it's already maxed out. It feels like it's so hard, and trying to get so much harder, that something is going to burst, or break if something doesn't happen - either getting taken care of, or becoming unaroused, though the former is definitely preferable :wink:. When it gets to this point, I'm constantly thinking: "Do something damnit! You've made me so hard it hurts! Blow me, whack me, fuck me, do something!"
I guess it's distantly related to what having a maximally contracted muscle that you can't uncontract is like (note: not a cramp); though definitely not the same thing.
99% of the time when I'm solo, I don't get hard enough for this to happen. I have to actually be with someone, and the stronger the connection is, the harder and more physically painful the boner will be if it's not getting attention.
Not that I'm saying I need any kind of emotional connection to have sex with a hot girl, mind you :wink:. I'll get way more than hard and aroused enough to get it on. It's just that the emotional connection (which totally isn't a requirement!) brings a whole new level to being hard.