Letting Go Of Your Appearance After Being In A Committed Relationship

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A lot of woman let themselves go after they settle down. Is it ok for a hot wife/gf to continue to dress sexy/slutty while they are tied down? or should she tone it down?
Oh honey man do the same.. but only straight man.. gay married man are different .. I’ll not let my husband get him self go and get at out shape because he is married to me ... and he feels the same about me.. we still working out even in the middle of a pandemic ..!
 
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A lot of woman let themselves go after they settle down. Is it ok for a hot wife/gf to continue to dress sexy/slutty while they are tied down? or should she tone it down?
I think it is normal to not be in quite as good of shape as a person was when they get in a committed relationship. I do not think it is normal or even ok to completely let oneself go. Priorities change as we get older, or are at different stages in life, when I worked in a gym, I spent a lot more time working out, when I was single, I rarely ate out and spent my nights in the gym (even if I had already went) rather than spend them at bars/clubs or watching TV. I worked at a gym with a very social dynamic, so it was like seeing my friends all day. Years later I’m in a different state, the gyms here are different, I no longer work in a gym, and I like to go on date nights with my wife, or sit back and watch a movie or TV show. We still work out, but not as rigorously. She used to work 3 days a week and would spend 3-4 hours a day in the gym on her days off, because she liked it, now she works 5 days a week. Most people still consider us “in shape” but we both know we are not in the same shape as when we were single.

As far as still dressing sexy/slutty, it depends on several factors. I think if that’s how one likes to dress, and a person met a someone while they dressed like that, and were partially attracted to them because they dressed like that, the. They shouldn’t want the other person to change. My friend was dating a model, he was completely enamored by her and as they got more serious, he was trying to get her to do less provocative photo shoots (and trust me, they were PG13 at worst). I told him that what partially attracted him to her were some of those pics, that’s what she does for a living, you can’t meet someone and then tell them to stop being who they are. I said it would be different if you met her and fell in love with her and she was super conservative in how she dressed and then all of a sudden started dressing really revealing, in that case, you would need to talk to her to see why she all of a sudden feels the need to dress differently.
 

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A lot of woman let themselves go after they settle down. Is it ok for a hot wife/gf to continue to dress sexy/slutty while they are tied down? or should she tone it down?

I prefer her to keep fit and be a visual Gucci and Van Cleef & Arpels in public. In private she can let her sexual libido run amok and dress sexy/slutty. However we're not really into any tied down action. (LOL)

acb4687: Since you restrict private conversations may I say the following? I believe other hetero men here may agree with me. Your photos are g-d magnificent!
 

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As far as "letting yourself go," it's important to prioritize your health, and whatever your partner's tastes are, so long as you're not being objectified against your will. But know that time and genetics will have their say regardless.
 

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A lot of woman let themselves go after they settle down. Is it ok for a hot wife/gf to continue to dress sexy/slutty while they are tied down? or should she tone it down?
I think that's called getting old, isn't it?

And anyway, I can think of a dozen fat, slovenly, poorly dressed hubbies to balance out your rather unequal equation, OP