Life as a grower....(growers only)

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I'm a grower but just like with my erections, my flaccid state varies. Somedays I can have a big softy going. Other times, like after doing heavy squats, deadlifts or getting out of the pool - I'm barely there. A buddy of mine I work out with is the same way. He calls it squatcock: When you are super small because there is no blood in your dick; such as after heavy squats.

One of the first girls I had sex with saw my dick when it was flaccid (having only seen it erect previously) and commented on how little it looked. Boy did that ever help a young teens self-esteem.....
 

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I wouldn't self-identify as a "grower" simply because under normal circumstances, I'm on the high end when flaccid, but I definitely identify with the major shrinkage during anxiety and the "If I'm feeling good, so is my penis" remark of the OP.
It's sort of a vicious cycle. If I'm feeling worked up/angry/depressed/anxious/etc. it shrinks back in, and then I'm not even comfortable being naked around my own girlfriend. That makes me feel even more anxious, and then I'll never relax. Worst part is, cuddling naked with someone I love is probably the #1 most relaxing thing I can think of, but my own neuroses get in the way.
 

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Grower here, and it's always sort of bugged me. I'll admit to "fluffing" in the bathroom stall before heading to the showers at the gym. One of the reasons I like the steam room is the heat helps me hang more like I want to. I know realistically that it doesn't matter what my flaccid size is, and my erect size is quite nice--about 7x6. Even so, I wish I hung a bit more consistently.

The one thing I have found that helps the most is deep breathing and relaxation, along with a warm environment. I shrink up when nervous and cold, and hang longer when relaxed and warm. I like my flaccid size best right after a good massage and a warm shower.
 

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I feel the same way as the previous posters. I wonder if being a grower correlates with being more nuerotic/nervous/anxious?

Maybe showers are just more relaxed than us. Or maybe they are more relaxed because they are showers. Sort of a chicken and the egg thing.
 

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I'm pretty sure I would feel more confident if I was 6x5 soft and my same size hard, but just knowing that if I was seen accidently that I wouldn't be shortchanged would be nice.
 

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On most days I'm around 4 inches flaccid (maybe 5 on a good day) but I rarely ever notice it for it to bother me. I know I have big cock from the view of most people so if anyone were to ever comment on it looking small I'd offer to show them. Or pull out my phone :)
 

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Cocks are designed to be growers. I am 7.5-7.75 inches when I have a raging hard on but look very average when soft.

I wouldn't want to walk around with a 7 plus inch softee for example. That would be uncomfortable and impractical.

We are supposed to be smaller when soft.
 

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Cocks are designed to be growers.(respectfully snipped)
We are supposed to be smaller when soft.
Indeed! I think it's a sign of a good healthy penis. It should inflate and deflate easily and have good circulation. If someone's dick were genuinely always "half full" in its non-aroused state, for some reason I'd probably have doubts about its erection quality when hard, but I guess there are always exceptions.

Crunch
 

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Cocks are designed to be growers...

...We are supposed to be smaller when soft.

This makes good sense.
Imagine trying to run after animals and hunt them down with a huge 7 inch softy and lemon-sized balls flopping all over the place.
Especially if they hadn't invented underwear yet.
You'd probably be the shittiest hunter in the tribe.
 

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That's exactly right gentlemen. It is much more practical to have a small-average sized flaccid penis.

It is supposed to get erect when ready for sex in whatever form and then go back to its smaller state again afterwards. That's nature at its finest.

Unfortunately,the alpha male lockeroom culture makes many men think otherwise and doubt themselves while in a flaccid state.
 

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I think a big soft cock is much more arousing to females. They KNOW the guy is big, and could never mistake him for small. And it makes it more fun for getting girls to check out ur big bulge
 

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I think a big soft cock is much more arousing to females. They KNOW the guy is big, and could never mistake him for small. And it makes it more fun for getting girls to check out ur big bulge

Just cos a guy has a big flacid dosnt mean he is going to be big erect it could just be average.But yeah if hes big flacid he is never going to be small erect
 

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I definitely fit into the category of a grower. As a former competitive swimmer, I would be a bit embarrassed changing, as after a couple of hours in a cold pool I would be no bigger than my thumb. However, erect I am about 7.5" by 5.5"---not thick, but long enough that I often have to slow down a bit for most women. I have since stopped caring about it when in it's ultra flaccid state, as that is not what is seen in the bedroom.
 

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For anyone worried about what it looks like in the showers at the gym , just give it abit of a tug to give yourself a 1/4 erection, 90% of guys do it anyway which is why most guys always seem biggish lol
 

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For anyone worried about what it looks like in the showers at the gym , just give it abit of a tug to give yourself a 1/4 erection, 90% of guys do it anyway which is why most guys always seem biggish lol

Yeah but if ur stressed out about the situation it probably wont grow
 

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I know exactly how you feel, While my erection isn't 9 inches it is a respectable 7 inches but while flaccid it is very small. Not only do I feel self concious about a woman seeing my flaccid penis, but also in locker rooms. First pic flaccid short thin shaft with a tiny head covered by foreskin, next pic erect 7 inches foreskin retracted showing mushroom head.

Nice genital warts
 

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There are times I wish I was a shower vs. a grower. I've always been a nudist and a swinger and at times felt I fell a little short while walking around soft. But in my experiences I've noticed, and been told my many women, that most showers don't really get much larger when erect. Not to mention every woman I've been with has liked watching the little guy grow up!!!